'My manager is now literally stalking me': Boss sends worker to knock on colleague's door after they didn't reply to an email

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JR Atkinson • Writer and Editor
Jul 16, 2024 1:00 PM EDT

Sometimes replying to an email is the last thing you want to do. Sometimes the thought of clicking the reply button, opening up a new message, and beginning to type seems like the least desirable task in the world. And everyone has a different timeline of when they'd like you to respond. Some people are keyboard warriors, on their phones, computers, and tablets at all times ready to strike. These people scare me. They will get back to you within a minute, which is nice when you're waiting to hear about something, but terrifying once you realize they expect the same from you. 

I prefer a gentler mode of communication. Let's pretend it's the 18th century and it takes days to get a letter back and forth. That I can handle. And certainly don't show up to my apartment and knock on the door asking me to respond. But that's what happened to one worker after she went on vacation. Read on for the story.

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    WELCOME
    via Andrew Neel
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    My manager sent a colleague to show up outside my house when I didn't answer an email.
    via u/unexistinguniverse
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    I swear this is real and I am not making this up. So, I work for a private education company on a part time basis, 3 days a week. On 17th May, my manager asked me to second mark a set of exams by another teacher. I agreed, with the assumption that the papers were ready to be second marked that week.
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    The other teacher did not submit the exams in that month. They only submitted it on 8th July, the last week of the academic year. We had a bunch of trainings happening that week. I explained to my manager that I will not be able to mark these exams with such little time. She said I come in on my non-working days. I said I can't as I have my own side business that I run on those days. Essentially another job.
    via u/unexistinguniverse
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    So, I didn't check my emails. Today, I took my annual leave. My manager was calling me on my phone, but I didn't answer as I was getting on a plane with my partner for our holiday. Wasn't looking at my emails either obviously.
    via u/unexistinguniverse
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    I get a message from my neighbour, saying there is some lady standing on our door knocking constantly. We were not expecting any deliveries and all of our friends and family know we are abroad. So, I asked my neighbour to take a picture of the person.
    via u/unexistinguniverse
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    To my shock, the person in the picture was my colleague. I was really confused because I am not friends with any of my colleagues that I would share my house address with them. So, I go into my emails to contact HR about this and find an email from my manager that as I am not responding to phone calls or emails, she sent a colleague over to my home to talk to me in person about this 'urgent task.'
    via u/unexistinguniverse
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    My manager is now literally stalking me in my own property. I have emailed HR about this. I would take legal action but we don't earn enough money to be able to pay legal fees.
    via u/unexistinguniverse
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    slowd 3 hr. ago You've got to escalate higher if it's a big company. Giving out personal details (address) to a coworker is out of line, and opens the company to liability.
    via u/slowd
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    hypotheticalkazoos • 3 hr. ago on the phone with police: "my neighbor said there was someone banging on my door and creating a disturbance. i am not expecting anyone and away from my home" would escalate the issue. but would discourage repeats.
    via u/hypotheticalkazoos
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    AlternativeAd7151 3 hr. ago • HR is not your friend. Tell the police he's trespassing.
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    unearthednj⚫ 2 hr. ago This happened to me as well. Had a tooth emergency, called to call out and got no answer. Sent a text to my manager and got no answer. Had the tooth extracted and while laying in bed with my mouth full of gauze I heard a knock at the door.
    via u/unearthednj
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    I open the door to a coworker asking me what's going on. The manager sent him to my house because I "no call, no showed"
    via u/unearthednj
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    This person did not know where I lived and was given my address by said manager and told to go see what was going on. It blew my mind. I was younger and just accepted it.
    via u/unearthednj
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    kscannon 3 hr. ago Tell HR. Someone coming to your door and knocking is not trespassing. That falls under normal society. If you tell them to leave and they don't, that falls under trespassing.
    via u/kscannon
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    Your manager gave out your address and sent a coworker to your home. That is a work place issue/civil matter. HR will not be happy with your manager for giving out that info. Also contact your union/cc them on the way email to HR.
    via u/kscannon
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    R-Dragon_Thunderzord. 1 hr. ago "I can't afford a lawyer" is not a reason not to speak to a lawyer. Lawyers work on contingency too. Free consultation exists. If you think you need a lawyer, talk to a lawyer.
    via u/R-Dragon_Thunderzord
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    • Kayanarka 41 min. ago I mean, to be honest, this is how about 75% of the dead people are discovered on Law and Order: "We had not heard from them, they are always to work on time, so we stopped to check on them, and we could see them lying on the floor in there."
    via u/Kayanarka

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