Wedding Called Off And Friendship Destroyed After Woman Warns Her Best Friend's Fiancé That the Child Is Not His

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    TWO TAKE r/TwoHotTakes u/No-Bit3854 • 2d AITA for Telling My Best Friend's Fiancé Their Child Isn't His Right Before the Wedding?
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    I'm in a really difficult situation and need some unbiased opinions. Here's the story: I've been best friends with Emily (28F) since we were kids. We've been through everything together. Recently, she got engaged to Mark (30M). They have a 2-year-old son, Jack, who Mark believes is his. Emily and Mark's wedding was just a week away when I found myself in a terrible dilemma.
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    About a month ago, Emily confided in me after a few too many drinks that Jack isn't actually Mark's son. She had a brief fling with another guy around the time she conceived but decided to keep it a secret. I was shocked but didn't know what to do with this information. It ate at me every day.
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    Fast forward to the week of the wedding. My conscience wouldn't let me stay silent. I felt that Mark deserved to know the truth before making such a huge commitment. So, I decided to tell him. I met him privately and told him everything. As expected, he was devastated. He confronted Emily, and things blew up. They called off the wedding and have since separated.
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    Emily is furious with me. She accused me of lying to sabotage her happiness, claiming I'm secretly in love with Mark and wanted to drive them apart. This couldn't be further from the truth, but now our friendship is in shambles. Some of our mutual friends are also angry at me, saying I should have stayed out of it.
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    I truly believed I was doing the right thing by being honest with Mark, but now I'm questioning my actions. Did I overstep? Should I have kept Emily's secret and let them get married? AITA for telling my best friend's fiancé that their child isn't his and causing their wedding to be called off? ◇ 790 313
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    britgun • 2d NTA - but you had to know going into it that she was no longer going to be your best friend Reply 1.3k
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    NTA SailSweet9929 • 2d But she will never again be your friend You did the right thing not only for the ex but also for the kid as he was going to live a lie a his life 205 32 more replies
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    Profreadsalot • 2d Exactly. Paternity fraud is disgusting. As it is, unless he can get the other man to come in at this point, he may be on the hook for child support until the child is eighteen. Things happen in relationships, but staying together after infidelity, not to mention supporting and nurturing someone else's biological child who is the result of that infidelity, should be a choice, not a con. With the number of times I've seen this in reality, I'm surprised that guys are still signin
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    Poppypie77 • 2d You did the right thing. There are so many stories where teenagers or young adults find out their dad isn't their bio dad, and it tears the family apart. The fathers feel betrayed and used and manipulated- rightfully so. They've financially provided for a child who isn't there's for probably 21 years of their life, living expenses and clothes and food and driving lessons and college fees and uni fees etc. Plus they've deeply loved that child and formed a bond with their child. So
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    the mother till he's older, he may not be in a position to meet someone else and start a family with them later in life. So it can also deprive someone of biological children they'd always dreamed of. And for some fathers and children, that bond remains and they continue as father and child. But for some, it's too much to cope with, for multiple reasons, and that bond and relationship is ruined. (Such as if child searches and forms a bond with their bio dad etc).
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    So it's really unfair to knowingly deceive a partner or husband into believing it's their child, and making them financially provide for a child that's not theirs, all because they know the bio dad would likely be a deadbeat and not provide, or they regret their casual fling. He had a right to know before getting even more emotionally and financially invested in that child's life, and before he was tied to his lying cheating fiance.
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    It was obvious it would destroy the friendship, as she hadn't asked you to tell him for her. It was obvious she wouldn't be happy for you to spill her secret so the friendship breaking up was to be expected. But you did the right thing. And I'd say to any friends who are criticising you that there are certain things that people have a right to know about before being legally tied to a person, and I'm sure they'd be if they were in his position and lied to and manipulated into being the financial
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    a right to make an informed decision on whether he wants to be the father in that child's life knowing its not his. He shouldn't be deceived into doing it. And he also had a right to know she cheated and lied about something so huge, it's a major red flag for their relationship to be based on 2 huge lies, and anyone in his shoes would want to know the truth, and deserves it. If they condone lying and cheating and using and manipulation, then they are just as bad as her. And I wouldn't want to be
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    Delicious_Impact_371 • 2d you did the right thing for mark 100%. but she probably won't ever talk to u ever again lol. that's a given and frankly anybody who thinks someone should get stuck raising another persons child thinking it's theirs is a POS. she not only cheated but she made him responsible for another man's kid unknowingly. NTA ← Reply 360
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    swissmtndog398 • 2d Yep. Think about it this way. If she was lying that easily to her would be husband, what had she lied to you about? People tell tipu who they are. Let them. NTA ← ↑ 80 ↓
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    writekindofnonsense. 2d I see you are getting a lot of from the people in your life so you decided to come to reddit for some of that sweet sweet validation. Girl. Own what you did. You didn't trip and fall and ruin a relationship and your friendship. You went in eyes clear and made a choice. Whether it was the right thing to do is irrelevant because it's done now. Hearts are broken, a child is fatherless and money for a wedding is lost along with your life long friendship, but a man isn't tied
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    Newest Account2023. 2d Your "friends" telling you to stay out of it would never tell you if one of them was your husband. That's who they are, they don't have the same morals you do Reply 15
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    PileaPrairiemioides • 2d The only way you misstepped in my opinion was not talking to Emily first when she was sober. She made this your business when she told you her terrible secret and put you in the position of keeping the secret for her. I think it would have been wise and would have shifted some people's attitudes about this if you had talked to her while she was sober, told her you were not okay with keeping this secret for her and being complicit in her lie, and given her a chance to tel
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    Unreasonable-Skirt • 2d Kind of a move your wait until a week before the wedding. Also, did you talk to your friend about telling him herself what she did and let her have a chance of fixing her relationship by coming clean, or did you just decide to blow up the relationship? Reply ↑ 9 ↓

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