Woman Finds Wedding Shaming Facebook Post Written by Her Maid of Honor Days Before the Wedding, Wants to Kick Her From the Bridal Party After the Public Slander

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Lana DeGaetano • "Show me to me please."
Jul 30, 2024 9:00 PM EDT

I thought MOHs were supposed to like the bride.

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  • A bride's wedding is one of the most special moments in her life. Everything has to be perfect: the extravagant floral setup, the perfect playlist, and her best gal pals by her side letting her know they have her back. Picking a devoted Maid of Honor should not be a difficult task; every lady has an idea of which of her best friends will absolutely devour the duties that come along with the role. Emergency Liquid IV the morning of the ceremony? She's on it. Another lady in a dress that is too close to white? She's there with a full glass of red ready to get clumsy. Oops! That's my mistake, I guess you'll have to change! Whether you're a chill bride or the ultimate Bridezilla, MOHs have your back.

    What if your MOH is not as loyal as you think? The bride-to-be in this story has unfortunately come across a wedding shaming page on Facebook, starring a post written by her best friend and trusted Maid of Honor. She expresses that the bride is cheap, taking advantage of the bridal party's devotion, being selfish, and “working them to the bone”. The bride-to-be states that she doesn't think she even fits into the category of a Bridezilla and is unsure of how to tell the MOH (and friend of 15 years) that she is no longer part of the wedding, or her life. Ladies, the titles of “best friend” and “Maid of Honor” are meaningless if they don't treat you with the respect you deserve. Don't settle for anything that might ruin your special day. Women in the comments are coming in hot with words of wisdom and empowerment — exactly what the bride needs as her wedding is only a few days away.

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    AIO - Kicking my maid of honour out of my wedding that's a few days away
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    Im so upset about this and not thinking clearly, so I'm hoping to get some unbiased opinions before I potentially blow up a 10+ yr friendship. Am I overreacting to this?
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    I'm getting married this weekend and my best friend is my MOH. I also have 4 other girls in my wedding party as bridesmaids. Last night I came across a post on a wedding shaming Facebook group that was made by my best friend and MOH, basically
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    trashing me as a person and my entire wedding. It's a private group so I don't think she ever expected me to be a member and was hoping for some anonymous venting. But what I saw is devastating and hurtful. And now I'm questioning everything.
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    To summarize, she called me cheap (amongst other names) and is accusing me of taking advantage of my bridal party, asking selfish favours, working them to the bone, etc. in an
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    attempt to save money. She also insulted my fiancé and belittled his career. The tone of the post is that of absolute loathing. It's filled with resentment and I'm questioning if she even likes me now?
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    I have asked my bridal party to do a few things but I absolutely do NOT think I've been a bridezilla in any way, shape or form (but please correct me if you think otherwise). I've tried my best to take their feelings into consideration. I have not asked
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    them to pay for anything (I am covering the cost of their hair, makeup, dresses, even a private hotel room for each person on the day of the wedding). They were all given plus ones. We all split the cost of the bachelorette trip equally.
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    She's been acting distant with me lately and I assumed it was because she was just busy or something. But seeing what she said about me, I now know it's because she's thinking these awful thoughts about me and my
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    wedding. The problem is, I don't think I can have here up there with me anymore. I can't have my MOH be someone who says these things about me. I can no longer trust her to give a speech (what will she even say??.)
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    I think I'm going to send her screenshots of her post in the Facebook group and ask her not to attend my wedding. But we've been friends for close to 15 years so maybe I should just let it go and slowly phase her out of my life.
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    So Reddit, would I be overreacting if I confronted her and kicked her out of my wedding that's a few days away?
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    SeaworthinessFu... 15h ago Honestly. Screenshot the post and text it to her. I would simply say "I'm sorry you feel this way about me, my fiancé, and my wedding. I truly do love you as my best friend, but I can see you don't feel the same way about me. I wish you well in love and life..."
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    It's so close to the wedding that you don't want anything to overshadow it. She can't come. You'll going to be sad without her, but it'll be waaaayy worse if she is there. And who would want her in the photos?! Saying a speech?!Nope, she's not your friend. Now she's simply someone you used to know.
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    Unepetiteveggie . 17h ago It doesn't matter if what she said is true or not, it doesn't even really matter if you are a bridezilla. A MoH is someone that respects your marriage and helps you through your marriage, they sign on as your biggest cheerleader. If you truly are a bridezilla (which I don't think you are),
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    your bridesmaids might roll their eyes but a MOH is a ride or and they are gonna be a zilla with ya. This girl doesn't actually like you, that's the real problem.
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    • Thick_Ad6270 12h ago Send her the screenshots and tell her how sorry you are she feels that way, but it your special day and you do not want her ruining it for you and your fiancé. Thank her for the years of friendship, but you no longer want her in your life. Just the fact that she belittled your finance and his career is enough to end it! Good Luck UpdateMe!
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    Huffster29 12h ago The way she was willing to bash you online and even dig at your fiancé is a big tell as to what she really thinks about you not overreacting at all, that was disrespectful af. If she respected you and is your best friend, that post wouldn't exist -- plain and simple.
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    Beneficial_Touris... . 12h ago You are not overreacting. I think you need to talk to her before the wedding and before you decide if you want to tell her not to come, but I think you need to have that conversation in person.
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    Your best friend shouldn't be bashing you. Not in person. Not to other people. Not online. If she needs to vent, then she should vent to her therapist, someone sworn to confidentiality and can help her work through those feelings and regulate her emotions. This is not the behavior of a best friend of 15 years.
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    Those hurtful words were clearly not for your eyes, and now they will be etched into your memory. And I'm so, so sorry it happened at all, but especially sorry that it happened right before your wedding when your energy is better spent focusing on you and your fiancé.
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