Woman Rejects Marriage Proposal on Vacation After She’s Repeatedly Told Him She Doesn’t Want to Be Married, She Packs Her Bags

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    r/AITAH 1 day ago Extension-Past-2334 I ruined a vacation because I said no when my partner asked me to marry him AITAH
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    My now ex partner, asked me to marry him even though I told him that I don't ever want to get married again. There's not really much to this story because the title explains it but, I f42 have talked multiple times with my partner m43 about this topic. I told him that I never want to get married and it's not about him but it's just the fact that I see no
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    point in it. I was married once and had a horrible divorce when my ex tried to take away our daughter and more. Basically, I decided I never want to bound to anyone is that way, it's easier to just break up then to divorce. My partner isn't really happy with this and he asked me multiple times what would change my mind and
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    do I just not want to marry him. These questions started to infuriate me and would lead to arguments because I said it million times. Last time we had an argument was at beginning of July when he started that topic again and I told him that I think we need to stop this relationship because it's obvious we don't agree in it. I made a big deal
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    about it and my daughter and his kids were mad at me because I wanted to break up but he didn't.
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    I decided to stay and I was finally convinced we were done with this topic and that he agreed to just continue living together until we went on vacation last week to Greece and for some reason he asked me to marry him. It made me so mad. I seriously didn't know if I wanted to cry or scream. He asked me this in front of my
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    daughter and his kids and it made it even worse. I said no and went back to the room. They stayed behind and probably talked about me but now I realised that not marrying him was a good choice because even though I said no multiple times before he thought that if he pressured me, on vacation, at public place and in front of the
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    kids, that I would feel obligated to say yes. I packed my bags and told my daughter to do the same. She was mad at me but she will get over it. So we came back from the trip only 2 days after we arrived. I don't want to continue this relationship because I feel disrespected and disgusted by the way he thinks. Yikes and I
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    personally don't think I'm an ahole and this is more of a rant but I guess you tell me.
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    EDIT: i never knew this would get so many comments and for people who agree with me, thank you. Little add to this, many people mentioning that my past relationship is the reason I don't want to marry but no it's not, I don't even think about my first failed marriage and it's irrelevant.
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    I just don't want to get married again because it doesn't feel special or important anymore. Besides that since I left from vacation last week he sent me multiple messages accusing me of cheating and that being the reason I don't want to get married. He called me some shameful names so that tells me
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    enough about how much he really loved me or cared. Safe to say this relationship is completely over.
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    Basically now he is still calling me and sending messages but saying he's sorry for calling me a and saying I'm cheating on him. He's again saying it doesn't matter that I don't want to get married and that we shouldn't break up. I know this isn't true because he said it before too and yeah I guess this is last edit.
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    Stop mentioning the previous divorce I only mentioned it so say that I was married once so it's not like this is something new to me and I'm scared or whatever. It's as simple as that, I don't want to marry him or anyone for whatever tf reason. I loved him but now I hate him because he's a lying idiot who
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    keeps insisting he is fine with not being married and then talks about it all the time. I don't CARE Thank you for commenting and sharing opinions.
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    HungryJellyfishABC 1d ago NTA But I think you explain to your daughter about why you said no and left. Tell her that you explained repeatedly that you didn't. want marriage for an extended time and that your
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    now-ex was pushy and then. ignored your wishes. Explain. that that is not a healthy relationship where people aren't listening or respecting each other. This could be an important lesson on what is a healthy relationship for her.
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    Itchy_Lingonberry... 1d ago • You were honest about marriage from the beginning and he chose to ignore everything you told him. NTA
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    EddieSevenson • 1d ago "He asked me this in front of my daughter and his kids and it made it even worse." This is a total move. Really just unforgivably manipulative. You are definitely NTA
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    Global-Fact7752 • 1d ago NTAH...not your fault! you were very up front with him. It's not your fault he chose to do that again. You did NOT ruin the vacation so stop that. If anyone ruined it.. it was him. And as long as I'm on a roll..one more thing..pulling that stunt in
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    front of the kids was very manipulative. I would really rethink this relationship. One more thing I've been. married twice...don't Do it!
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    Adorable Stable883 • 1d ago I have always felt that a public proposal is an abomination. Unless you have talked this through as a couple and you are absolutely certain what the answer will be (i.e. it really isn't a question), no one has the right to ask this question publicly.,
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    In this case, your partner could be absolutely certain that in private your answer would be "no". Given that, for him to ask you to marry him in front of your collected children is a severe breach of trust, and your reaction is absolutely justified. ΝΤΑ

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