Couple Bans Anyone Under 21 From Their Wedding, Including Groom's Adult Brother, Tearing A Rift Between the Siblings

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    r/AITAH u/PreviousIndividual13 • 1d AITAH for not going out to eat to celebrate my brothers wedding when I wasn't even invited to his wedding?
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    I'm 19 (M). My brother got married exactly 16 days ago, but I wasn't invited because of my age. His wife decided it would be inappropriate to have anyone under 21 at their wedding since they would be serving alcohol and didn't want any "minors" to get drunk at their wedding. I thought this was a and excuse, but that's what they told me, that's what they're sticking to.
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    I was 18 when they told me, and I was kind of hurt by this because I didn't see why I had to be uninvited. It's not like I have an alcohol addiction. I drink sometimes, but that's a rarity. I asked them to reconsider a couple of times and they refused everytime. I could tell they were getting aggravated after a while so I just stopped complaining and stopped caring about their wedding in general.
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    Last Saturday, my brother wanted everyone in our family to go out and eat with him to celebrate their wedding. I refused to go. When asked why, I gave everyone the same answer: I didn't see the need to celebrate something I wasn't even invited to. At the time, my parents didn't say much and kind of respected my decision until my brother and his wife got upset at dinner when they realized I wasn't there. I had already TOLD them I wasn't going to go, so I have no idea why they expected me to show
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    After the dinner, my brother and his wife both texted me, saying they were upset that I couldn't spare some time so the whole family could be there to celebrate with them. My parents are trying to remain neutral, but I think they believe I'm wrong. They told me they see why I didn't go but that it wouldn't have hurt me to go and celebrate with my brother, especially since I wasn't the only one not invited on our side.
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    They were referring to my cousins (13F and 15M). They did go to the dinner but they didn't really have a choice in whether they wanted to or not. I also wasn't the only one who didn't attend, I just don't think they think my reasons weren't valid enough. 15.6k 4,022 DD
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    Katja1236 • 1d "Sorry, I understood the celebration was for family, and I am apparently too young to be included in your family. Besides, the restaurant served alcohol, and of course you can't possibly allow a minor in a place that serves alcohol lest I completely lose control and drink myself silly as I have never done in my life even without your supervision." NTA Reply 5 8.2k
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    Fresh Caramel8148 • 1d lol. This should be the reply "they serve alcohol and out of respect for your wife and her concerns of a 19 year old drinking, i felt it best i don't come". Turn it back on them... 3.6k
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    Conscious-Survey7009. 1d And in the future don't let them drop their spawn on him to babysit because he's fah- muh-lee! 983
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    No_Mycologist8083. 1d "It's ok, brother, I'll come to your next wedding." NTA Reply 12k
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    Ortsarecool • 1d lol OK. This is the one. I thought some of the other responses were good, but this is definitely my favourite. 241
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    Deus_Vult666. 1d with all due respect, you brother's a jerk for allowing this behavior and his wife is acting with such stupidity Not to mention, you were 18, you were not a minor. not only was she being stupid with this decision, the assumption that you would come and get drunk at your brother's wedding is straight up disrespectful. i'd be disappointed with my brother I get amazed sometimes how in american culture there are those 3 years where being entrusted with a gun is acceptable and encour
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    Usual-Canary-7764 • 1d He does not need to worry about what anyone thinks...just stick to 'no'. Also it is funny how he was too young to attend the wedding because alcohol would be served but he is suddenly old enough to go for a dinner at a restaurant in celebration of the same wedding WHERE ALCOHOL WILL BE SERVED!!!!! D 1.8k
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    Mander_Em 1d Came here to say this. From now forward, any time brother asks OP if he wants to do something OPs answer should be "will there be alcohol there?" If bro say yes, "do you think I can be trusted?" Like this should play out well into their 40's+.
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    I understand childless weddings. I understand concerns about illegal drinking. I will NEVER understand excluding immediate family members due to age, unless they are an infant. And childless weddings should be like 12 and under in my mind. Kids 13 and up are usually not hard to handle. But I also come from a family-before-all-else kind of family do no one is excluded ever. I can't imagine being so stuck up that you don't want to celebrate with the kids too. ☆ 491
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    SnoopyisCute • 1d Exactly! Bars at receptions are the same as bars anywhere else. Bartenders know NOT to serve minors. 363 MzzBlaze 1d We're generally terrified to do so, it's a huge huge fine if caught. ... ← 185
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    foxynaomi ⚫ 1d his brother is being unreasonable and enabling his wife's controlling behavior. You're an adult and it's. ridiculous that they're treating you like a child, especially at your own brother's wedding. The assumption that you'd get drunk and cause a scene is insulting and shows a lack of respect for you. 598
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    NTA Used_Mark_7911 • 1d It was rude, hurtful, and silly of them not to invite you. I also think it's kind of ridiculous that they had a follow-up dinner to celebrate their wedding and demanded everybody attend. Who does that? Their actual wedding and reception weren't enough? I feel like they need to be the center of attention all the time. Are your brother or SIL is very jealous and competitive with you? Their behavior is so weird. Reply 1.3k
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    PinAccomplished 3452. 1d My sister-in-law did not invite our family to her wedding. My daughter was pretty offended. SIL's reason was that she had a limit on the number of guests (for a beach wedding). She later had a "wedding party" in our local area, and was offended that we did not attend. So - almost the same situation as yours! You are NTA, and neither were we Reply 100 ↓
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    The_Goddess_Herse1f. 1d NTA I'm so sorry your Brother treated you this way. If he truly wanted to celebrate with you, you would have been at the wedding. Unless you are/were an alcoholic I don't understand how they couldn't have made an exception to the no minors because of alcohol rule... ← Reply 265
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    PreviousIndividual13 OP • 1d Thank you. She also excluded her nieces and nephews as well. It makes me feel better that it wasn't just me, but at the same time, I'm the only person over 18. 410
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    Beneficial-Year-one • 1d You're also a sibling, not a niece or nephew. At 16 I not only attended my sister's wedding, I was her maid of honor. Your brother should have had you there with him. 543

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