'She told me she had no money and then ordered the most expensive beer on the list': 20+ immediate red flags people discovered midway through the date

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Ben Weiss • Writer and Editor
Aug 15, 2024 4:00 PM EDT

Everyone has had an unfortunate first date experience where you realize midway through the date that this is not going to work. This discovery is unique to each person's personal list of red flags. That being said, what people do not discuss enough in these scenarios is what do you do for the rest of the evening after you've discovered that under no circumstances will there be another date.

Do you try your best to end things then and there? Do you smile your way through the rest of the evening and potentially give that person false hope of a future that will never happen? Do you call a friend and fake an emergency so you can get out of there as son as possible? The short answer is that it depends on how dire the situation is. These Redditors' stories cover a full range of red flags from financially irresponsible folks to pathological liars to people who freely give far too much information too quickly. 

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  • 01
    "Blind date, friend of a friend, he did NOT STOP TALKING the entire time."
    via Siednji Leon
  • 02
    People who discovered a deal-breaker part way through a date, what was the rest of the date like?
    via captainmadrick
  • 03
    ABooShay 16h ago Blind date, friend of a friend, he did NOT STOP TALKING the entire time. Didn't ask me one question. I just sat there mentally playing my favorite songs in my head
    via captainmadrick
  • 04
    until the bill came. Because I'm a nice person and thought he might be nervous, I gave him another chance. The same thing happened over the phone. I fell asleep for 15 minutes and when I woke up he was still talking. We did not meet up again.
    via captainmadrick
  • 05
    SnatchAddict 16h ago Immediate red flag was she told me she had no money and then she ordered the most expensive beer on the list.
    via captainmadrick
  • 06
    SOWED 17h ago I told him I wasn't going to the movie after dinner. We got the fully loaded nachos to share and I guess he like went to a waiter or manager or someone and told him to come tell us that the restaurant has a rule that if people order the fully loaded nachos to share that one person can't take all the fully loaded ones and leave the other with like just chips?
    via captainmadrick
  • 07
    captainsnark71 • 17h ago very beginning of our second date I held the door open for him cos I arrived there first and he made a noise like a dying penguin and I had no idea what to do with that.
    via captainmadrick
  • 08
    Royal Tune2444 • 16h ago . Went to Applebees (her request) because that's where her BD worked. Mind you, I had no idea she had kids, or that he worked there.
    via captainmadrick
  • 09
    We go in, she asks to be seated at the bar? We sit, we order, everything seems great. Good conversation, then: "What the f- are you doing here, Diamon! I know you're doing this s― to me off."
    via captainmadrick
  • 10
    They began to argue, fairly loudly, by the bar - until his manager came out and told them to take it out back. She just went with him as if I wasn't there. After a minute, I asked the bartender for the tab and for both meals to be wrapped up. I paid, grabbed the meals and split. One and only time I agreed to go out with a co-worker and man, did I learn that lesson the hard way on Monday.
    via captainmadrick
  • 11
    illuminn8 14h ago 2nd date with a guy. We were chatting, I notice he's talking over me a bit, but I overlook it because it might be nerves. I tell him I'm reading the Wheel of Time series, he lights up and proceeds to tell me his favorite parts. I tell him kindly I am only on book 8,
    via captainmadrick
  • 12
    so please no spoilers....he then immediately tells me about the ending of the entire series. He goes into great detail for the remainder of dinner.
    via captainmadrick
  • 13
    I text my sister my SOS code and she called me right after dinner pretending she had an emergency (I didn't want to do anything else with this man lol) and he tries to get me to ignore her!! He says she can wait!
    via captainmadrick
  • 14
    She wasn't really in trouble but if she had been??? Two strikes in one night!
    via captainmadrick
  • 15
    Agitated-Mecha... didn't even get to the 15h ago resturant before he closed all the windows, locked them then ripped worse than i ever heard before i got out of the car at a red light and called my sister to pick me up
    via captainmadrick
  • 16
    mattromo 16h ago • This was a while ago, but a woman I was chatting with online said she was coming to my town with a friend of hers and suggested we meet up for lunch and asked if I could bring a guy friend to tag along with her friend. Double blind date if you will.
    via captainmadrick
  • 17
    I was let to be under the impression that they had plans that evening, so I had only thought out a lunch spot.
    via captainmadrick
  • 18
    When we get done with lunch at say around 2-3ish, I assume we will be parting ways soon. Nope I was now expected to come up with a full rest of the day date activities for the evening.
    via captainmadrick
  • 19
    They had no plans and expected me and my friend. to entertain them all day. By this point I wanted to be done, as even if I had been into this girl (I was not) I was annoyed with her turning this into a bigger thing than she originally suggested.
    via captainmadrick
  • 20
    At some point we got onto the topic of her job. She was in insurance. She then started on her sales pitch to me. We were in our 20s, I had no interest in life
    via captainmadrick
  • 21
    insurance. I recognized her pitch as something I had heard before. A friend was also "working" for this company. I put working in quotes because, while maybe not technically an MLM, this insurance company expected its salespeople to sell to their friends, relatives etc.
    via captainmadrick
  • 22
    I called my friend who had also been roped into this business and told him to meet us. I turned myself into a fifth wheel as the two insurance salespeople bonded over their "job." My friend got along with her friend much better, as they mostly chatted about Buffy the whole day.
    via captainmadrick
  • 23
    While there was no second date she did try a couple more times to sell me insurance.
    via captainmadrick
  • 24
    MonkeyManJoha... • 15h ago On the way to restaurant, girl asked how much money I made and made a comment about the 4Runner I had at the time (which was my 2nd car, and I had been kayaking earlier that day). She said "I just want to make sure I'm not wasting my time."
    via captainmadrick
  • 25
    We got to restaurant, I handed the valet a $20, and said "hand that to her and tell her to call an uber for herself." He helped her out of the car and I drove off.
    via captainmadrick
  • 26
    I had always heard to watch out for someone so intently focused on such a thing as income on a first date... never thought it'd happen so shamelessly on the ride to dinner. Saved me a lot of time and money though I'm certain.
    via captainmadrick

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