Daughter Confronts Father for Divorcing Wife and Accuses Him of Breaking up the Family, Despite Knowing Her Mom Was the One Who Cheated

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Bar Mor Hazut • Senior Editor
Aug 22, 2024 5:00 PM EDT

Even though it is not a solution many families aspire to reach, divorce can often do wonders for a family. Sure, no couple wants to admit defeat and give up, but sometimes, having the heart to separate is the best thing to do both for the parents and their kids. Understanding this might be a lot harder for the kids than the parents, so parents have to approach the subject very carefully to make sure everyone is actually on board with the idea of splitting up the family. Something that definitely did not happen in this Reddit story.

OP (original poster) wrote to Reddit after he found out that his wife had cheated on him. Even though she was very remorseful, OP still decided that he wanted to get a divorce. What he did not expect, was that their daughter would be so against the divorce, that she would accuse her father of breaking up the family, and stand by her mother's side, despite her knowing she cheated. This left the father hurt and confused about what he should do regarding the divorce.

Scroll down to read the full story. After that, click here for a story of a daughter who refused to pay rent to stay in her parents' home.

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    I want to divorce my wife after she cheated on me but my daughter is begging me to not divorce, and I do not know what to do
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    Forgive my English if I make any mistakes, my wife of 15 years cheated on me a month and half ago with her coworker, I'm 37, my wife is 38 and my daughter is 12.
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    My wife got d...essed and she quit her job a months ago, no matter what I asked or did she didn't improve at all, this happened 3 weeks ago, when she came to me with confession that
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    she cheated on me when she went for drinks with her coworker and after drinking they hooked. up at his place, she told me that it was just a one time thing but he
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    recorded everything, when she didn't want to do it with him, he started forcing her and sent her the video and blackmailed her
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    She showed me all the texts and yeah I can confirm that she's speaking the truth, she said she made a mistake and doesn't want to break our marriage and wants
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    my help with taking him to court and this was the reason why she quit her job, I got very angry, 15 years, 15 years and she did this, i said we are divorcing, she started crying and said that
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    she started crying and said that she needs me and she just made a one mistake and instead of helping her I'm abandoning her, she quit her job and would look
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    for another job somewhere else but she needs me and I said no to everything and we are divorcing Now my daughter, there's no one more important to me than my
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    daughter, she's angry at me for divorcing, she's angry at her mom as well, but she begs me not to divorce, she says she has talked to her mom and she will never do anything like this again and
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    divorce would lead to breaking our family and she doesn't want to jump from house to house, she begged me not go with divorce and give her mom another chance, my wife keeps telling me
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    that she will do everything I ask for, she will look for a job somewhere else and keeps telling me to help her and save her, she just made a mistake.
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    I tried explaining everything to my daughter as best I could, but she wouldn't listen, when I said I'm divorcing and it's final, she stopped talking to me, only my family and her's knows about this,
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    and everyone keeps saying that my wife made a mistake and I should give her another chance, throwing away my relation and putting my daughter through this over a mistake isn't a good idea, i should think about my daughter
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    Now I do not know how to convince my daughter, at this point I only care for her, my parents are no more, I used to care for my siblings but when they kept saying i should forgive her for one mistake, I lost all my love for them
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    My question right now is should I stay with my wife for my daughter's sake and work on our marriage cause she is genuinely remorseful for what she did otherwise she could have continued her affair, I do not know what to do
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    EzMowgli 2d ago Would she have told you if she wasn't being blackmailed? Divorced dad's can still be great fathers. She'll see that, just maybe not right away.
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    Popular_Document1399 • 2d ago NTA. A 12 year old cannot make these decisions. Your wife cheated on you and destroyed your marriage. It is heartbreaking, but she will ultimately have to come to terms with the fact that her parents will be divorced sooner or later. Good luck OP.
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    SpringfieldMO_Daddy • 2d ago NTA - don't let a 12 year old decide the trajectory of your life. That would make you an AH.
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    BlueGreen 1956 2d ago NTA Do not stay for your daughter's sake. Being remorseful does not erase what she did.
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    She went to his place with the express purpose of cheating on you. End of story. End of marriage.
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    keephopealive4you ⚫ 2d ago Go to therapy, and take your daughter to therapy so they can help her understand this complex situation. The marriage is already broken, that's is on her mother, not you. NTA
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    -KristalG- 2d ago NTA. Your daughter is being manipulated by your soon to be ex.
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    Main_Laugh_1679 • 2d ago Divorce. Cheating is a marriage breaker. Your wife's fault for destroying family not you.
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