22 Year Old Woman Breaks Into Rich Home and Commits Theft, Father At a Loss for Getting Her Out of Jail, Causing Strains in Family

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    So, I'm not sure where to even start with this, but here goes. My (47M) 22-year-old daughter got arrested recently for breaking into some rich people's houses and stealing. It wasn't just a one- time thing-she and her friends have been doing this for a while. They'd gotten lucky up until now, but their luck ran out when they
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    r/AITAH • 12 hr. ago Ordinary-Meeting3346 AITAH For thinking it's my daughters fault for getting arrested and if she goes to jail it's just a consequence of her actions?
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    So, I'm not sure where to even start with this, but here goes. My (47M) 22-year-old daughter got arrested recently for breaking into some rich people's houses and stealing. It wasn't just a one- time thing-she and her friends have been doing this for a while. They'd gotten lucky up until now, but their luck ran out when they
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    broke into a mansion, triggered an alarm, and the police caught them. It didn't help that they weren't wearing masks, so the cameras caught everything. Outside, inside-every angle.
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    Here's the thing: she could have been shot. There was security at that mansion, and I honestly don't know how she made it out of there without that happening. The cops showed up before anything like that could go down, but she was arrested, along with the others.
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    I've already helped her pay for a lawyer, but the evidence against her is pretty airtight. They have her on camera breaking in. She had a part-time job, and she's been living at home, so there's no reason for her to be doing this. I have no idea what made her think this was a good idea in the first place. Now, she's looking at
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    potentially going to prison and could be kicked out of college because of this. She's going to plead guilty because, well... she did it, and there's no way around that.
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    What's really been eating at me is that she blames me for not doing more to get her off the hook. She's mad at me like I'm supposed to magically make all of this go away. I don't know what else I'm supposed to do— she made the choice to do this, not me.
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    Like I said, there's no logical reason for her to break into wealthy people's mansions and steal their stuff. She had a good job, was in school, and was heading down a good career path. In fact, the money she used was just for things she wanted. My wife and I paid for her school, food, clothes, and all her needs;
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    we don't even make her pay rent. There's no reason for her to turn to crime
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    I guess I'm just looking for advice. How do I deal with this? I want to support her as best as I can, but she's an adult. I can't fix this for her, and honestly, I don't even know if I should. Has anyone been through something similar with their kid? What did you do? How did you handle it? I'm just at a loss right now.
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    Nonwokeboomer • 11h ago ΝΤΑ It's time she faced the consequences of her illegal behavior. Do not try to fix this for her. It's time she see how criminals are treated. I know it's hard, parenting sometimes is.
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    Good Luck to both of you. UPDATEME
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    angelswaterxoxo 11h ago. NTA. It's tough to watch. someone you love face the consequences of their own actions, especially when those consequences are severe. But you're right; she's an adult, and part of being an adult is understanding that actions.
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    have repercussions. You've done what you can by getting her a lawyer, but the rest is up to her to handle. As for dealing with it, sticking to tough love while being emotionally supportive without enabling her might help balance the equation. It's a rough patch,
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    but hopefully, it serves as a life lesson for her on accountability and making better choices.
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    Swordfish468 • 11h ago NTA, your daughter should absolutely be prosecuted to fullest extent of the law for breaking into people's houses. I don't care if they were mansions or shacks there is absolutely zero excuse to break into
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    someone's home and steal their belongings. Not only did she decide to help herself to what does not belong to her. She doesn't seem to recognize the impact a break in has on someone. My house was broken into while I was sleeping upstairs in bed. I am a 30 yr old single woman
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    who lives alone for context. I spent months struggling to sleep through the night without jumping at every noise. And it took even longer to feel safe in my brand new home again. There is nothing you can do to fix this, she did it and now has to pay the consequences. She screwed
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    up her own life and now needs to deal with the consequences of her actions. Whether that is jail time or losing everything she worked for up to this point.
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    • MND420 11h ago Sounds like you already know the answer. Like you said, she's an adult, it's her responsibility to take accountability for her actions and you can't fix this for her. You're a great dad for even paying the lawyer for her.

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