‘She’s insufferable’: Friendship Goes Haywire After Mother Crashes Daughter’s International Girl’s Vacation

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Jul 26, 2024 3:00 PM EDT

Welcome back women and men of the world. As someone who's traveled a lot in their life, and mostly alone, it can be more than daunting to be with someone else. Traveling solo definitely isn't everyone's cup of tea, but for those who enjoy it, it's one of the most exonerating experiences one could have. You're left to your own devices, you don't have to compromise for anyone, and you meet a lot of new people when you're traveling solo. 

Deciding to travel with a friend is a big decision. Your bubble of comfort with your friend could easily be broken. You know you really are true friends and get along when you can travel comfortably together. Traveling with your friend is one thing…traveling with her mother is another. 

The fact that this woman even invited her mother to come on an international vacation with her friend is more than bizarre to me. It's almost everyone's worst nightmare to be in this situation. Read it for yourself, and see how their friendship unfolds.

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  • 01
    r/TrueOffMyChest ⚫ 11 hr. ag Virginia_The_Woolf My friend invited her mother to our international trip and I can't stand this lady because she is narrow-minded and ignorant. And it's gonna kill this friendship.
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    I have been saving up for this trip for two years. And I thought it's. going to me and my friend. But she had to take her mother with her. And I just can't stand it. I just can't.
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    I have traveled a lot in my life, I have studied and worked overseas and I have done it all solo. This is the first time I decided to take a trip with a friend. My friend had taken two international trips in the past. Guess what? One of them with her mother. She is almost 30
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    years old. Why can't she just be independent from her mother. I am absolutely exhausted by this trip. And it's only the 4th day. And 10 more days to go. I am losing my mind.
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    I feel second-hand embarrassment for my friend's mother who makes inappropriate comments about people who look different, she asks so many questions instead of just get the phone and Google the facts about the country we are in. But no, she just treats me like a
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    guide. And she flirts with men. All the time. And she turns every day into a fashion show. And my friends has started to show the same behavior. And I am losing my mind.
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    Today I had to pretend to be sick, so I could just stay in the apartment we are renting whole they went out without me. It took them 5 hours to gets going because they were not sure where to go. They were too lazy to do their research. And they
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    don't speak any foreign languages. And they can't even decide what to eat at the restaurant. Use the translator, damn it.
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    Yesterday I had to insist on us taking a few hours apart. And I spend 6 hours alone, going to book stores, getting a drink in the outdoor cafe and even meeting a few interesting ladies who are traveling as well. And those 6 hours were the best for me. I felt like myself. I enjoyed myself.
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    And I am very concerned and worried that this trip is gonna affect my friendship.
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    I am very independent and very introverted. And going on this trip with the friend wasn't really a mistake. The mistake was letting her take her absolutely insufferable mother, who doesn't want to spend any money on visiting places in one of the most
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    beautiful and old cities in the world. What an ignorant and uncultured idiot of a woman. And I spend so much time preparing the trip, where we can go, planning on taking guided tours. But she doesn't want any. She just wants to go to the beach. And she can't understand a tour
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    guide because she doesn't speak any English. I want to ask my friend why she took her mother with her but I know it's gonna end our friendship. I can't stand women who are so attached to their mothers. Like, grow the up or at least don't get me involved into this ___...
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    This is the last time I travel with someone. And I can't tell anyone in our circle about what's happening. Of course I can't. 10 more days.
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    UPDATE: I have just talked to my friend and it all backfired. I found a moment to talk to her when she was alone and her mother went to buy something. She got very defensive telling me that I am selfish and arrogant and then her mother came and we all had to argue. It got ugly. I tried to keep
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    it civil but the damage has been done. Needless to say I am on my own from now on. I wanted to thank you all people who gave me advice and support here and gave me courage to take control of this situation and stand up for myself...
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    Trick_Delivery4609 • 11h ago I'm sorry. That sounds awful. You should've have bailed at the first mention of her mom. But since you didn't, you absolutely should still do all the trips and guided tours and restaurants YOU
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    tours and restaurants YOU want. Leave them behind and just do your thing.
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    Snackinpenguin ⚫11h ago You're going to need to have a conversation with your friend and carve out more independent time where you're doing your own thing during this trip.
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    Unfortunately, the time to have pushed back was before the mom came along, but you're stuck.
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    You can explain that this was supposed to be a trip with the two of you but now you feel like you're translator, your guide and this isn't what you signed up for. Alternately, you can say that they can join you on this day for X activity, but beyond
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    for X activity, but beyond that, they are on their own. I feel for you.
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    Professional_End... • 10h ago Just tell your friend you'd rather go off on your own as you want to do different things and you can meet for a meal a day or not. This is your vacation, take control. Never suffer in silence. I
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    have a feeling this friendship might not survive anyway because you are too different and frankly, that's A OKAY.
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    Red RedMere 8h ago "Today I am going to the museum at 9 am and then the canal" "We don't want to do that/we're not ready"
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    "That's totally fine, I'll see you for dinner (or not)" Exit through closing door. End scene.
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    Then peace out. Save your sanity AND your hard earned vacation. I also recommend simply saying "that's rude" and walking away when the mother decides to share her toxic thoughts.
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    CrnkyOL 10h ago You have 10 days left of a vacation you spent 2 years saving for. From this point forward, whatever misery you endure is your responsibility. Just let your friend know, this trip is not turning out the way you
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    anticipated and you're not willing to waste the rest of it. Let's just do our own thing for the remainder of the trip. If you have scheduled excursions or things like that, you can still do those with them if you choose. Stop twisting yourself in
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    Stop twisting yourself in knots so you don't rock the boat.
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