After Entitled Husband Neglects His Wife and Lets His Mother Mistreat Her, Woman Uses Reddit Account to Let Him Know She’s Already Packed Her Bags

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Aug 29, 2024 2:00 PM EDT

Welcome back zealous internet goers. These days, people can become more than addicted to social media and the internet. App culture is changing the way people think, behave, and how they form relationships. Instead of spending quality time talking with each other, reading, or learning together, many couples' form of 'bonding time' could be sitting separately on their respective phones. The constant exposure to the vast and endless internet is frightening at best; people get addicted to all sorts of entertainment these days. 

In this particular Reddit thread, the man is just like that. He's so addicted and immersed in Reddit that he can't even have a conversation with his wife. Not to mention his mother has been insulting and disrespecting her for their entire relationship. When she tries to confront him, he brushes it off, until he can't brush it off anymore. Their closure could have been healthy, but he forced her to divorce him in the only language he understands: Reddit.

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    r/AITAH ⚫ 17 hr. ago Hot-Flan-8325 AITA for letting you know I am divorcing you by sending you a thread on the website that you use to ignore me?
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    Tiny update: Steffan has seen this post. He is mad that apparently one of you found him based on the rate my thing. He has deleted his account. For any purposes, I want to clarify that I left out any actual incriminating information that could lead to doxxing him.
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    Any and all people who are pretending to know me or have any incriminating information about me are lying. I am not from South Carolina, I am not moving in with any other guy, and I am also not sleeping around.
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    Hi Steffan, maybe you will finally listen. And if you're wondering if you can just speed home and stop me from doing this and leaving, it's too late. I'm sending you this after I've already loaded everything in the car and left. Don't worry, I spoke with our
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    landlords and took my name off the lease. I've set up a direct deposit for the next month's rent. After that, you're on your own, "buddy."
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    I guess you're wondering why. I'm guessing you'll act like you're completely blindsided, right? Because you've done absolutely nothing wrong, and you're a great husband and father to be, aren't you?
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    Well, "buddy," let me break it down for you in a language you understand: I (29F) have been married to my husband (35M) for five years, and we've been together for nearly ten. On paper, everything seemed fine, but in reality, our marriage has been anything but. I've
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    reached my breaking point, and I need to know if I'm the one in the wrong here. From the beginning, my MIL has been a nightmare. She made everything about her from day one. At our wedding, she wore white, claiming it was a "family tradition" (it wasn't). She
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    constantly criticizes me, from my cooking to my appearance. I'll never forget the time she called me fat at a family gathering, right in front of everyone. And what did my husband do? Nothing. Not a single word to defend me.
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    It didn't stop there. She has "accidentally" destroyed my belongings, including my grandmother's necklace, which she threw out because it "looked like cheap costume jewelry." She's gone out of her way to make me feel small and unwelcome in my own home. But every time I tried to talk to my husband about it,
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    he'd brush it off, saying I was overreacting or being too emotional.
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    And then there's my husband. He's always on Reddit, constantly giving strangers relationship advice, which is laughable considering how he treats me. He spends more time rating women's on Reddit than talking to me. Literally. And just so you know, the last pair he rated. weren't a 4 out of 10—they were
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    a 10 out of 10. Yeah, he's got plenty of time to do that but can't be bothered to remember anything about my life. He'll forget my birthday, our anniversary, even simple things like what I'm working on or what's important to me, but he has a perfect memory for his work schedule and things that matter to him.
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    When we fight, he becomes incredibly hostile and always throws in a sarcastic "buddy" at the end of his sentences, like I'm some acquaintance he can barely tolerate. And he never cleans. The house, the dishes, laundry—you name it, it's all on me. It's like he thinks being an adult is optional, as long as he's got his job and his Reddit account.
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    The final straw came a few weeks ago. I'm 5 months pregnant with our first child, a daughter. My MIL started making comments about how she'll have to "whip the girl into shape" and how she'll raise her to be "tough" because I'm "too soft." When I told my husband that I didn't want his mother to have too much
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    influence on our daughter, especially with the way she treats me, he just laughed it off, saying his mother "means well" and that I was "overthinking it."
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    But the moment that truly broke me was when we were talking about future childcare, and my husband suggested that his mother should watch our daughter while we work. I told him I wasn't comfortable with that, especially considering how his mother treats me, and he snapped. He called me "paranoid"
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    and said I should "get over it" because his mother was going to be a big part of our daughter's life whether I liked it or not.
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    This is the same woman who believes corporal punishment is okay. I've seen her hit my husband's nephew for the smallest things, and no one does anything about it. It's like they're all living in some kind of cult, and I'm finally waking up to the reality of what's going on. If he wouldn't stand up for me, how could I
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    expect him to stand up for our child? I started to fear for what kind of environment our daughter would grow up in—a place where she might be belittled or bullied by her own grandmother, with a father who wouldn't do anything to stop it.
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    Oh, and did I mention that he missed our first ultrasound? His mother "needed" him to help her with something urgent. It turned out to be fixing her Wi-Fi. Wi-Fi! He chose that over seeing our daughter for the first time. That told me everything I needed to know about where I stand in his life.
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    So, I packed up and left. I'm done living like this. Oh, and in case you're wondering, I've already contacted a lawyer. You can't scare me into complying anymore because I have all those texts. You know exactly which ones I'm talking about.
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    So, Steffan, I wish you all the best in your future marriage-with your mother and the women of Reddit whose even deserve. Am I the you don't for leaving my husband after he neglected me for years, let his mother mistreat me, and made me fear for our future daughter's safety?
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    sensuspete 16h ago r/ratemydeparture 10/10 OP I wish you well in your new life.
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    Strong_Arm8734 • 17h ago Nta, hope Steffan and mommywife are eternally trapped with each other. She failed raising her son into a complete autonomous human and would have tried to damage your daughter. He would have let her.
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    Sudden-Magazin... • 16h ago NTA. Question for Steffan... Do you scroll through Reddit comparing moms while she's to your breastfeeding you?
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