'You're not responsible for taking care of your father's stepkids': Dad forces 16-year-old son to make food for his step siblings on days he's with his mom, balks when he refuses

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    AITA for telling my dad's he's crazy if he thinks I'm going to his house during the week just to make food for his stepkids?
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    My parents are divorced. I (16m) now live with mom and visit dad every other weekend. The change happened about a year ago. The judge won't let me. stop going on those weekends but I wish I could. I have a younger brother (14) and a younger sister (11). My dad's married and has a stepson (10) and a stepdaughter (7). He asked me a couple of weeks ago to come to his
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    house after school and make food for them before going home. He asked this because he found out that I sometimes make food for my siblings when mom works. He asked me about it the next weekend I was over there. He wanted to know why I never did that at his house. I said I just didn't. He told me I could have made food for all four of the kids. I told him no, that wasn't happening. He asked why and I said.
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    because I don't mind making something for me and my siblings but I'm not making food for just anyone. He told me his stepkids are my siblings too just not by blood and I told him they're not my siblings and I never said they were.
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    Then two weeks ago he asked to go and cook for his stepkids after school. This is during weeks my siblings are home with me and mom and weeks they're with him. I told him no and he made that weekend annoying as My mom told him to leave me alone, I'm a kid, and I already chose not to keep 50/50 custody so he'd want to cherish the time he has with me. He told mom to shut up.
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    I didn't do what he asked. He then mentioned it to me Sunday and that's when I told him he's crazy if he thinks I'm going to his house for the week just to make food for his stepkids. He told me if I can do it for my siblings I can do it for them. I told him I love my siblings.
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    That's why I do it. Then it was like he focused on me calling him crazy and he said it's not crazy to expect family to treat each other the same and how I'm showing blatant favoritism for my blood siblings and not my siblings through marriage. He told me it's cruel to be so blunt about it.
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    mlc885 4h ago ΝΤΑ A 7 and 10 year old are home alone but can't make a peanut butter sandwich? I feel like this was just him trying to find a way to guilt you into being a free. nanny. "You came over and prepared food, it'd make them sad if you left so quickly, you should spend time with them!"
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    Little_Orange2727 4h ago NTA. You're not responsible for taking care of your father's stepkids. Feeding them is your father's and his wife's job. Not yours. You do not owe him or the stepkids anything beyond honoring the custody agreement of weekend visits.
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    forgeris 4h ago NTA, you can tell him to pay you 50$ per meal and you will cook for his stepkids. Why do people feel entitled to your time and effort...
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    VastConsideration126 3h ago Have this conversation again but be sure to be really mature in your wording, like I just want you to be clear dad. Because I make food for my sibling that I live with, you want me to leave my home, go to yours, and make food for kids I have no relationship with? You are
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    angry because I don't want to. I have told you the last 100 times you asked my answer is no. I have no time for this especially because I have to focus on school, not your step kids. Record it! Bring it to court or a mediator, or a guardian ad litem, and tell them you do not want to go back because your father spends the
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    whole weekend fighting with you and it is affecting your mental health. That you feel anxiety going there anticipating his next argument. He won't take no for an answer.Say he is destroying what little relationship you had with him, he just wants you to be a servant to his stepchildren.
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    000-Hotaru_Tomoe • 4h ago NTA His stepchildren are not your responsibility. Parents trying to force families to blend often obtain the opposite effect.
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    KeyHovercraft2637 · 3h ago NTA and keep records of this in case it escalates and you can tell the judge. Especially when young kids are home alone, the courts may love that tidbit. The parents are perfectly capable of having ready made snacks available to them. Plus I'm assuming you need
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    to get home to study and maybe have after school activities. All he's doing is pushing you away and I'm betting his wife is pushing this narrative. We are technically related to a lot of people but that doesn't require us to have to associate with them.
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    Clean_Factor9673 • 3h ago NTA. Your visitation with him is every other weekend. You have no obligation to visit him during the week. Remind him of that. It is a parents obligation to provide food, clothing, shelter, medical and dental for their minor children; it is his obligation to provide for you and his wife's obligation to provide for her children. You have no obligation to provide food for his stepchildren.
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    You have every right to treat your siblings differently than his stepkids, you have a relationship with your siblings and love them.
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    . DangerousDave303 2h ago NTA. When would you do homework and have a social life if you had to make special trips to your dad's just to fix food for your step siblings? It's a ridiculous request.

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