Woman Stands Her Ground, Rejects Husband’s Plan to Use Her Inheritance to Build Sister-in-Laws’ Dream Homes

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    Why should I use my inheritance that my parents worked their butts off to earn and pass on to me so that my husband's lazy sisters can sit in a brand new house on their family's farm and never have to pay property tax or insurance or rent? I feel like this is my money and I shouldn't have to spend it on his family.
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    A r/AmltheAsshole ⚫ 14 hr. ago • Feeling-Savings-1462 AITA for not using my inheritance (from my parents) for my husband's family
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    First time posting here. AITA for not wanting to use my inheritance to pay for building my husband's sisters a home on our farm? My husband (52) and myself (50) have been married for 31 years. We purchased his parents farm several years ago and paid for it with a mortgage. We have since paid that
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    mortgage off. We also built our forever home on the farm and it is also paid for and we raise cattle on the farm. His family is always asking for help. His sisters specifically and a couple of his nephews. For context, we took care of his father, mother, and Down's
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    syndrome sister when nobody else in his family would take care of them. We were the only ones of his siblings who still had young children at home but we felt that if we didn't take care of them the state was going to step in and take them away. In my family you take
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    care of your family so we took them in and never looked back. However I think his family resented us for this and somehow feels like they are owed something because we own the family farm. And for some reason my husband thinks he has to take care of his other
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    sisters even though there is nothing wrong with them except they have low IQs. I have inherited a decent amount of money from my parents. My husband doesn't know the specifics and is upset that I won't disclose the amount. He doesn't
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    have access to the account. He wants me to take some of the money and build a house on our farm (his family farm) for his sisters to live in so they won't have to pay rent anymore or live in apartments. He wants us to pay their property taxes and insurance because "they
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    won't be able to afford that” but they can pay their utilities. He doesn't want to charge them rent. Why should I use my inheritance that my parents worked their butts off to earn and pass on to me so that my husband's lazy sisters can sit in a brand new house on their
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    family's farm and never have to pay property tax or insurance or rent? I feel like this is my money and I shouldn't have to spend it on his family. I want to put the majority of it in trust funds to our two children so I
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    can pass it on to them. And to be honest I am seriously thinking about just taking my inheritance and getting a divorce and living happily ever after. So.....AITA????
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    beginagain4me • 13h ago. Partassipant [1] Nta he should be thinking of his children not his siblings. After 31 years I assume there are very good reasons that you are considering divorce.
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    Actual-Hamster4692 Enthusiast [6] 13h ago Divorce him, then take your inheritance and your half of the value of the farm and live your best life. He can get a new mortgage to pay you your share, then move his deadbeat sisters into the house, and be their doormat. NTA
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    Realistic_Head4279 Pooperintendant [58] . 13h ago NTA. Congrats for putting your inheritance monies in a separate account in just your name so that it is never co- mingled with marital monies. Always keep it separate or else your husband will have a claim to half of it should you divorce. If you use any of it on items you own jointly, well then your husband
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    automatically owns half of whatever amount you invested from your inherited monies. Beware of this pitfall. You may, of course, choose to do this at some point, but know what it means -- you've given away part of those monies and cannot ever reclaim it.
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    Your parents left you your inheritance to you to spend as you choose. They did not leave it to your husband and certainly not to his sisters. He is wrong to try to guilt you into spending it on his family, even if they weren't lazy.
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    Honestly, I wouldn't blame you for leaving a man who continued to insist you spend your inheritance on his sisters who, according to you, are lazy and not helping themselves adequately. Hopefully though you can resolve this issue without resorting to that unless, of course, you otherwise no longer wish to be married to this man.
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    Valuable-Job-7956 13h ago Edited 3h ago First off it stopped being his family's farm when you bought. It is your inheritance to do with as you see fit building a house for people that have absolutely no idea how to take care of themselves much less a house you would save time throwing that money into a fire pit and striking a match

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