Woman Cancels Fiancé's Credit Cards After He Cheats On Her With Her Best Friend, Cutting Him Off from Her Financial Support

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Sep 3, 2024 6:00 PM EDT

Welcome, gals of the web. It is a parent's responsibility to care for their child and pay for their needs. Some parents end all financial help once their child turns 18, while others slowly taper off their assistance over the course of adulthood. In some cases, spoiled adult children expect to be financed by their parents in order to live beyond their means, and parents must make the difficult decision to cut them off so that they can learn to handle life by themselves. In our story today, a woman makes this very decision - except the individual who is financially dependent on her is not her son, but her fiancé.

Our protagonist graciously allowed her man-child fiancé to use her credit cards, going as far as to giving him his own plastic under her name. However, when she realized that he had cheated on her with her own best friend, she cut the two out of her life as well as his access to her money. To enjoy the full tea, scroll down!

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    r/AITAH u/Chemical_Ordinary758 • 10h AITA for Canceling My Fiancé's Credit Cards and Throwing Him Out After Discovering He Was Cheating on Me With My Best Friend?
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    I (32F) have been with my fiancé, "Jake" (34M), for five years. We got engaged last year, and I've been covering most of our expenses since I earn a lot more. I even added Jake to my credit cards to help him out.
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    My best friend "Emily" (31F) and I have been close since college, and she's been like a sister to me. Jake and Emily got along well, and the three of us hung out often. But a few weeks ago, I noticed Jake acting weird-being secretive with his phone, taking calls in another room, and constantly texting. I couldn't shake the feeling something was off.
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    One night, while Jake was asleep, I checked his phone. What I found shattered me-explicit messages between him and Emily, plans to meet behind my back, and even talks about a "future" together. I felt utterly betrayed by the two people I trusted most.
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    The next day, while Jake was at work, I canceled all his credit cards, removed him from our joint account, packed up his stuff, changed the locks, and left a note telling him never to contact me again. When he found out, he blew up, accusing me of being "cruel" and "vindictive." Emily hasn't said a word, but I've cut off all contact with her too.
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    Now, I'm starting to wonder if I overreacted by going nuclear. So, AITA for cutting Jake off financially, kicking him out, and cutting off my best friend after finding out they were cheating on me? 4,341 1,296 D ŵ
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    No-Squirrel1148 • 10h You're definitely NTA. Jake and Emily betrayed you in the worst way. Cutting him off financially, kicking him out, and ending the friendship were completely justified. You acted to protect yourself after their massive betrayal, and your response was appropriate given the circumstances. Reply 3.7k
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    NPDerm83 10h • This! He is just upset because you will not be paying or helping him with anything. He wanted his cake and wanted to eat it too. It is very obvious, because your BF said nothing to you. Good luck! Updateme 1.1k
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    New-Dentist-7346.9h This, this, THIS. He is an absolute tool and was using you. He got caught and he's mad at you. You did not overreact at all. Your reaction you perfect. He is the vindictive one and if you hadn't cut him off he'd probably have taken even more advantage of you. ... ☆ 20♡
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    Gohighsweetcherry • 10h You did not overreact. They are vile and disgraceful. They would have gone no contact with you once he was in a position to leave you. Probably after he squirrelled away enough of your money to do so. She is not a friend. Honestly the saying 'with friends like these who need's enemies' is fitting. I suggest seeing a therapist, because for you to question your actions tells me you need to build your self respect and self worth. Please don't look back and move on and up. NT
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    OverlordBaron • 8h no, you're not the ! Your fiancé cheated on you with your best friend, so canceling his credit cards, removing him from your accounts, and kicking him out was just giving him the consequences he deserved. He lost any right to your financial help the moment he betrayed you, and your best friend proved she wasn't worth keeping around either. Don't let his "cruel and vindictive" BS guilt-trip you-you just took control of your life after a massive betrayal. You did the right thing
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    NTA TarzanKitty 10h You are not required to financially support your ex boyfriend. ... Reply 257
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    Top_Put1541 · 9h I hope Emily enjoys supporting him. 132
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    Scary-Cycle1508 • 10h NTZA Of course you're not overreacting. He is a cheating 1. you can be as mean as you need to be. Its not vindictive or cruel to cut this cancer out of your life.
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    BUT you need to be proactive. tell your common friends what happened and what they did. Tell them you're not asking them to chose but you will simply chose not to attend if those two cheaters will be present at gatherings. Otherwise they'll likely twist the story and making it sound as if you were abusive or crazy or toxic. ← Reply 169
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    DigKlutzy4377.9h What i don't understand about this post, and others like it, is how did we get to the point (as a society) where we even consider being an AH for simply requiring those around us show common decency and respect? Reply 40
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    Lampwick • 9h I don't think it's anything new. People have always ended up in relationships with manipulative turds who figure out how to push your buttons just right to make you think things they did are your fault or responsibility. We see it more now because people have the internet. It's a good thing though, because now they get 1200 strangers telling them they're right and they are less likely to listen to doormat friends/relatives telling them they're wrong for antagonizing the troublemake
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    Moist-Apartment9729.9h Isn't it obvious when you are on the outside looking in? But when it's happening to you and that person is filling your head with all of their excuses, begging and whatever history and emotional attachments come with it all, not to mention the "bargaining" part of loss, it's easy to question. Wouldn't be surprised if Jake was also a manipulative narcissist on some level.
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    1indaT • 10h I am assuming you mean that you cut off his access to your cards. If so, the NTA. If you somehow managed to cancel his personal cards, well, that is illegal. One thing to be careful of, is he on the lease? If so, he may be able.to take legal.action against you. Reply 23 ♡
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    AlpineLad1965. 9h You didn't go nearly nuclear enough!!! You should have posted their chat history online in any groups or friends list that you shared with Emily. Then, she filed a lawsuit against her for alienation of affections. Burn them to the ground and repost that information every year!!! Reply Ĵ 8 ♡
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    upsetti_spaghetti23 • 10h NTA. You didn't go nuclear or overreact in the slightest. Neither of them deserve you. What they did is unforgiveable. Reply Ĵ 6 ♡
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    NTA sandpaper_fig⚫ 10h And I don't consider that nuclear. That's just protecting yourself and getting him out of your life. Nuclear would have been burning his stuff etc. Nope, that was nice. ... Reply
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