Woman Leaves for Dream Vacation Without Her Husband After He Dropped the Ball on Planning

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    r/AITAH ⚫ 7 mo. ago Spirited-Avocado5810 AITAH for going on my dream vacation without my husband
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    I (39f) have dreamed of going to Europe since I was a kid. I didn't have a lot of money and when I started working I worked my way up in the ladder to earn a decent salary that would allow me to save and fulfill my dream. I am married and the head of my household, meaning, I handle 90% of the expenses at home to
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    support my husband (43m) dream of building his company and that leaves me with little money to save for anything. Finally after so many struggles, sacrifices and hard work, we are in a great position that allow us to have a fantastic, long trip to Europe, I have everything, free tickets (credit card points), decent
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    work PTO (already approved), I even learned French and Italian and have enough money for BOTH of us to enjoy the trip.
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    Since my husband is not a US citizen, he needs a visa. We both knew this years ago (when we started planning) and I have been reminding him on checking what he needs for the visa so we can process it in time. Well, he just looked at the documents needed but nothing else. He kept postponing the process it until
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    Feb started and it seems, now is a little too late. There are no appointments for any of the embassies of the Schengen countries until march starts and the ones we have contacted say would take 15 business days to process the visa (3 weeks) and that would make it too late. My work leaves are approved, and it
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    since I rolled them over from 2023 I can't use them after March 31st, so I would loose the leaves too (and might not get another chance to get that many days off). I am frustrated and sad (and angry) because he knew how much I wanted this trip and also because is very much NOT the first time he drops the ball on
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    leaving for later important things or not completing things in time and then we both struggle. He told me to leave by myself but I think he will resent me if I do, but I also know I will resent me if I don't. So... AITAH for going on my dream vacation without my husband?
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    Sensitive-Delay-... 7mo ago If he truly wanted to go on this trip with you then he would have handled his business. Nta one bit. If you have a sister maybe she can go? Or your mom?
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    Personal Regula... • 7mo ago Who taught you that love had to be like this? Go on the vacation, enjoy yourself, and then use your free time to reflect on your marriage. You deserve a soft.
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    life full of love and a partner who contributes meaningfully to that. You are worthy. A good therapist can get to the root of why you'd stay with someone who refuses to put any effort into something that makes you
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    so excited. You deserve a partner that lifts you up, someone who would never let you down this way. NTA
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    Ok-Reply9552 • 7mo ago Nta. You gave him a chance to come and he didn't. You have all your things in order and this is important to you. F his feelings since he didn't care enough about yours to actually process the visa. Go on your trip.
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    Leo-POV 7mo ago NTA. Go and enjoy Europe, and see if you can rope in a friend to join with so that the tickets don't go to waste. You'll be like Carmella and Rosalie in the Sopranos!
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    Go, and have the time of your life :-) BTW - is there something else going on with your Husband? A persistent dropping of the ball might indicate something more serious going on, medically.
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    thestormyenthu... • 7mo ago NTA. You've worked hard for this dream vacation and did your best to include your husband. Despite reminders, he didn't prioritize getting his visa in time. It's disappointing, but you
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    shouldn't have to sacrifice your happiness because of his procrastination.
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    Mace_1981 7mo ago NTA for going on.the trip. If it was hos dream trip he'd have prepared for it. But don't listen to Reddits knee jerk "And serve him divorce papers" brigade, if this is the only issue you 2 have had.
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    CrabbiestAsp 7mo ago NTA. Go on your trip. Enjoy yourself!!!!
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    Felidaes77 7mo ago NTA - Go and Enjoy.

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