Woman Plans Family Vacation to Her Cabin, Entitled Husband Proceeds to Invite His Mother: ‘Uninvite her or you’re not coming’

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Aug 25, 2024 12:00 PM EDT

Welcome back people of the internet. Summer: the time for planning trips, vacations, and relaxation. Having a family cabin is an incredible gift; you have a free and beautiful place to get away from it all. Desolate in the woods, nature all around you, no neighbors, just quiet stillness. It's the perfect place to unwind, get alone time, have a romantic vacation, or spend quality time with family. That is until your husband decides to invite his mother.

This brings us to the Reddit thread. This woman plans a family vacation in her family's cabin with her husband and their 4 kids. She starts getting texts from his mother and sisters asking what they should bring. She's in shock. She didn't expect in any way that his side of the family would be coming, nor were they invited. The absolute audacity. You'll have to read the full story below to see how it ends. 

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  • 01
    r/AITAH 6 mo. ago Soggy-Jackfruit-9949 AITA for telling my husband that he either ÷ tells his family they aren't coming on our vacation or me and the kids will NOT go?
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    If I don't go, he (by extension). can't go because it's my families cabin, for the record. We are both 30. We have 4 children combined. The youngest is 6 months old. I'm not sure what it is about his family but our daughter screams every single time these people are around us (every other week, at least). Whenever they come
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    over I find myself beyond stressed out because my daughter screams the entire time and his family thinks it's funny? Like they pass her around while she's screaming and they laugh about it and it takes them forever to hand her back to me to get her calmed down. And ALL of them claim that she acts like that because I "spoil" her. His family
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    consists of his mom, his two sisters and both of his sisters have 1 daughter each (15 and 13). Our daughter doesn't act like this when it comes to anyone else. Family, friends or complete strangers. She loves people. But the second any of my husbands family come around, she's screaming from the time they show up and until they leave
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    unless I physically leave the room with her.
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  • 06
    Anyways, I needed a vacation. I asked my parents if I could use their cabin for a week next week and they said yes. My husband for whatever reason decided that he wanted his mom to come and she invited her daughters. So I'm getting text messages saying "what should I bring?" And whatever else. I never wanted
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  • 07
    them to come. I asked my husband why the F he would invite his family when it pretty much sets in stone that I will have an absolute nightmare of a time because our daughter does not like these people. The whole point of a vacation was to relax, not add more stress to it by basically ensuring that our daughter will not be set down for
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  • 08
    a split second because she is afraid of his family. He said that he thought it would be fine because we had talked in the past (pre-baby) about inviting them to the cabin for a family vacation and said that maybe having our daughter surrounded with all of them for a week would "make her" like them. I told him I'm
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    100% not okay with that and he needs to tell them that none of them are welcome (even his mother whom I can't stand to - be around due to her constant baby advice - "you need to put her the I down, she acts like that because you spoil her"). He said he doesn't feel comfortable telling them they can't go
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    because he already said they could and he doesn't want to offend anyone. I snapped and said "either tell them they aren't ☐ coming or me and the kids won't go. Better yet, you can stay home with your family and me and the kids will go without you." He slammed off to his office and shut the door and is now not speaking to me. AITA? He says
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    speaking to me. AITA? He says that I'm deliberately cutting his family out and have been since the baby was born and honestly, I feel like cutting his family out because it stresses me out having a baby scream for hours whenever they come here and I'm tired of it because it's ME who has to deal with it!
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    ETA: yes, he makes a habit of doing this. every time we go anywhere at all (beach, park, movies, etc) he is inviting either his mom OR his mom and his sisters/nieces. if he only invites his mom, she will then invite her daughters. we literally can't do anything without them and this is how it's been since we moved
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    back to his home town 2 years ago. I have told him several times that I'm tired of it and don't want them invited to go with us every where we go and he doesn't see what the issue is and tries pulling the "if it was your family you wouldn't mind". but there's zero comparison cause I see my family maybe 3 times a year. He even
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  • 14
    invited his mom here immediately following us leaving the hospital with the baby (without telling me) and she invited her daughters. So they all showed up here when my daughter was 3 days old and got 1 off at me for not being okay with it.
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    knowledgemedia • 6mo ago ΝΤΑ Not his cabin, not his choice to invite his family without asking you first.
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  • 16
    The fact that he asked his family without prior consultation with you, tells me he doesn't care that much about how you feel, because he doesn't feel your input is necessary when it comes to decisions like these.
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    pinkeroo67 6mo ago So, if his mom does NOT come, he'll have to help with the kids? He won't be able to pass the kids off on his mom? NTA
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    Gonebabythoug... • 6mo ago It doesn't seem like the two of you are making decisions as a team. Does he have a habit of doing this?
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    Prize-Bumblebe... 6mo ago NTA You need a break! He should have consulted you before adding to the guest list.
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  • 20
    Tell him to speak with his mom and just tell her that he jumped the gun and you guys are going to do the vacation with only immediate family. It's not a big deal and I can't imagine his family won't respect that. And if they don't he still needs to tell them.
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    realgood_cheeses • 6mo ago NTA but omg the rage. Good luck and you better. get your in-law free vacation.
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