‘You chose to be a loser’: Parents refuse to support entitled daughter after she mocks her mom for choosing family over career, leading to a heated dispute

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Bar Mor Hazut • Senior Editor
Sep 14, 2024 2:00 PM EDT

The older I get, the more I am drawn to becoming a stay-at-home mom. Granted, I do not have any kids yet, but once I do, I am starting to grow fond of the idea of staying home and taking care of them as my full-time job.

I am also fully aware that being a stay-at-home mom is no easy task, and often it is even harder than a normal 9-5 job. That is why I think it is important that everyone who grew up with a mom who gave up on her career to raise her kids, should really show their appreciation. 

Unlike the daughter in this Reddit story, who instead of appreciating her mom for raising 4 children, decided to mock her for giving up on her career. The mom, who was understandably hurt by her daughter's remarks, decided to prove to her daughter just how hard being a stay-at-home mom is. So she completely stopped supporting and helping her daughter with anything she might possibly need.

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    "You chose to waste your life away by staying home"
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    Are me and my wife AHs for having our daughter fend for herself?
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    My wife has been a stay at home mom since our eldest was born. Even though our youngest is now 12, she stays home to care for the house as well as be available for
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    pick ups, volunteer at the children's schools, for various closings, etc. We have always talked to our daughters (25, 21, 17 & 12) about their futures, careers, etc. We made
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    it clear we'll support whatever path they want. Our eldest is 25 and chose to settle down and become a stay at home mom. Our 21 year old is in college, no plans of
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    marriage or kids, and wants to focus on a career. We're happy for both of them and all their successes. Our 17 year old, Sasha, is in her senior year and getting ready to
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    start applying to universities. Like our 21 year old, Sasha wants to focus on her career, maybe get married, but definitely no kids. She's been saying this for awhile,
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    and we've supported that dream. Our other kids seem to appreciate what their mother does, have never belittled her position in the household. I have equally always painted her as the true hero of this
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    family, as she does so much. I try to do all I can to help her and give her breaks, but she is superwoman, in my eyes. However, for the past few months, Sasha has made tiny jabs here and
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    there. She'll talk about her going to college and ask my wife what she majored in (despite already knowing), then say "wow, imagine what you could make if you were in that field now! We could be living
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    the high life!" or "giving up a 6 figure salary for a husband and kids? Could never be me!" Keep in mind, I also make a 6 figure salary, we are by no means the wealthiest people in the area, but we're also
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    not broke and the kids have gotten many privileges from this. My wife has always said this is a choice she made, she's happy with it, and we've both told Sasha to stop with the comments. Sasha will do better, then start up again.
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    Labor Day is when Sasha blew it, in my wife's words. The two of us set up a BBQ for our family, with everyone there. I grilled with my wife cooking the rest and setting it up with our daughters' help-except Sasha.
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    At one point, my wife was talking about volunteering at our 12 year old's school as they need someone to run an art club. Our youngest is so excited for this. Sasha kept making jabs at how boring my
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    wife's life is. I corrected her but my wife just kept trying to let it go. Then our eldest said something about trying to keep up with the housework and a small child at home. Sasha scoffed and said it
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    can't be that hard. My wife chimed in and said it's more work than you realize. Sasha rolled her eyes and said to my wife "well, you chose to be the loser who stays home and wastes her wife away".
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    My wife was clearly about to cry. I sent Sasha to her room. My wife took a walk to clear her head, our older 2 daughters joining her while I went to talk to Sasha and tell her how hurtful and horrible her
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    actions were. She was unapologetic and claimed that she's just trying to "help" my wife. When my wife came back, she told Sasha if she's such a loser wasting
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    her life away, then she's done helping her. Our kids have age appropriate chores (their own laundry and taking turns cleaning their shared bathroom), she is done doing anything else for Sasha. Sasha can make her own
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    meals. She's free to join us at dinner, but it'll be food she cooks and will either be things we already have in the house or she can go buy it with her own money. As Sasha refused my wife's attempts
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    to teach her how to cook over the years, it'll be her struggle. Sasha can find her own way to school. My wife also won't volunteer anymore at her school, meaning the club Sasha is on will need a new
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    parent/teacher advisor and if they don't find one, it'll be shut down. This will continue until my wife and I can see a sufficient change in attitude.
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    I am in full support of this. Sasha didn't take us seriously, but on Tuesday when she asked what was for dinner, my wife said she only made enough for herself, me, and our youngest. When my daughter
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    overslept and missed the bus on Wednesday, my wife refused to give her a ride. I work from home but also refused to take her. She had to walk to a friend's house about 15 minutes away to fetch a
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    ride. That night, Sasha made herself ramen, while my wife made the rest of us ribs. Sasha went to my wife later and asked when it'd be enough. My wife asked if she was sorry, Sasha said no. So, my wife said, then it's not over.
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    Sasha went to her older sisters. Our 21 year old agrees with us, but our 25 year old thinks we're being too harsh, and says she'd never do this to her little one. Are we being _?
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    EDIT: To all asking if we asked her why, we did. Several times. She claims that as she looks to her own future, she realizes how sad it is that my wife has this life and feels
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    bad that she never had a good future. My wife consistently says she's not sad and I think that makes our daughter angrier.
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    Humble_lady_7321 NTA. It sounds like you and your wife are setting necessary boundaries and teaching Sasha an important lesson about respect and independence. You're not being
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    ; you're responding to her disrespectful behavior in a way that impacts her directly, which sometimes is the only way to make a point clear. It's essential for her to understand the value of the
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    support she's had, and maybe handling things on her own will. help her appreciate what's been done for her so far. It's tough love, but sometimes that's necessary to foster maturity and respect.
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    tossaway1546 Lawd, if had spoke to my mother that way, I wouldn't be here today to read this story.
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    PerceptionRegular262 So women can choose what they want to do in life, but only if Sasha approves of it. Lol. The choice can be stay at home mom or career or both. No one should be belittled for it.
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