Woman Ditches Her Best Friends’ Wedding After They Try to Set Her Up with the Best Man, Despite Her Long-Term Relationship with Someone Else

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    At the air bnb with everyone I immediately noticed things were off. All of the other bridesmaids had their boyfriends there and things were really awkward when I found out I was in a room with the best man.
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    AITA for ditching a wedding that I (f20) was the maid of honor in because the bride (f22) tried to set me up with the best man (m28)?
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    I was supposed to be the maid of honor at a wedding a few weeks ago. I ended up just leaving and going home to my boyfriend of 6 years after the bride and groom tried to set me up with the best man.
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    When my friend got engaged last year I was excited for her and even more excited when she asked me to be the maid of honor. As invites went out though she asked me to not bring my
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    boyfriend to the wedding. I was really upset about that but my boyfriend talked me down telling me that weddings were expensive and they were probably trying to
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    keep the guest list down and they didn't really know him so it would be fine for me to go without him. That made sense to me so I didn't say or do anything after that and just continued with helping as I could as the maid of honor.
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    Nothing else really concerning happened again until a couple of days before the wedding. The bride asked me to give the best man a ride to and from the wedding which was about a 4
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    hours drive. I thought it was just part of it as he was a veteran and had his own issues surrounding that. So i gave him a ride up to the air bnb that we were staying at before the wedding. The whole
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    time he tried to make conversation that was just weird to me and I was just not into it and just trying to my best to be nice to him.
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    At the air bnb with everyone I immediately noticed things were off. All of the other bridesmaids had their boyfriends there and things were really awkward when I found out I was in a room with the best man.
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    The next day before the rehearsal dinner the bride and groom cornered me in a room to say that the best man was an incredible guy and that I was blowing him off without really
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    giving him a chance. I told him well of course not I have a serious long term boyfriend which yall specifically told me not to bring. Then the bride cut in and told me we'll that really isn't that serious
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    since he hasn't proposed in so long. I argued back that was because we were both still in school. We continued arguing for a little while before I finally just said forget I'm going home. I got
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    called all sorts of awful names going out of the room and packed up and left. I got a lot of calls on the way home which I ignored until my boyfriend called. Apparently the
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    bride called him and told him I just left for no reason and he called to check in on me. I told him everything that had happened and he was kind of dumbstruck by it all.
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    Anyways after the wedding I've had the bride, the groom and a lot of their friends call or message me telling how horrible of a person I was for just leaving the night before the wedding for no
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    reason. None of which were receptive to my side of things and it's starting to worry me that maybe I overreacted by just leaving like that. Anyway AITA
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    Tl;dr left a wedding because the couple to be were mad I wasn't giving ing the best man a chance even though I've been with someone else since I was 14.
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    Edit: I started dating my bf in high-school, he's 2 years older than me my friends don't really know my bf since he doesn't go to the same school as us and when we do see each other it's usually half way between our schools.
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    Fianna9 2d ago Partassipant [2] NTA- this is so bizarre and I feel bad for the poor best man who probably has no idea Op has a boyfriend. But even if she was single and it was a legitimate set up- I find is so
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    creepy that OP was expected to share a room with a man she doesn't know- and she wasn't even told about it first. There is also a pretty decent age gap to set a 20 year old up with a 28 year old with out even telling her it's a set up.
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    And it's hardly shocking that the BF hasn't proposed- 6 years is a long time to be dating, except they would have started going out as kids. They are still young and starting their lives together, marriage could be years off.
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    lenajlch 2d ago Partassipant [1] NTA. Good for you, OP! What they did was incredibly creepy and dangerous. You're 20... he's 28 first of all and a total stranger to you.
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    It is NOT OK that they put you in the same room. I would have left immediately as soon as I found that out. They disrespected you and your relationship... your boyfriend was even kind enough to encourage you to even go to the wedding without him!!
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    You did not overreact. You reacted appropriately, later than what I would. This internet stranger is proud of you for standing up for yourself and getting yourself out of an terrible situation.
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    Far-Belt9950 • 2d ago Aficionado [10] NTA. Once they made you share a room with the guy, they lost any potential grace I might be willing to grant them for wanting the best for you. They stomped all over your boundaries and your relationship. They're not your friends.

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