Controlling MIL Wants to Dictate Everything About Her Daughter’s Wedding, the Groom Puts His Foot Down, Causing Tension

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    r/AITAH ⚫ 11 hr. ago crokesbibbles AITAH for not letting my wife's mom control our wedding?
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    So, my (28M) wife (26F) and I are getting married in a few months, and the planning has been a rollercoaster. From day one, my MIL has tried to take over every decision, from the flowers to the seating chart to even the music. She keeps saying it's "her only daughter's wedding" and she "knows best." At first, we let her
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    have some input, but it got to the point where she was straight up trying to veto every idea my wife and I had.
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    Eventually, my wife told me she wanted to stand up to her, and I was all in. We decided to just plan the wedding the way we wanted. We went all out on stuff like having food trucks, a casual dress code, and even a live band instead of the string quartet her mom wanted. MIL was and said we were "ruining the day." She even threatened not to come.
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    Here's where I might be TA: In the midst of this, I went a little overboard to "reclaim" the wedding. I got way too hyped and ended up buying a custom gaming PC for my best man as a gift, because we used to game all the time together. It's totally unrelated to the wedding, but I wanted to go big since MIL was
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    making me crazy. Now my wife thinks it was a bit much and MIL is FURIOUS, saying it's inappropriate to spend that kind of money on anything not wedding-related, especially since we didn't want to spend more on things she wanted.
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    AITA for putting my foot down with MIL and going all out on something non-traditional? Maybe I took it too far, but at least the best man's hyped.
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    Mystique_Odette • 11h ago NTA. You and your wife are getting married, not your MIL. It's great that you supported your wife in setting boundaries with her mom. The gaming PC gift might have been a bit extra, but it sounds like it was a way for you to cope with the
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    stress. As long as you and your wife are on the same page about it, it's not a big deal. Congrats on the upcoming wedding!
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    N.. 11h ago Edited 10h ago NTA. I think it's a bit financially foolish to spend thousands on your best man but if you can afford it and you like blowing thousands of dollars on a friend go for it. But if you're going into debt then you're not too bright. But I'm going to
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    presume you can afford to do this but tone it down do everything you two want you don't have to buy your friends with gadgets.
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    rocketmn69 11h ago • MIL is trying to get the wedding that she didn't have. Her mother told her how it was going to be. Good for you for breaking the cycle
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    Allyredhen79 11h ago Yeah, the best man present flex is rather weird... but you are both NTA for wanting the wedding you want! How are you 'ruining the day' by having the wedding you want?
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    However, is MIL expected to pay for it? That's a slightly stickier situation and she could expect to have more of a say if that's the case, and be rightfully more I off at the extravagant gift for the best man..
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    Catwomaninred • 11h ago I hope you have money to spend on you and your wife before making big gift like this to your friend without consulting your wife...
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    Imnotawerewolf • 11h ago INFO is your wife mad about it? I don't care how your MIL feels, it's not her business. It IS your future wife's business
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    • ConvivialKat 10h ago I can't really make any judgment without knowing: • Who is paying for the wedding? • Did the PC come out of your wedding funds?
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    • Did you discuss buying the PC with your wife before making such a huge gift purchase? • How did your MIL learn about the PC purchase?
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    ThatAd2403 • 10h ago Who is paying for the wedding?
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    MusexSofia 11h ago NTA. It's your wedding, not your MIL's. You and your wife have every right to plan it the way you want. It sounds like you did a great job supporting your wife in setting boundaries with her mom.

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