Woman Refuses to Lend Her Late Mother's Wedding Dress to Her Sister in Law, Causing Family to Take Sides: 'You didn't even know her'

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    r/Amlthe u/BoldBellaXX • 19h AITA for refusing to let my brother's fiancée wear my late mother's wedding dress?
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    I (32F) lost my mom four years ago. It was devastating, and I inherited a lot of her things, including her wedding dress. My mom and I were incredibly close, and she always talked about how much she wanted me to wear her dress when I got married. I'm not married yet, but I've been saving the dress for my special day.
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    My brother (29M) is getting married next year, and his fiancée (28F) recently asked if she could wear my mom's wedding dress. She said it would mean a lot to her because she never got to meet my mom, and she wants to feel connected to her on the big day. I understand that it's a sweet gesture, but I don't feel comfortable with her wearing something that's so sentimental to me, especially since my mom always wanted me to wear it.
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    When I told her I wasn't okay with it, she got upset and said I was being selfish. Now my brother is upset with me too, saying it's "just a dress" and that I'm ruining their wedding over something that's not a big deal. I offered to help her find a similar dress or even incorporate a piece of my mom's dress into her own gown, but she refused.
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    Our family is now divided, with some saying I'm in the right and others saying I should let it go for the sake of family harmony. AITA for refusing to let her wear the dress? 5,099 1,911 D D
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    Jocelyn-1973 • 19h Colo-rectal Surgeon [49] NTA. If it were 'just a dress' like your brother says, your future SIL wouldn't make such a big deal out of your refusal. This is your dress to wear some day - or not. But it is your special connection. Not hers. 1 10.7k Reply
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    Mandiezie1 • 16h Right. Sounds like SIL is trying to find a cheaper alternative to getting a dress. DO NOT DO IT! SIL will alter the dress and customize it to her body and change details. OP SHUT IT DOWN! NTA 4k
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    Crswpg1 • 16h Yes or she is trying to fake some sort of connection to a person she never knew and score points ← 1.9k
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    Striking Suspect 681 16h Or she's just trying to stir drama 944
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    Dittoheadforever • 19h Commander in Cheeks [252] You're NTA. The dress belonged to your mother. Your future SIL never even met her and has no claim on the dress. There are also the logistics of possibly altering the dress and making it harder for it to be altered for you, the person who actually does have the claim to it.
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    my brother is upset with me too, saying it's "just a dress" and that I'm ruining their wedding over something that's not a big deal If you're "ruining their wedding" because his future. wife is having a tantrum over not getting to wear your mother's dress, they have bigger problems and need to evaluate whether they're mature enough to get married.
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    Our family is now divided They can out. It says even more about the lack of maturity of those two that they're trying to drag relatives into this argument. others saying I should let it go for the sake of family harmony. What precious heirlooms are they willing to lend/ give in the name of family harmony? Reply û 2k ♡
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    StrictlyMarzipanOwl • 16h Also, based on some of the unhinged posts on Reddit, OP should definitely look into hiding her mum's dress somewhere so that her bro and SIL can't find it, take it, and/ or ruin it. 806
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    notentirely_fearless • 17h It's funny how, when someone doesn't get what they want, suddenly you're the one being selfish. NTA Reply 973
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    gabriellevalerian • 16h And how something that's not a big deal can ruin the wedding. ← 246
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    • Dusty_Old_Bones ⚫ 12h Partassipant [1] That part bothered me so much. It's either not a big deal, OR it's ruining the wedding. It cannot be both, and trying to play it both ways is manipulative af. ← 70 3
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    the-freaking-realist • 15h The entitlement is through the roof. The SIL feels absolutely entitled to the dress, and allows nerself to get upset and throw accusatory terms around. Op should shut her down NOW or shell come at her with a long list of things she feels entitled to and demands. ... ← 83
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    Cali-GirlSB 17h NTA. No is a complete sentence. You don't have to explain yourself to no one except your brother. Tell him your reasons and how it's emotional for you because it was YOUR MOM'S. "Bro, this is my hill to die on. This was our MOM's dress. It's now mine and I said no. End of discussion." Tell all of your relatives to back the Reply 184
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    stphn323 16h Nta. I would hide the dress at a trusted friends house until after the wedding. The rest of the family can kick rocks, this isn't their dress so they have no say on the matter. ← Reply ✩ 177
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    Either Management813 16h Partassipant [1] If it's "just a dress" and your brother wants a connection to your mom there, perhaps you should wear it to their wedding instead... ← Reply 97
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    snarkitall⚫ 15h Offer to let your brother wear it. It's his mom, that's the connection. ☆ Ŵ 34 ↓

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