Bridesmaid Brings Kid to Child-Free Wedding After Babysitter Cancels, Bride Approves but Entitled MIL Causes a Scene

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Isabella Penn
Oct 14, 2024 8:00 PM EDT

Weddings are known for a little drama, but this one takes the (wedding) cake. The bridesmaid, a teen mom, had a last-minute babysitter cancellation right before the child-free wedding. Being a good friend, she asked the bride if it was okay to bring her kid along. The bride, who had babysat for the child before, was totally fine with it and gave her blessing. Problem solved, right? Not exactly.

Cue the entitled mother-in-law. Despite the bride's approval, the MIL threw a fit about the child being at the wedding. She made a scene, huffing and puffing, acting like it was the end of the world that one kid was there. But she didn't stop at just making it awkward in person—she took her complaints to Facebook, tagging the teen mom in a post about her anger towards the situation. The poor bridesmaid was understandably hurt and embarrassed, especially since the bride had okayed everything. Meanwhile, the bride was perfectly fine with the kid being there—it was her MIL who decided to make it all about herself. Because what's a wedding without a little unnecessary drama, right?

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    AITA for Bringing My Daughter to a Child-Free Wedding?
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    Hi everyone. I'm a 19-year-old mom to my beautiful 2-year-old daughter, Amelia. Just a bit of backstory: last year, I was asked to be a bridesmaid in a family friend's wedding. I was thrilled. and immediately said yes, even though it was a child-free event. I
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    had arranged for a babysitter, but about a week before the wedding, she informed me that she would no longer be in the city and couldn't watch my daughter. Given the short notice, I approached the bride and asked if I could bring Amelia to the
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    wedding, as I didn't have time to find another trusted babysitter. My daughter is overall a very easygoing baby—she's comfortable with people and happy as long as she's fed. The bride knew this since she'd watched my daughter on
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    multiple occasions before, and she happily agreed, saying that having Amelia there would make the wedding photos even more special. The wedding was going smoothly, though I noticed a few stares from the groom's parents.
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    Amelia stayed with my sisters for most of the day, but during the reception, I took her with me to congratulate the couple. As I approached with Amelia in my arms, the groom's mother suddenly commented, "You shouldn't have brought a baby to
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    a child-free wedding, especially when she doesn't fit the family." I was completely taken aback. For context, my daughter is mixed―I'm half white and half Hispanic, and her father is Black. I've been called "white-washed"
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    because I'm not in contact with my Hispanic family, so I knew exactly what she meant by saying my daughter didn't "fit the family." The bride looked shocked, and the groom immediately stood up and led his parents away. Taking
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    this as my cue, I decided it was time to leave. I made the rounds to say goodbye to everyone and put Amelia in her stroller. As I was leaving, the bride came over to apologize for her in-laws' behavior. I was upset, but I knew it wasn't her fault, so I simply wished her luck and left.
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    Now, about a week after the wedding, I got tagged in a Facebook post-strange, because I don't use Facebook. The post read: "I'm outraged that my grandchildren weren't allowed at this event, but when a teen mother who couldn't be responsible enough to leave her
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    child with the father brings her baby, it's perfectly fine." The post was from the groom's mother. To make things worse, she's also been telling family members that I'm lying about what she said regarding my daughter's appearance. So now I'm wondering, am I the ?
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    MonarchOfDonuts 23h ago Certified Proctologist [29] Oh, NTA. I opened this thinking I might vote differently--it's not cool to just swan into a child-free wedding with a kid--but you had responsibly made arrangements that fell through, then correctly asked for permission to bring your daughter. That permission. was generously given by the bride. It was not the groom's mother's place to decide who
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    could and could not attend. Given the nasty thing she said on that day, and the drama she's so determined to stir up online, it is very obvious that the groom's mom is TA in this situation. You did your best in a rough situation. She, on the other hand, only seems able to do her worst.
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    duke 113 23h ago. Pooperintendant [56] NTA. Bride said it was ok. And groom apparently agreed based on the fact he took his parents out of the situation. Those are the *only* two people who get a say
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    booboo773 • 23h ago Enthusiast [5] NTA. You had child care that backed out. You cleared it with the bride who had no problem with it. This is absolutely none of the mother's business. I'm also guessing the child free rule was probably set because of mother of groom's grandchildren.
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    Apart-Scene-9059 • 23h ago • Colo-rectal Surgeon [39] NTA: But tbh part of me really want to say NAH because I kinda think the grandmother is justified in being upset but she should have been upset with the bride and not you. Because it is a little messed up the grooms (i assume) nieces and nephews couldn't come but the bride's friend child can.
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    Expert-Bus9720 • 21h ago NAH, but if I was the mil I would have been upset. The kids who are related to the groom were not allowed to attend while some kid who is not related to the bride was allowed.
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    Needelz • 18h ago Aficionado [10] ESH - when you make the call for a child free wedding, everybody has to make the sacrifice. The bride and Groom shouldn't have given you an exception. Amelia should've stayed at your sister's away from the wedding. And the groom's parents just in every possible way.
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