Husband Secretly Cancels Finances From Wife Behind Her Back After Overspending on Takeout, She Accuses Him of Starving Her Despite Fridge Full of Food

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    r/AITAH • 6 days ago Careful Credit_4645 AITAH for completely cutting my wife off from our finances because she wouldn't stop ordering takeout?
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    I am 41 years old and male. My wife is 39 years old. My wife doesn't work due to a minor disability. It's not as if she cannot work, but she complains of discomfort and exhaustion all the time. The discussion over her working basically ended five years ago, and I have completely given up on the prospect of her ever having a job again.
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    Seeing as she doesn't even come close to qualifying for disability and brings in no income, we currently live entirely off my salary. I do not mind financially supporting her, but my wife's spending habits have gradually become more and more reckless. It began with her ordering takeout twice a week, and then
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    that escalated into three times a week, and now she's ordering takeout nearly every day.
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    This is all despite our fridge being stocked constantly. I do the shopping, and I make sure to even keep our freezer full of things she would only have to microwave.
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    Last month was a particularly heavy one for her. She spent $1,176 on delivery apps alone. We cannot afford this. There were several days that she ordered twice. I may have reacted harshly, but on Friday, I pulled money out of our savings, completely paid off the card, and then canceled it. I then removed all the money
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    from our joint account and funneled it into my own account.
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    Apparently my wife learned this when she tried to order takeout. She tried to call the company who explained the card had been canceled. She texted me asking what had happened, and I responded that she was cut off.
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    Well, when I walked in the door that evening, my wife was lying on the floor dramatically saying that she had "low blood sugar." I told her she could eat any of the food we have in our fridge or freezer. I also noticed that she took the garbage out, probably for the first time in a decade (I'm surprised she even knew where
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    the outdoor bin was). I can only assume she was disposing of the evidence of what she ate (as she was pretending to have not eaten), but I honestly don't care enough to dig through the garbage to find it.
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    She was furious at me all weekend. Was what I did over the top?
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    emo_bassist 6d ago • NTA $1176 on takeout? Thats a half a months wages for me. No this needs to stop and the manipulation with the blood sugar thing is beyond over dramatic and the fact she took then garbage after
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    years of not doing proves she knows what she is doing
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    Mishy162 6d ago NTA. Wow your wife spent close to my food, fuel, entertainment, clothing etc budget for the month just on takeout. She needs to get a job, part time at a minimum. Why are you still married?
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    RemDC 6d ago "Now that I know you can manage the garbage, I'm leaving that task to you.” Never take out the garbage again. As to her tantrum? Yawn.
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    If she wants takeout so badly, she can find a way to earn money to pay for it.
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    Additional-Aioli... 6d ago Nope! NTA. The most I would do for her is give her an allowance for her personal items ONLY. If she blows that on take out, well, sister, it sucks to be you.
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    reditteditred 6d ago She'll be calling it financial abuse soon. Your best bet is to lock her completely out of any funds, fight any divorce, and force her to sort her own life out. Let her go cold turkey, oh, and get some cold Turkey for the fridge. Why fight the
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    divorce? Because she'll screw you through the court system. Can't get undeserved alimony if you're not divorce. Also keep all records of grocery bills, that way you can prove it's not abuse. And take daily videos with timestamps showing the fridge stocked.
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    Record as much evidence that it's not abuse, its laziness. Not just for the courts, but for when "friends" start accusing you of abuse.
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    Due-Travel2407 6d ago. NTA. Spending over a thousand dollars on takeout while there's food at home, especially when you're the only one earning, isn't sustainable. I think it's fair to set some financial boundaries.

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