'She said it “would ruin the vibe”': Entitled bride forbids cousin from bringing her service dog to her childless wedding, family takes cousin's side and tells her she's overreacting

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    Am I overreacting for refusing to attend my cousin’s “child-free” wedding after they banned my service dog?

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    I (27F) have a service dog for a seizure disorder. He's highly trained, calm, and has been to formal events before with no issues. My cousin (29F) is having a "child-free" wedding, totally fine, I support that.
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    But last week she called to "clarify" that my dog wasn't allowed either because "he's basically like having a kid there." I explained that legally he's not considered a pet and that I need him, especially since weddings can be overstimulating. She said it "would ruin the vibe" in pictures and she "wants everyone focused on the ceremony, not a dog."
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    I offered to seat us in the back or keep him in a quiet corner during photos, but she still refused. She told me if I "really wanted to be there" I could "just skip my meds for one day" and I nearly hung up.
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    My parents think I should just go without the dog "to keep the peace." I'm refusing entirely. Now the whole extended family says I'm making drama over "a furball." AIO?
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    tiny-pest 16h ago Nta . Send a mass text to family, including your parents and future bride. And also brides future husband
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    I will not be attending. I am not overreacting. I am not making. a big deal about a furball. To be told to s k it up and skip my meds for a day. To be told to leave a medical device used to make sure I stay alive is not
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    a joke. How dare any of you say that my needs are an overreaction. How embarrassing and disgusting my entire family is. That me placing myself in danger. Possible dth is more important for ascetic reasons than anything else.
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    So no, I won't be attending the wedding. Not only that. I will no longer be attending family functions that also include holidays or trips to visit my parents. The proof keeping the peace more than my health is more important means I am not seen as family. I am not cared about. I have seen as a person worth anything in anyone's eyes, and I will no. longer subject myself to such entitled selfish people
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    To fiance, I hope you enjoy knowing now what you marry into. I hope my family doesn't exclude or put any family of yours that needs some exceptions made. I hope any child you have is perfect because as you can see my
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    family will never accept anything less than perfection and will blame and bu y said people into doing what is dangerous and deadly for their wants over a person's needs.
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    Mom and dad. I am saddened that the fact you know how bad things are. That service animals are not just given out. Yet to keep peace, you want your child. The one you gave birth to. The one you raised.
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    You are asking to place your child at risk for ascetic. For not causing drama. Instead of causing the most drama there is for such an ask. It hurts knowing that pleasing your family is more important than protecting your child. So I
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    guess thanks for showing me now before I have a partner or kids how selfish and dangerous you are to be around because doing your job. Protecting your child isn't important. For knowing and understanding, you never stop doing such even as your child becomes an adult.
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    So thanks, family, for me saying what will mean nothing to you. Most won't read. Will say what a tantrum i am having. Enjoy drama. Instead, this is more about me speaking my mind for me. So that I can move on from such toxic people with a clean heart.
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    Then you block them. It's hard, but anyone asking you to place yourself in danger isn't family. You shouldn't listen to them. Let them bu y and berate you. They don't love you. They don't care but the perfect image. So stop letting them hurt you. Bu y you. If some
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    really care, they will seek you out. Make amends. If not, then you create a new family that surrounds you with love and understanding. Grieve the family that was. But hold tight to values and needs tightly and don't let anyone walk over you.
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    Icky-Tree-Branch - 17h ago Screw that. Do either of your parents wear glasses? Does anyone use a cane or an insulin pump? I mean, if we're leaving medical devices home for "aesthetic," then they all need to stay home.
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    I need my glasses to function as much, if not more, than you need your service dog because I can't see two inches from my face... and I'm near sighted. If I'm not expected to function without being able to see, you shouldn't be
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    expected to function without your dog. As an aside, though... wouldn't you having a grand mal seizure during the ceremony also ruin the vibe they were going for?
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    AlphabetSoup51 • 16h ago . If you used a wheelchair, would she ask you to just get off your bet for a day and walk like her? The audacity of some people.
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    It's not a pet. It's not an emotional support dog. It's literally a service animal who helps alert you before a seizure. NOT having him there actually INCREASES the odds that you'd have an issue (more stress, no warning) and is THAT really better than having a highly trained, well behaved service dog chilling in the back??
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    Also, she wants you to not take your meds?? kind of sense does that make!? "Don't take your meds. Don't bring your service dog. But also don't have a seizure and make people look anywhere but at meeeeeeee."
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    that bridezilla and anyone siding with her. Wedding gift: A book about the amazing feats of service animals.
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    . Eggplant||14927 • 15h ago we don't keep the peace. nope. never gonna. it's a saying that needs to w boys will be boys. along
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    if you needed oxygen tank, would she ban that too because the vibe? tell your parents it's her wedding and if she has said my service dog is not welcome neither am I. and I'm disappointed in you parents too. you know my dog
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    warns me when a seizure is coming. (or what service your dog performs). wouldn't it be better and safer for my dog to alert me vs having a grand mal in the middle of the first dance? I'll stay home and forego because my safety and health are more important than her desired 'vibe'.

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