‘He's a scrub, dump him': Man Begs Girlfriend to Take In His Kid Because He Got Kicked Out of His House, Internet Reacts

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Bar Mor Hazut • Senior Editor
Feb 15, 2024 9:00 AM EST

If you are a person who is in a relationship with someone who already has a family from a previous relationship, I salute you.

It's scary enough to build your own family and maintain a relationship, but having to do it with an entire family that is not actually yours is another thing. Don't get me wrong, I know a lot of beautiful families that are actually a combination of a few different initial families, and they make it work like chaps, I just think it is a great challenge to take upon yourself.

The woman on this Reddit story might not be so happy about her decision the date her boyfriend, who has a daughter and a not-so-great relationship with his ex-wife. More than that, as you read her story, you start to see that the boyfriend is not actually in the relationship for love, but is actually just trying to take as much as he can from it - like when he asked his girlfriend to let his daughter move in with her, or even to get the daughter a job. Scrub? no thanks.

Scroll down for the full and detailed story. Once you are done with that, click here for a story about a bride who uninvited her sister to her wedding after some unwanted criticism. 

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    AITA For Refusing to Take my Boyfriend's Daughter In?
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    My (F40) boyfriend Kirk (M39) and I are in very different situations in life. He just got fired from a job that his father got him and had decided that he wants to start a
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    business. He doesn't know what type of business or what industry and is focusing on getting rich quick schemes. I've tried to warn him but I'm not getting involved
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    after he inferred that I just want to keep him from his success. Right now, he's doing gigs at a local theater, but he doesn't get called more than three days a
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    week. I'm a business owner and I'm financially stable. I care about him, but I feel like my love is fading. I know it sounds bad but right now, he
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    looks like a potential liability. He recently got kicked out from his cousin's house. This took me by surprise because as far as I knew, he was still living in his old
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    apartment. He asked me to let his daughter (F16) stay over on his assigned weeks as per the shared custody agreement. I declined. I can't have a minor basically come
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    live with me without her mother's knowledge. He says he can't move to MIL's place because there's no space. I suggested he let his child stay with her mom until they can resume the shared
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    custody schedule agreement, but he is dad set against it. He and his ex-wife have a horrible co- parenting relationship and I'm almost sure that she would drag him to court (one again). I want
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    no part of it, and I don't want to be dragged into their enmity. I already had my own divorce/custody drama, and it got resolved years ago and I want zero action into his mess.
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    So he asked me to give his daughter a job at my company. So far, she worked for me on weekends (helping tidy up the office) but he stopped bringing her (or she stopped wanting the
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    job). I paid her $60. So now he asked me to help guide her into business ownership. I have no problem giving her tips, but she needs an education and I'm noticing that he doesn't value
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    that. It's almost like he's cutting corners with her and I don't approve. I like her, but he's treating me like this potentially awesome thing (mentor, bridge, door opener) that happened to
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    his kid without considering that he needs to instill values like responsibility and discipline. She and I have a cordial relationship, but I cannot say that we are close.
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    I recently tried to talk to him about our relationship. I stopped taking him on dates because he never returns the favor. I told him we need to consider breaking up and he got very angry and made
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    it all about me not wanting to take his daughter in, and made me feel like I'm this perverse, jealous stepmom who wants the kid to fail. All of his arguments revolved around me not being there for his kid when she needed me. AITA?
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    darkenough812 - 23 hr. ago Just break up with this loser and find someone who's on the same level with you. This guy is at least 5 levels down.
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    Quelala 23 hr. ago NTA. This guy is too much - what a drain. If you don't want his child living in your home that's your prerogative. Sounds like it might be a huge mess. I feel sorry for the
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    daughter. You should break up with him. It doesn't matter if he thinks you are breaking up because of his daughter. People with his mentality will always find a way to turn the tables and be the victim. He sounds exhausting.
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    LeaJadis 23 hr. ago . NTA. He's pushing his guilt onto you.
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    Beautiful-Report58 · 22 hr. ago You guys are not on the same page, at all. He's asking for more and you're pushing him away. It's time to cut your losses and move on.
    via u/Beautiful-Report58
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    EdumakatedIdiot - 22 hr. ago NTA. As with most things in life, trust your gut feeling. It's seldom wrong.
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    BigComfyCouch4 - 22 hr. ago NTA. He's extremely high. maintenance. And you can't respect him. He is unwilling to put in the work - both for his own success and in your relationship.
    via u/BigComfyCouch4
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    From how you describe it, this isn't going to work out. And when you have a crisis, figure out what the end is going to be and go there.
    via u/BigComfyCouch4
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    Scurvy64Dawg - 22 hr. ago NTA, you are not a partner, you are a resource
    via u/Scurvy64Dawg

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