Man Demands Sister-in-law Move Out After She Asks Her Nephew to Make Lunch Instead of Her, He’s Dumbfounded When She Actually Leaves

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    r/AITAH 5 days ago Few-Commercial-9706 AITA for leaving after my in-law asked me to move out because I didn't cook lunch one time?
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    Two years ago, my sister passed away, leaving behind two boys, David (12) and Peter (7). My brother-in-law was struggling to juggle everything, and he was looking to hire a maid to help care for the kids. I couldn't stand the thought of someone else raising them when they're my blood, so I offered to step in.
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    For two years, I've been taking care of them as if they were my own. Every day, I'd wake up early, make their breakfast, clean the house, do the dishes, wash their clothes, feed and care for the 50 chickens on the property, all while managing my own studies. I did it all without a complaint. I wanted to, because I loved them
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    and wanted to keep my sister's memory alive through them.
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    One Sunday, after two years of doing everything without a single mistake, I went out for a walk. I asked David (now 14) to prepare lunch, which was a simple meal. He said he could manage, and I trusted him. It was the one day my brother-in-law was off from work, so I thought maybe he could help too.
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    A few hours later, I got a call from my in-law, and to my shock, he told me to start looking for a new place because, in his words, I wasn't helping enough. All because I asked David to handle one meal, one time, in two years. I was crushed. I thought I had done everything right, but apparently, that one day was
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    enough for him to decide I wasn't good enough. I didn't argue or fight back. I packed my things and left quietly. Now, my in-law is angry that I left without a word.
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    AITA for leaving after everything I did, just because I didn't cook lunch one time?
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    redditreaderwolf • 5d ago I'm not sure I understand, your brother in law asked you to leave and is now angry that you did what he asked?
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    • DaniCapsFan 5d ago • Your former BIL is pretty ungrateful. If you've been doing all the chores at the house, including caring for your nephews, what has he been doing? And the ONE time you asked a 14- year-old boy to make lunch, your former BIL says leave?
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    Something doesn't add up here. But hey, he told you to leave, so you did. Let BIL handle the house chores, child care, and everything else you did. And why should you say anything? NTA
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    Lyzab77 5d ago • ΝΤΑ Your BIL is not a good person and doesn't raise correctly his children : he should show respect for someone sacrified their own life for 2 years, while that person could have had fun in parallel with studies.
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    Are you sure BIL didn't treat your sister that way? Thinking she was just some sort of slave in the house? I hope children will remember what you did for them and they'll be more respectful than their father. If you can, keep in touch with them (e-mail)
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    organic_veg_ple... • 5d ago. ΝΤΑ Asking a 14 year old to sort out lunch is not a mistake, is a reasonable request. He told you to leave, you did what he asked.
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    You were not mandated to let him know you were leaving, after he told you to. What really happened was a power move from him because he was taking you for granted and you just called it.
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    Until he gets a maid he will have to do a lot of cooking and cleaning, good for him. You now go and live your life. DO NOT GO BACK!!
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    Mina_8Lo2 5d ago NTA You are not the in this situation. After two years of selflessly caring for your nephews and handling household responsibilities, it's unreasonable for your brother-in-law to ask you to
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    move out over one missed meal, especially when you entrusted David to prepare lunch. Your in-law's reaction seems disproportionate and unfair, given all the love and effort you've put in. Leaving quietly was a valid response to feeling unappreciated and hurt, so you did what
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    and hurt, so you did what felt best for you in that moment.
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    • [deleted] 5d ago • I wonder what your poor sister had to put up with. NTA.

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