Woman Labels Sister Selfish After She Refuses to Babysit Her Child One Night, Despite Sister’s Ongoing Financial Support, Leading Sister to Reconsiders Their Arrangement

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    Cathy completely flipped. She told me I was being unfair because I had already agreed to babysit and she was really looking forward to going out. She said she rarely gets a break and deserves to have fun just like everyone else.
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    AITA for asking my sister to cancel her plans to watch her own daughter after I agreed to babysit this Sunday?
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    I (30F) have been supporting my younger sister, Cathy (23F), both financially and emotionally ever since she got pregnant at 20. The baby's father left because he wasn't ready for the
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    responsibility, and since then, I've stepped in to help with everything her college tuition, rent, and pretty much all expenses related to her 3-year- old daughter. Cathy is in
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    university now and doing well academically, but she parties a lot on weekends, trying to live the life she missed out on. Last week, Cathy asked me to babysit her daughter this coming
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    Sunday because a classmate is throwing a house party. I agreed since I didn't have any plans and I know how much she values the little time she gets to go out and relax. I've always tried to be
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    understanding, given how much she's sacrificed being a young mom. But yesterday, my boss emailed me, saying there's going to be a team dinner this Sunday with
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    upper management, and it sounds like it might be a promotion celebration for me. I've worked really hard for this, and the opportunity to connect with the higher-ups could be
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    huge for my career. I told Cathy about the change in my plans and asked if she could stay home with her daughter instead, explaining how important this dinner is for my future.
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    Cathy completely flipped. She told me I was being unfair because I had already agreed to babysit and she was really looking forward to going out. She said she rarely gets a break and
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    said she rarely gets a break and deserves to have fun just like everyone else. I get it she's young, she's been through a lot, and she doesn't get out much. But I also feel like I've done more
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    than enough for her and her daughter over the past few years. I'm not just her sister I'm practically her financial safety net. She told me I was "selfish" for trying to back out last minute and
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    that I only care about myself and my career. I told her that while I want to help, this is a big opportunity for me, and I can't always put her needs first. I also pointed out that it's her daughter,
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    not mine, and it's not unreasonable to ask her to miss one party to take care of her own child. Now, Cathy is giving me the cold shoulder, saying I don't
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    understand how hard it is to be a young mom and that I'm putting my career ahead of her mental health and happiness.
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    AITA for asking her to cancel her plans so I can go to my work dinner this Sunday? Or is she being entitled by expecting me to drop everything for her again?
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    Sassy-Peanut ⚫ 2d ago • Cathy is a spoiled br t - and if she feels your career is less important that her night out with friends, she cannot expect your financial support to continue either. Let her find out what being a single Mum is really like without you as her cushion.
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    Level-Tangerine-8172 • 2d ago that I only care about myself and my career. Would the be the very same career that allows you to financially support her? She is being very
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    entitled and ungrateful. Being a young, single parent is definitely hard, but it's ultimately a decision she made for her life, and she needs to take responsibility for it. It sounds like you give her a lot of
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    support of all kinds, and to need to attend a dinner that could be crucial for your career is way more important than a house party. NTA
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    Madmattylock • 2d ago • NTA, but you created this monster by not letting her feel the reality of the position she's in.
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    Autumn Laughter • 2d ago. You know I read Reddit too much when I already know your sister is going to bail on Sunday regardless and leave you watching the kid. Please have a plan if she does this. NTA.
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    Cultjamm23 2d ago You aren't helping. You are enabling. Stop it.
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    Happy-go-luckyAlways • 2d ago • NTA - Why are you supporting an irresponsible adult. That kid isn't yours, your sister is a [ S parent. They aren't your responsibility. Cut her off and quit complaining. Your only a free babysitter and an ATM to her, she doesn't respect you.
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    brenda_meevazquez • 2d ago • NTA. Given how long you've been providing for your sister and her daughter, it makes sense that you would want to put your professional development first. She shouldn't expect you to continuously put your life on hold
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    for her; you deserve this chance. Instead of constantly depending on you, perhaps it's time for her to take charge of her own child.
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    SecretarySofia OP.2d ago. That's exactly how I feel. I've been there for her so many times, and I've tried to support her in every way I can, but it's unrealistic for her to expect me to keep putting my life on hold. This work event is a huge opportunity for me, and I deserve the chance to prioritize my own professional development for once.
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    I do think it's time for her to take more responsibility for her child, and hopefully, this situation will be a wake-up call for her. I'll always be there to help, but she needs to step up as a parent and not depend on me as her go-to solution every time
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