'This whole situation is messy': Houseguest who overstayed her welcome "makes a scene" with garden contractors, sibling kicks her out

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Remy Millisky • Writer and Editor
Oct 26, 2024 3:00 PM EDT

How long can you live somewhere before you officially call your home? Six months? One year? Three years? It all depends, and that's why u/Holiday_Review_8324 asked the internet to decide if they were in the wrong for kicking out their houseguest. 

This person shared that they and their fiancee share a home with Amy. Amy is the original poster's sister, and she's been living with them since she was a teen mom (she now has a few kids). After living in a home for four years, you'd probably consider it your own. But for some reason, the original poster doesn't think their sister should have any say in the way the home looks. The sister got into a big squabble with the neighbor over a patch of grass that her kids love to play in. Instead of siding with their sister, though, this homeowner took their feud personally. Some people sided with the homeowner, saying it was their property to do with as they chose. But others scolded the original poster for letting their sister live there for so long before pivoting and kicking her out unexpectedly. You can read the full story below and see who you side with. 

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    AITA for kicking my sister out of my house over a garden? My sister has lived with me since she was a teen mom. She has her own little space for her and her kids. It's my house. I own it.
    via u/Holiday_Review_8324
  • 03
    My fiancee Amy moved in and as my wife Amy can remodel the home as she likes. Amy and I have been together for 4 years. My sister has lived with me for 6.
    via u/Holiday_Review_8324
  • 04
    My sister and Amy got in this huge argument over ripping out my grass where her kids play and making a garden that will bloom next spring. Amy had discussed this with me and it was agreed on. Because of our different schedules we forgot about my sister and telling her about the garden. Amy took a few days off from work to meet with the contractors for the initial digging up the yard. This happened while I was at work.
    via u/Holiday_Review_8324
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    My sister made a scene with the contractors and yelled at Amy. Amy told my sister that it's time for her to move out and get on with her own life. I have been supporting her and her kids for too long.
    via u/Holiday_Review_8324
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    A neighbor got involved and called the police saying Amy wasn't authorized to have the contractors dig up the yard. Amy was asked to leave the property by the police with an overnight bag. This was a supervised by the police because I was not reachable at work. My sister told me "can you believe this b ripping up the yard like that"
    via u/Holiday_Review_8324
  • 07
    I have to leave work and take my hour commute home to deal with my sister. I told her it's time for her to move out and she should have never been involved with the garden. It wasn't her place. It's not her home. My sister was complaining that her boys love to play in that patch of grass and she can't believe I would make changes to her play area without consulting her.
    via u/Holiday_Review_8324
  • 08
    Amy is ped at my sister and the neighbor. The neighbor tried to apologize but I had to tell the neighbor there is no more coming over because she will be trespassed and she had no business calling the police and making the situation worse. The neighbor explained she didn't know Amy was authorized to make those changes and I told the neighbor too bad.
    via u/Holiday_Review_8324
  • 09
    She's banned from the property even though she's friends with my sister and their kids play together. I told my sister that her and the boys have to go and she needs to be out by the New Year or will take legal action on her.
    via u/Holiday_Review_8324
  • 10
    My sister keeps crying and apologizing but her actions showed Amy what her married life would be like with my sister lived with us and I'm putting my wife first and my sister has to go.
    via u/Holiday_Review_8324
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    Edit: Amy and I talk to a lawyer and we are getting the legal paperwork together for my sister's eviction. The lawyer also suggested cameras for the yard and those will be installed next week. I'm sending my sister legal notice of the cameras being installed to cover my per the lawyer's request.
    via u/Holiday_Review_8324
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    I do not blame the police for their reaction and neither does Amy. Our destanation wedding is upcoming in a few weeks. My sister was not going because of her relationship with our parents. But the cameras will be installed by then with the legal notice my sister is not to tamper with the cameras or make any cosmetic changes to the property while we are out of town.
    via u/Holiday_Review_8324
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    Edit: My sister has never paid rent or utilities or any other upkeep of the home. We have maid that comes every other week to do basic cleaning because the house gets dirty with the kids. My sister does have a job and both Amy and I do watch the boys several nights a week.
    via u/Holiday_Review_8324
  • 14
    SuperbPotenti... NTA You took your sister in because she was a teen mom and supported her financially, as I understand it, for at least six years. You talk about kids, plural, among other things: did she get pregnant after moving in with you?
    via u/SuperbPotential2610
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    I also have to wonder: what about the father? Your parents? Regardless of the answers, your sister has behaved very badly. She's a guest in your house, she's being supported, and she even has the nerve to meddle in your future wife's renovations? The one you've been with for four years now?
    via u/SuperbPotential2610
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    'Entitled' doesn't go far enough in this case. Not to mention the neighbour... nosy and inappropriate. You did well across the board. I only feel sorry for the children, who will suffer the most from the tantrums of these two.
    via u/SuperbPotential2610
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    Shichimi88 Nta. The neighbor overstepped. You've had too much grace for your sister. Start the eviction notice now officially, or she'll squat.
    via u/Shichimi88
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    Leading_Duria... Send your sister a notice to quit with her expected move out date listed. Looking up legally evicting someone because if you want her out by new year, starting the process now is essential.
    via u/Leading_Durian5855
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    Basically if she doesn't move out by new year, the notice to quit will have already been served saving you months of living with her while you evict her. NTA, she has been given plenty of time to vacate. She's not a teen anymore.
    via u/Leading_Durian5855
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    -Jewelz- NTA - So if I'm reading this correctly, she moved in with you as a teen mom and has had more children since living with you. She isn't financially independent but has continued to make babies. It is definitely time for her to step out on her own and support the family she has created. You also gave her PLENTY of notice,
    via u/-Jewelz-
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    that was very kind. On the bright side, it sounds like she has friends maybe she can move in with one of them. Make sure you get everything in writing. If she is willing to make a scene in the neighborhood and talk to the cops to have your
    via u/-Jewelz-
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    fiancé thrown out, no telling what she will do down the line. Good on you for sticking up for your future wife.
    via u/-Jewelz-
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    Salty-Initiative... ESH I keep typing and deleting. This whole situation is messy. So your sister is basically your tenant; you don't indicate that she pays rent, but still, six YEARS of living there with her own little space as you call it. And suddenly with no notice or consideration you're digging. up part of her space. That
    via u/Salty-Initiative-242
  • 24
    was an AH move. Like, you don't have to ask her opinion or permission, it IS your house. But it takes ages to find the workers and get the quotes and in all that time you didn't have a minute to tell her? Please. Amy decides to evict your sister in the middle of the argument instead of de- escalating, and Amy is half of the duo that didn't find a
    via u/Salty-Initiative-242
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    moment to give your sister a heads up. She's not blameless in this mess, but more so than your side of this family drama. Sister is most of the problem; she got waaay too comfortable considering your house her home and expecting nothing to change with your marriage, and she's placing blame on Amy
    via u/Salty-Initiative-242
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    and calling her names when she should be talking this out with you. Neighbor is problematic but this sounds like quite a to- do taking place on your front lawn. Still, she had to have known Amy probably DID have the authorization to do this and was sticking her nose in where she shouldn't.
    via u/Salty-Initiative-242

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