Woman Demoted From Maid of Honor at Sister’s Wedding for Prioritizing Work Instead of MOH Duties, Sister Defames Her Career in Retaliation: ‘You’re just a glorified housewife’

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    r/AITAH 11 hr. ago No_Factor_2244 AITAH for not helping my sister pay for her wedding after she said my job isn't a real job?
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    Throwaway. I (26 F) work as a house manager to a family. One of my bosses is an entrepreneur/ business owner and her husband, my other boss, is a bigwig in a construction company and due to their schedules they needed a house manager.
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    My job is actually pretty simple. I manage the house. I do light cleaning when the housekeeper is off, run their errands, I manage all the vendors coming to the house, light cooking, laundry, maintain. vehicles, take care of the animals, and do some light childcare. I drive their kids to school and afterschool activities and do
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    afterschool activities and do some supervision when we're home. I also maintain my bosses schedules.
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    I'm in charge of scheduling just about everything in their personal lives (family dinners, medical appointments, vacations) and many things in their professional lives (client meetings, work trips, etc). I make sure everything that needs to be scheduled gets scheduled and that there are no conflicts. Most everything goes through me and I have to be
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    aware of everything going on in their lives.
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    I genuinely love my job. I live on site in my own private bedroom and bathroom, I'm paid wonderfully and get amazing benefits, my bosses and their children are amazing people. And contrary to what you might think, the hours are really good. I have holidays and weekends off and I'm free to choose the hours I want to work.
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    My sister has always looked down on my life and career and has told me several times that it's not a real job, I'm just a glorified housewife without the benefit of "finally getting married". I'm happy single, I've never had an interest in marriage or kids of my own.
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    A few months ago my sister (22 F) got engaged and asked me to be her maid of honor. I let her know that while I was honored I wouldn't have the time to do all of the things a maid of honor does and that either she'd have to have someone else do those duties or she'd have to choose another maid of honor and I'd just be a bridesmaid.
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    My sister was hurt and angry and said a lot of insulting things about me and my job and how it's "not even an actual job" so why is it such a big deal?. She ended up revoking her offer and demoting me to guest. Which hurt my feelings. I hadn't heard much about the wedding until last week.
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    My sister called me asking if I could help cover the cost of the last vendor they needed for the wedding. Apparently she didn't know how much flowers cost and they'd already used almost the entire budget. I laughed at her and told her that it was ironic she was asking me for money because "I don't have a job, remember?"
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    Not to mention she had kicked me out of her bridal party for not having the time to do every event. My mother has called and texted me about how I'm being childish and petty and that it's ridiculous of me to treat my sister like that and prioritize work over family. AITAH?
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    cute_neighborx • 11h ago • NTA. your sister belittled your job, and now she expects you to financially support her wedding after treating you poorly it's understandable that you feel hurt and don't want to help, especially given her previous
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    comments and actions your response is a valid expression of frustration, and your decision to prioritize your boundaries and work is not unreasonable.
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    feisty_bombshell • 11h ago Your sister is being incredibly rude and entitled. It's not okay for her to belittle your job and then expect you to bail her out financially.
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    EMPZ2017 11h ago • I am actually jealous of your job. If you are content with being single and no children of your own, and love organizing and running basically a mini village... it's like a dream come true! You're NTA, and I agree that telling your sister that since
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    she doesn't think you have an actual job AND you're only a guest at the wedding, well, wedding guests don't cover the cost of vendors. Just be prepared that she may double down again and revoke your invite entirely.
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    HarlotteHoeha... • 11h ago Absolutely not the AH. Sis can face the consequences of being a smugah le
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    LadyMoRouge • 10h ago Since when are siblings piggy banks for weddings, anyway? So confused how she even feels entitled to your money at all, even without the history. NTA
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    candyheartswish ⚫ 10h ago • She may be caught up in wedding stress, but that's no excuse for treating you poorly. If she can't respect your career and choices, she shouldn't expect you to step in with financial help. It's her wedding, she's the one who should have thought ahead about the budget.

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