'What a grinchy thing to do': Woman surprises grandmother with incorrectly labelled gift card after "joking" about it

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Remy Millisky • Writer and Editor
Nov 12, 2024 5:00 PM EST

The entire family is giving this woman the side-eye after she did something strange during a gift exchange. 

Instead of getting an individual present for every member of your family, some families choose to do Secret Santa gift exchanges. It's a good way to add some fun to the typical present exchange. Everyone is assigned a family member to gift a nice present to in secret. Then, when the present is opened, the person usually finds out who gave it to them. It's a sweet tradition that allows each person to be really thoughtful about their present without breaking the bank. After all, it can be way easier to give one $50 present to one person rather than 10 or 15 individual gifts to everyone in the family. 

This person is being called out for acting a bit stingy. If she was having financial trouble, maybe she should've quietly talked to the Secret Santa organizer. Instead, money troubles or not, she's making a bad impression on everyone else, and commenters agreed that what she did was kind of tacky. 

Up next, this neighbor decided that she had an issue with one family's boat: it was in view, so she decided it had to be moved ASAP. 

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    AITAH FOR CALLING MY SIL CHEAP 1 (24F) organize a secret Santa every year for my husband's (25M) family. We set the budget at $50 with the expectation that your gift(s) should be as close to the $50 mark as possible. (They
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    don't want one person receiving a $5 gift while another gets a $100 one). My grandmother (70F) lives with my husband and I and is included in holidays and special events with my in laws.
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    Last year, my sister-in-law (35F) drew my grandmother for the secret Santa. When we were going around handing out our gifts, my SIL handed my grandmother a small box. My grandmother opened it and inside was a gift card to one of her favorite stores. My SIL made a joke that the card had $45 on it because the box she put it in cost
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    her $5. She has a sarcastic/gotcha sense of humor so everyone laughed, including her. We continued opening gifts and then played games the rest of the night.
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    When my grandmother used the card the cashier told her she had a remaining balance of $5. The item she was buying was exactly $50. She repeatedly told the cashier there must be a mistake, that the card had $50. Then we remembered my SILS "joke". She had been serious. My
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    grandmother and I kinda just rolled our eyes in frustration and I paid the $5 as my grandmother is on an extremely tight budget due to medical expenses (at the time she had just finished a round of chemo, she is cancer free now!). She was only able to buy this item she wanted because she thought the gift card would cover
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    it. Later that day I told my husband what had happened because the purchase put us over our spending budget for the month which we are really strict with in order to help support my grandmother (The $5 didn't put us over our means, just our budget because it was the end of December). He voiced he was frustrated too and would have
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    paid the $5 if he was in my shoes so no worries on that. We didn't mention it to anyone else or discus it after that point. It should be noted that my SIL makes a good salary and was not tight on money, so taking the price of the box off the gift card wasn't out of necessity. And she is not usually the nickel & dime sort, in fact she usually goes above & beyond.
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    Here is where I might be the A hole. In planning this years secret Santa, I included at the end of the details "(please do not include wrapping materials into the cost of the gift, I have a big stash of them from the Christmas clearances last year and am happy to share!)". I honestly thought nobody would remember, but apparently most
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    people remembered her comment and thought I was calling her out. And messaged her poking fun at her about it. She sent me an angry message saying I was an A hole for calling. her cheap to the whole family. So... am I?
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    Edit: we never told anyone else about the gift card being $45. So unless she told someone, they were all poking fun at her for the comment she made- not the gift card balance. I'm also not sure how many people she meant by "everyone" as I haven't discussed this with any other family members. That's just the word she used when she sent the angry text.
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    Edit: My SIL and I usually get along great and are friendly. Which is why this whole thing felt odd. And why I didn't bring it up at any point. I didn't want things to be awkward or tense. And why I thought referencing the "joke" she made wouldn't be a big deal. If she was actually a r de person I would have just ignored the angry text and never made this post. ALSO in this circumstance | thought the gift card was actually
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    really thoughtful. My grandmother enjoys shopping for herself and hasn't been able to for quite some time. She had confirmed with me that it was my grandmother's favorite store. Edit: everyone else who gave gift cards gave $50 gift cards as that was the spend threshold. That's been the norm for the last 7 years we've been doing it. That paired
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    with the fact that SHE laughed after she said it is why everyone assumed she was joking. Edit: The gift card had $50 written on it, and the box was plain white cardboard. More reasons we thought she was joking.
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    Edit: The family votes/agrees on the budget- it was not solely my decision. This is the only gift we give for the adult family members, it isn't on top of other gifts. My husband and I gave my grandmother the $50 so that she could participate in the exchange. And the family together sets the rules etc. My role as the organizer is to set up the name drawing in the app, make sure everyone gets their
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    links, and remind people to draw names & make wish lists by Thanksgiving (that's the day the FAMILY chose, not just me). I also work out any glitches in the app or issues other people are having. Edit: When I say budget, I mean the amount of money we PLAN to spend in a month. We included the cost of gifts into our budget.
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    Once we hit our budget we don't buy anything unless it is absolutely necessary until the next month. That's how we stay on track to reach our financial goals, and that's why I clarified that it wasn't above our means to spend an extra $5, just out of budget. I included this to explain why I mentioned it to my husband. I took her to the store
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    on Dec 30th or 31st, which why our budget for the month was exhausted. I get it, it's $5. But it was everything else that made it a bigger deal than if she had just labeled the gift card $45 and left it at that. If that was the case, I personally wouldn't have a problem with it and neither would my grandmother. But other family members probably would have made comments, which I assume is why SIL tried to play it off as a joke.
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    Edit: Most people gifted items or experiences they thought their person would enjoy. A handful of people got gift cards, my SIL being one of them. And in her case the gift card was actually a thoughtful gift since my grandmother enjoys shopping but hasn't been able to shop with her means for a long time.
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    I should clarify, I was fully intentionally referencing my SILS "joke". But I felt like it was well earned. And since we didn't talk about it with anyone I didn't think anyone other than her would notice it was directed at her. That's why I'm wondering if I am indeed the Ahole or not.
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    Also, sorry for so many edits. I made the initial post in a rush and upon seeing some of the comments realized I left out a lot of info and the post was confusing in some places. If you read this far, thank you.
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    KylosToothbrush The issue is she labeled the card's value as $50. She embarrassed your grandmother. She's an AH for that and should apologize for the deception. You didn't call your SIL cheap- you added an expectation to the festivities. The fact that everyone remembered her extremely tacky
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    announcement from last year is a consequence of her lack of class. She could have labeled the card as $45 and given the gift and shut her mouth. Her issue with cost of the gift box is not your grandmother's problem. She could have tucked it in a plain envelope and tied a bow on it. She didn't have to
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    buy a box and then proclaim it is part of the gift. She is not only cheap, she is embarrassing. NTA
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    themixedwonder and this is why i don't do secret santa bulls.....
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    forgetregret1day SIL deserved to be called out. What a grinchy thing to do to an elderly person. NTA.
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