Stay-at-home girlfriend of 11 years cheats on her boyfriend, tries to sue him when he stops supporting her lifestyle: 'She said I should move out but continue paying the bills to give her and the new guy a chance to get on their feet'

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Emmy Pratt • Senior Editor
Nov 30, 2024 6:00 PM EST

You can't build a life with somebody if you aren't financially on the same page. I'm not saying that a poor person can never marry a rich person or a saver should never be with a spender, but you have to be realistic about the kind of future you can have with someone whose robbing you blind. If you have a partner who doesn't have a job, isn't looking for a job, and isn't doing something as time-consuming or important as having a job, like attending school or raising your family, you might have a leech on your hands. It's noble to support somebody you love while they're going through a difficult time in their lives, but there must be limits.

Supporting an unemployed partner is one thing, but this story is another ballgame. After cheating on her boyfriend with an unemployed guy, this woman expects her ex to continue paying her bills, and when he didn't, all heck broke loose. 

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    Ex so entitled she thinks I should be paying bills for her and the guy she cheated with.
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    Found out my girlfriend of 11 years was cheating me with an unemployed dude, of all people. I'm not rich but I provided her a good lifestyle. Paid most of her bills. Provided a nice place. Nails and hair done regularly. Dates every weekend. Couple vacations a year. She got used to that lifestyle and wanted to keep living it despite cheating with a broke dude. She didn't admit to the cheating. I caught on to it. Once it was clear I was done with her, the entitlement really started to show.
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    She said because I had family in the area and she didn't, I should move out but continue paying the bills to give her and the new guy a chance to get on their feet. She also insisted on keeping my dogs, told me I could only see my own dogs if I asked the new guy. But since they didn't have any money, I needed to continue paying for food and vet bills. Instead, I kicked her out and kept my dogs.
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    At that point she was angry. And still felt entitled to my income. After I kicked her out of my place she claimed she was forced to quit her job because I forced her to relocate. And then she tried to sue me for lost wages. Which didn't work out in her favor. You'd think she'd stop at this point but she didn't. She contacted my work and threatened to sue them, stating "your employees actions cost me everything" and tried to insist they "settle outside of court with her for $100,000 (she didn't m
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    You'd think she'd stop at that point. But she didn't. She started messaging every family member of mine that she could find. Told them I cost her everything out of spite just because she moved on with someone else, and that the least they could do is send her money to help her get a place and pay rent. When that didn't work, she went online and begged for people to send money to her cash app to help her with a place to live, and claimed it was a domestic violence situation. I don't understand ho
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    floofienewfie That woman is unhinged. Hope OP has her permanently blocked everywhere.
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    Ok_Combination475 OP I have her blocked on everything and have a restraining order. She has some serious issues. I used to love her, now I laugh at her.
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    lonster1961 Keep records and recordings of every thing. I wouldn't be surprised if she started trying to get the law involved by making ab e allegations
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    Ok_Combination475 OP You are correct, she did try it. Posted pictures of herself in the hospital and claimed I attacked her. Luckily I have ring cameras that showed me at home all day on the day she claimed I attacked her. She didn't even call law enforcement. Just posted it for sympathy. And included the hospital pics in her messages to my family when she she was asking them for money.
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    Much-Recording9444 I'd go after her for defamation
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    AdAccomplished6870 It was a fun and amusing story until she claimed DV. You need to sue her for slander or defamation, even if only asking for a token judgement of $1, to shut that stuff down
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    Ok_Combination475 OP She claimed DV against her ex before me too and I'm starting to wonder if it's a pattern with her. It absolutely disgusts me because I grew up seeing my mom be a genuine DV victim. People like her are why it can be so difficult for people like my mom to get help and support. I've definitely considered a slander suit. I'm in the process of getting my license in mental health counseling and I could see her trying to lose me my license if I don't take some measures to protect m
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    AtypicalAshley Thank god you didn't marry her
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    VampireGirl99 Or have kids with her.
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    procivseth TIL: Cheating on someone is "moving on".
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    Ok_Combination475 OP Yeah I noticed her wording with that one guess me "punishing her for moving on" sounds a lot better than "punishing her for cheating" in her head
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    boikisser69 Surprised she didn't try to pull the pregnant with your kid card
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    Ok_Combination475 OP Honestly I'm a bit concerned about that, because she is claiming she's pregnant. She's claiming it's the new guys, but she looks kind of big and she's a smaller girl so that's strange. She's only been with this new guy for about a month. But she looks like she's put on a good 30 lbs. I've successfully not gotten her pregnant for 11 years though. I'm pretty intentional about it. I don't think he's the only one she's cheated with though.
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    He moved from out of state to be with her. We all knew each other from high school. But I caught her on local dating apps before the new boyfriend moved here. Part of me thinks she's putting on weight and faking a pregnancy. But I guess we shall see.
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    Glittering Rush_1451 This reminds me of my stepdad and his ex wife. When they divorced since she had been a stay at home wife/mother for most of their 20 year marriage she was awarded a hefty alimony payment from him every month for what was supposed to be like 10 years. After about five years however she and her boyfriend decided to get married on a whim so my stepdad was off the hook. The month after they got married she called him wondering where her check was that month
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    and he responded that since she was remarried he no longer had to pay her alimony. She didn't believe him and contacted her lawyer who informed her that it was true he didn't owe her alimony anymore since she remarried. She then decided that the solution was to divorce her new husband and that would somehow get her alimony payments reinstated since she was no longer remarried. This obviously didn't work but she spent the next 3 years trying.
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