Woman Kicks Sister Out of Home After Disrespectful Behavior, Parents Take Sister’s Side and Tells Other Daughter to ‘Put up with it’

Advertisement
  • 01
    the final straw was last weekend. i had to go out of town for work, and when i came back, my place was TRASHED. there were bottles everywhere, my couch had this gross stain on it, and worst of all, one of my plants (a gift from my late grandmother) was tipped
  • 02
    r/AITAH ⚫4 hr. ago BugOld 1319 AITA for Telling My Sister She Can't Stay With Me Anymore?
  • 03
    okay so here's the deal. i (29F) have been living in my own apartment for like 6 years now, and honestly i'm pretty proud of it. it's nothing fancy but i worked HARD to make it cozy, ya know? well, my sister, kelly (24F), shows up at my door 4 months ago. saying she's leaving her boyfriend because he's "toxic." i didnt even
  • 04
    think twice. i told her she could stay with me as long as she needed. family comes first, right?
  • 05
    at first it was fine. we used to be close when we were kids, so it was kinda nice having her around again. but then it started. like she's leaving dishes everywhere, taking my clothes without asking (AND RUINING SOME), and blasting music at 2am when i have work the next day. i tried to talk to her about it but she'd just
  • 06
    laugh and say i was "too uptight" and that i should "relax."
  • 07
    it got worse when she started bringing random guys over. i get it, she's single and wants to have fun, but this is my HOME, not a hotel. one night i woke up to find some guy i've never met sitting in my living room eating MY leftovers. i LOST IT. i told her it was disrespectful, and she rolled her eyes and said i was being "dramatic."
  • 08
    the final straw was last weekend. i had to go out of town for work, and when i came back, my place was TRASHED. there were beer bottles everywhere, my couch had this gross stain on it, and worst of all, one of my plants (a gift from my late grandmother) was tipped over and half-de.d. when i confronted kelly, she shrugged and said, "it's just a plant, chill out."
  • 09
    i told her she had two weeks to find somewhere else to go. she called me a "selfish b**ch" and said i was "abandoning her" when she needed me. now my mom is calling me, saying i should just "put up with it" because "family. helps family." but honestly? i'm done. i feel like she's taking advantage of me and doesn't respect my space at ALL.
  • 10
    so, AITA for telling her she has to leave? i feel bad, but i also feel like i'm being pushed to the edge here.
  • 11
    SavannahWriight •4h ago. NTA. You offered her a place to stay out of kindness, but she's disrespected your space and boundaries. You've been more than patient, and it's okay to stand up for yourself.
  • 12
    Ravens-Mind 4h ago NTA. If family helps family, then your Mom can 'put up with it". Sister FAFO'ed.
  • 13
    pastelberrywhis... •4h ago. NTA. Your sister crossed so many boundaries it's not even funny. Borrowing clothes without asking? Disrespecting your home? Bringing random guys over? You're not abandoning her; she's taking advantage of your kindness. She needs a
  • 14
    wake-up call, and you're 100% right to set boundaries.
  • 15
    Zestyclose_Medi... •4h ago. Mom doesn't want her back. Family helps family by having boundaries and demonstrating a responsible adult life. She could get you evicted. Get her out asap.
  • 16
    • p... 4h ago Edited 4h ago • NTA. 1. Four months is a long time to give her to get her act together. Especially if it's been rent free.
  • 17
    2. She is not taking care of your things. 3. She has been repeatedly disrespectful to you when you have tried to discuss it with her This is pretty much the textbook definition of 'taking advantage'.
  • 18
    I'd kick her out. But if you do decide to let her stay, there needs to be hard ground rules. She needs to pay rent, she need to clean up after herself, she needs to have no person spend the night unless vetted by you, and she needs to have no person
  • 19
    there when you are not home unless with your approval. Also, she needs to get a job and/or enroll in school. If any if these rules are broken she gets a strike. Three strikes and she out of there. Period.
  • 20
    You are not running a Holiday Inn or a rehabilitation home for girls who don't want to grow up. Edit to add: also, if you let her stay, she has to pay to have your sofa professionally cleaned. Non- negotiable.
  • 21
    TrixieCollins • 4h ago NTA. Family or not, you deserve to have your space respected. It's not fair for her to treat your apartment like a party pad, especially when she's disregarding your feelings. Setting boundaries is important, and it sounds like she's way over hers.

Tags

Scroll Down For The Next Article