Update: 'They didn't notice my phone was recording': Parents discover their 18-year-old posted social media videos about them, family stages an intervention

Author image for Remy Millisky
Remy Millisky • Writer and Editor
Dec 20, 2024 11:00 AM EST

After a few social media videos were posted, an entire family was forced to confront the issues between their kids. 

This older brother was curious if he was in the wrong for exposing his parent's favoritism. He writes that he's basically always been in competition with his brother, and it's not like their parents even tried to hide it from them. One example he gave is that his parents paid for his brother's college education because he "needs more help." But when it comes to their own tuition, u/just-a-big-brother is out of luck. He's taking a gap year to save up money for school, but his parents are paying for little bro to go to college in secret!

This person was so outraged to discover the deception that he started recording a video, secretly capturing the whole conversation. And, as is becoming increasingly common these days, he made a few social media videos. He called out his parents, ranted a bit, then posted them. 

When these issues were suddenly brought to light, it started a whole chain reaction, which you can check out in the story and update below. 

Next up, read about these terrible gift-givers who gave out bad presents, like one person who gave "a single sock." 

Add as a preferred
source on Google
Advertisement
  • 01
    Cheezburger Image 10444238336
    via Getty Images For Unsplash+

    This image is for illustration only, and the subjects are models; the image does not depict the actual subjects of the story.

  • 02
    AITA for exposing my parents' favoritism
    via u/just-a-big-brother
  • 03
    AITA for exposing my parents' favoritism - 28 October My parents have always favored my younger brother. I was by no means unloved. But it was blatantly obvious who they cared about more. I worked a part time job to get my first car, but my brother got one as a present. It wasn't new, but was much newer than my car. It was the same with just about anything else, like clothes, video games and cell phones.
    via u/just-a-big-brother
  • 04
    I'm 18 and am taking a gap year before community college to work a full time job and save money for tuition. But a while back I heard my parents talking about how much they were going to pay for my brother's tuition. I secretly recorded the conversation from around the corner and then came out asking my parents why they were gonna pay for my brother's college, but not mine. They didn't notice my phone was recording and just said that my brother needs more
    via u/just-a-big-brother
  • 05
    help. I asked how so when I wasn't getting any sort of scholarship, and he likely wouldn't either. Then I asked a few more questions about why things have always been this way. They got mad and my father told me that perhaps it's time I moved out because they are sick of keeping a roof over my head. I pointed out I pay rent. But they didn't care.
    via u/just-a-big-brother
  • 06
    I left the room and in a fit of rage uploaded the video to two. different social medias I have and ranted about how this is how my parents have always been. Well a few hours my parents were pounding at my door. My dad was screaming at me about how I made them look bad. We fought some more and they left the room fuming.
    via u/just-a-big-brother
  • 07
    My grandparents contacted me later and said they were appalled, then came to visit with a lot of the family the next day. There was a huge family intervention and my parents were made to sit on the couch and look at their feet while being told off. It was then I found out they'd been receiving money for years from my grandparents to help with family expenses. My brother looked like he didn't know what to do. So he sided with the rest of the family and said he's noticed
    via u/just-a-big-brother
  • 08
    how I'm treated as well. My parents gave me a huge apology that sounded forced. My grandparents have offered that I come live with them soon and will cut off the monthly payments to my parents, my father told me I should have never told the rest of the family and now won't talk to me, and my mother has been crying for days. So I'm starting to wonder if I went to far.
    via u/just-a-big-brother
  • 09
    So AITA for exposing my parents favoritism? Verdict: NTA
    via u/just-a-big-brother
  • 10
    Update AITA for exposing my parents' favoritism - 1 November I decided to go ahead and call my grandparents to accept their offer to move in. During the phone call I asked them why there was monthly payments being sent to my parents. Turns out my parents were living beyond their means for a while because my mother quit her job to be a full time stay at home mom. My grandparents decided
    via u/just-a-big-brother
  • 11
    to help out by sending them money monthly to help with my parents mortgage and also to set aside some of that money for college savings for both my brother and I that was to be split evenly. Turns out my parents only planned to put that savings towards my brother's college. And that's also how they bought his car as well. So from now on my parents are now on their own financially. Likely my mother will have to go back to work to help my dad keep up the mortgage.
    via u/just-a-big-brother
  • 12
    I confronted my parents and asked why they've always treated my brother as the favorite. Then asked if there was something I needed to know. Turns out there was...NOTHING! Literally nothing! I'm not an affair baby. Not even an unplanned pregnancy! They just liked my brother more! I was mad as h I and we argued a lot before I left the room because I'd had enough.
    via u/just-a-big-brother
  • 13
    My grandparents showed up on Saturday with a moving truck. My parents were floored when we started bringing in boxes to pack. My father got in our way and I reminded him how he said that I should move out, so I am. My mother cried some more and said that my father was just angry in the moment when he said that, and they had been counting on my rent money to help with my brother's college fund. I asked if that meant he would never have had to pay rent like I did when he
    via u/just-a-big-brother
  • 14
    turns 18. My father then said that since I was taking a gap year to work, then my rent money could have helped my brother. Which means they never intended for him to get a job while going to college. My grandpa was enraged and confronted my father, saying he raised him better than this. He chewed him out saying he's never been more disappointed in him, and they will no longer receive any more financial
    via u/just-a-big-brother
  • 15
    support. Then said he'd disown them both if they ever tried to retaliate against me for exposing them. My father backed down and neither he or my mother said another word to me. I had a bit of an awkward conversation with my brother as we said our goodbyes to each other. And that was it. I just got in my car, waved and drove off. I'm now fully moved into my new room at my grandparents' house. It's a little smaller, but nice. And
    via u/just-a-big-brother
  • 16
    my grandparents are very welcoming. I'm going to keep working hard to move forward from here and I appreciate everyone's support.
    via u/just-a-big-brother
  • 17
    Commemequeen Lowkey the grandparents. should disown OOP's parent anyway.
    via u/just-a-big-brother
  • 18
    IAmHerdingCatz You know it's bad when even the golden child notices and feels bad.
    via u/just-a-big-brother
  • 19
    Ko... I don't really understand favoritism in children. It S ks and I hope those brothers can repair their relationship in spite of their moronic parents.
    via u/just-a-big-brother
  • 20
    Winter_Cheesec... I know families that unknowingly favors one kid over the other but I've never seen anyone have their behavior pointed out to them and then double down on it like this. Good for OOP to get out from under their roof. I hope they can get a better relationship with their brother in the future too. It's not his fault their parents are idiots.
    via u/just-a-big-brother

Want More? Follow Us and Add Us as a Preferred Source on Google.

Tags

family drama aita favorites mother grandma family feud favorite in laws Grandpa family grandparents son Father
Scroll Down For The Next Article