Parents kick 17-year-old brother out of house for telling 15-year-old sister that she's their favorite child: 'The favoritism mostly showed in them spoiling her and dedicating 1:1 time for her while they never made much of an effort with me'

Feelings of siblings receiving preferential treatment can be difficult to manage when you're a kid or a teen. Whether or not that preferential treatment is real or is actually happening isn't always clear. But our thoughts are our experience of the world; hence, it feels real to us all the same, and, as with anything like this in life, the reality probably lies somewhere in between.

The effects of favoritism, whether perceived or actual, can be felt long after the "kids" involved have entered adulthood, with these feelings affecting the dynamics of relationships long afterward, with resentment being felt for this never really resolving on their own.

So, it's important for parents to consider situations where favoritism might be felt and to manage their kid's feelings about this carefully. It's not possible, of course, to raise kids in a completely equal way, but parents need to approach handling their children in an equitable way at least. But, of course, we're all only human, so sometimes, when our kids are in a phase of their life when they're acting out of turn, it can be difficult to manage our own feelings as parents and parent our kids in a way that is impartial and without lashing back out against them. Similarly, each kid has different desires and motivations that might require more or less input from the parents, further complicating the prospect of equal parenting.

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