‘Her behavior was unacceptable’: Woman tells mother to get lost after she criticizes her gentle parenting methods in front of her 4-year-old and 6-year-old kids

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  • "She's called me 'soft' and says I'm raising 'entitled brats.""
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  • AITAH for Telling My Mom to Back Off After She Criticized My Parenting in Front of My Sons?
  • I (32F) have two young sons (ages 6 and 4). My mom has always had strong opinions about everything I do, but since becoming a mom myself, it
  • feels like her critiques have been relentless. She constantly comments on how I feed them, discipline them, or even what clothes I dress them in.
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  • For context, I'm financially secure and have the resources to give my boys a comfortable life, but my parenting philosophy is very different from how I
  • was raised. I don't believe in harsh punishments, and I try to be as gentle and understanding as possible. My mom, however, thinks I'm "spoiling" them. She's called me "soft" and says I'm raising "entitled brats."
  • Last weekend, we had a family dinner at my house. My 4-year-old had a tantrum because he didn't want to eat what I made. Instead of escalating the situation, I calmed him
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  • down and offered an alternative, which eventually worked. My mom, however, loudly berated me in front of everyone, saying I was "failing as a mother" and letting my kids "walk all over me."
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  • I got into a heated argument with her. I told her that if she couldn't respect how I choose to raise my children, I wouldn't tolerate her constant criticism. The
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  • room went silent. She stormed out shortly after, and now my family is divided. Some say I should've just let it go to avoid conflict. Others think I was justified in standing up for myself.
  • Now my mom is telling everyone that I embarrassed her and made her feel unwelcome in my home. I feel bad because I don't want to deprive my boys of a
  • relationship with their grandmother, but I also feel like her behavior was unacceptable. AITAH?
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  • faequ... NTA and who needs a grandma like this? My grandparents were my safe space and there is no way they would have pulled this sh:
  • DrKid... NTA. You were fed up with her constant criticism so it was OK to talk back at your mother. Don't let the family guilt trip you.
  • Joanna Love Pu... Not the AH. Your mom sounds like she's auditioning for the role of 'Director of Parenting Critiques.' You're doing what works for YOUR kids, and that's what matters. Offering your son an alternative meal wasn't
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  • caving-it was problem- solving like a pro. If she can't respect your choices, then yeah, she needs to back off. Grandma privileges don't come with a free pass to micromanage your parenting.
  • duzthislook1nf... My grandmother was like that. I have no idea why my mother put up with it for so long. I would rather have had no relationship with her, than watch her berate my mother continuously.
  • Bird Brain410... Letting it go "to avoid conflict" is exactly why your mom is cool trash talking you in front of other people.
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  • boundaries4546 So in order for your mom to "feel welcome in your home" your mom needs to be able to freely criticize you. Well that is a bunch of bulls right there, I guess she shouldn't be able feel welcome. NTA, your mom sure is one.

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