Man confesses feelings to sister-in-law just months before his wedding, she flees the scene and leaves him hanging: 'I always thought of you as my brother'

Welcome, women of the internet. Have you ever confessed your feelings to someone? Many of us likely haven't as adults. Most couples these days are meeting through dating apps, which already implies romantic interest, and thus have no reason to make any dramatic declarations of love. However, many former romantics might remember doing so as children. Maybe you added a special little note to your crush while handing out candy on Valentine's day, or maybe you told some kid you knew for a solid four days at camp that you loved him behind a stack of canoes. In any case, laying bare your heart like that to someone is incredibly daunting, cathartic, and vulnerable. It must be doubly terrifying when you know that your marriage is on the line.

In our story today, a man makes a love confession that would have been worthy of praise for his vulnerability if he were a middle schooler. Unfortunately, he was an adult fixing to get married in a few months, and the woman he cornered in the kitchen to declare his love to was his brother's wife. Get all the details by scrolling down.

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    "I think I've had feelings for you for a few years, and I've never been able to tell you and just needed to know if you felt the same"
    Via Jaengpeng
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    r/TwoHotTakes My brother in law confessed feelings for me after I went wedding dress shopping with his fiance

    Confessing your undying love to your brother's wife is tacky in and of itself, but doing so while wedding dress shopping for your fiancée is absolutely wild.

    Via u/No-Poet-4293
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    This just happened today and I'm using a throwaway because I promote my small business on my main and I want to be anonymous with this. Okay, I'm pretty overwhelmed so I'll start with some background. I have been with my husband for 5 years, we've been married for 2. Since early on in the relationship, I've been great friends with his older brother, partially because I always wanted one.
    Via u/No-Poet-4293
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    When he started dating a girl about 2 years ago, I went out of my way to make sure she knew she had a friend in me if she wanted since we're the only girls in the family, we're great friends now and since they got engaged 3 months ago, I have been helping with wedding planning and was asked to be a bridesmaid.
    Via u/No-Poet-4293
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  • 05
    We went dress shopping today and had a blast, we went to brunch, had some mimosas, found the dress, and went back to their house to celebrate. I ended up alone in the kitchen with my brother in law a bit after being there and he said he just had to tell me something before it kept eating at him.
    Via u/No-Poet-4293
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    I was a little buzzed and confused but was not at all expecting him to say what he did, 'I think I've had feelings for you for a few years and I've never been able to tell you and just needed to know if you ever felt the same'

    This is the kind of thing your best friend's homecoming date might confess to you in high school. 

    Via u/No-Poet-4293
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    I completely froze and just shook my head, I told him that no, I have never thought about him in any way other than a friend and a brother and I never would. Before he said anything else I bolted back to his fiancé and the other girls there and very discreetly told her I got my period and wasn't feeling well and would have someone come get me and then come by soon for more wedding planning. She thought nothing of it and I called my best friend to come get me.

    I guess we know what her flight or fight response is.

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    She dropped me off at home, my husband is working right now and there is no question that I am going to tell him as soon as he gets home. But I just have no idea where to go from there. Do I tell his fiancé, do I make him tell her, do I leave it, do I have my husband talk to him? Has anyone ever had something like this happen or have any advice, anything is appreciated.
    Via u/No-Poet-4293
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    Select-Sweet-838 Talk to your husband first cuz what if you tell her and he tries to flip it saying you said those things

    Yes! Time is short! Since she quite literally ran away, leaving him high and dry, he may have already contacted her husband in order to twist the story.

    Via u/Select-Sweet-838
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    No-Poet-4293 My comfort in this thought is that I believe my husband and I have a really strong and trusting relationship and I don't think he would ever believe that.
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    As soon as he gets home I will tell him, I'm just not going to do the 'we need to talk about something when you get home' because I know that would put a pit in his stomach and I won't do that to him.

    I mean, if he has time to check his phone, he has time to read a brief explanation of events. It doesn't have to be cryptic. It's natural to want to talk about these sort of things in person, but this is a time-sensitive issue.

    Via u/Select-Sweet-838
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    luc424 Yeah, don't wait. Any time you wait, the brother can call and twist the truth. You might also want to show your husband this post. So that he can understand what is going on.
    Via u/luc424
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    Shadow_wolf82 That was my first thought. BIL knows she fled. He knows it's highly likely she'll tell her husband. Damage control on his end would be to immediately tell his fiancé that OP confessed feelings TO HIM and then fled when he turned her down. He doesn't necessarily need his brother to believe him if he can get his fiancé and the rest of the family to believe his version of events. In fact, he doesn't even need the family to firmly take his side. It's more likely they'll forever doubt w
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    Evaporate3 One step at a time. You already plan to tell your husband. Your husband is your team mate so decide together what to do. This is such a hard situation to be in. He put you in a weird place. You'd be betraying your BIL's fiance for not telling but if you do tell, things in the family will get weird and divided- but that wouldn't be YOUR fault. I am ped he did this to you. did he think you were going to do? Leave his brother for him? RIGHT BEFORE THE WEDDING?? I would reach out to the B

    Dude watched too many rom-coms over the holidays.

    Via u/Evaporate3
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    No-Poet-4293 You're right, one step at a time. I think I'm trying to think 10 steps ahead because that's just who I am and this is impossible to plan for because it's so messed up! My husband and I always say it's us against the problem so of course I will tell him immediately and we'll plan together.

    Our protagonist needs to be playing 3D chess right now — her relationship is on the line!

    Via u/No-Poet-4293
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    taratoby09 This actually happened to people we know. My husband and I traveled out of state to stay close to where my husband's childhood buddy was getting married THE NEXT DAY. The wife to be cancelled the wedding and married his brother. It was wild.

    Family reunions must have been pretty tense after that.

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    ivy5kin You tell your husband first. Discuss everything with him and then make a plan. You are a team. Listen to what your husband think about talking to his brother first vs. telling the fiance. In my opinion, you and your husband should talk to his brother together and let the brother tell his fiancee. If he won't tell her then tell the fiancee before they get married.

    IF they get married… I genuinely cannot imagine going forward in this relationship. Brother-in-law's either wanted to our protagonist to divorce his brother and run away together, or he wanted to sew the seeds of a future affair. In any case, he is not loyal to his fiancée.

    Via u/ivy5kin
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    No-Poet-4293 This plan was my first thought! Except I am leaning towards him talking alone with his brother first.
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    MuntjackDrowning Update me. Holy sh. Girl call your husband before his brother does!
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    Jsmith2127 Tell your husband immediately. Your BIL was trying to shoot his shot with you, before he went through with his wedding. He was actively trying to steal his brother's wife. It's time for both you and your husband to distance yourselves from BIL.
    Via u/Jsmith2127
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    Maybe together you and your husband can talk to his fiancee, afterwards. I wouldn't approach her. Alone. Do it fast before BIL preemptively tries to tell your husband or his fiancee that you tried to hit on him, because he thinks you will tell on him, after you shut him down
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    Mach5Driver The agreed-upon course (between OP and husband) should be that BIL needs to be given the chance to break it off with fiancee however he chooses to--to keep the peace within OP's family. Either he can tell her the truth as to why or he can just say he fell out of love with her and hopes they can be friends. OR, OP will tell her the truth and let things take their course.
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    Humble Manatee I think your response, actions, and plans to discuss with your husband are perfect. Certainly discuss with him and follow his lead. I wouldn't tell his fiancé before discussing with your husband. She eventually needs to know but maybe it's best to come from BIL.
    Via u/HumbleManatee
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    stabbistar In 773 responses this will most likely get lost. But your FBIL is not in love with you. He loves your relationship with his brother and is getting cold feet. You and your husband need to talk to him and let him find out if this is normal nerves or a warning that he needs to call this wedding off.

    What a generous reading of brother-in-law's confession. 

    Via u/stabbistar
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    2ndcupofcoffee He may believe his being married will provide cover for the affair he hopes to have. That you and his fiancee are such good friends may suggest to him that you will be hanging out at his house because of her. Does your husband's brother compete with your husband much? How were they growing up? This may in part be about the brother wanting to win one over your husband.

    Seeing wives and girlfriends as trophies and achievements is so immature.

    Via u/2ndcupofcoffee

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