'She couldn’t stand that I got engaged first': Woman's 7-year rivalry with her future brother-in-law's girlfriend escalates after they get engaged 3 days following her own engagement

Competition between siblings is, for better or for worse, common, but not enough folks talk about the competition that most certainly exists between the significant others of those siblings. It's an understandable but unnecessary phenomenon that only adds further pressure to the family members involved. In this instance, a newly engaged bride-to-be found herself embroiled in a rivalry with the woman dating her fiancé's twin brother, and the rivalry does not appear to be ending anytime soon.

I wish I could say that I haven't seen this kind of familial tension among friends of my own, but I have. A friend of mine always seems to be on a similar timeline with her siblings when it comes to major life events. They moved in with their partners around the same time. They got engaged around the same time and got married within a few months of each other. They even decided to have children around the same time. While both parties wouldn't necessarily admit that there is some sort of rivalry and jealousy happening here, the facts speak for themselves. The core of the drama lies with the older sibling constantly feeling threatened that her younger sister is going to reach certain "milestones" before her. This, of course, perpetuates the myth that we can measure success based on someone's marital or family status. While an objective party like myself can easily see the flaws in this dynamic, it's not exactly something that you can easily undo when you're living it.

What sets this story apart from the one I have witnessed in my life is that the rivalry at the center is not between the siblings (though I'm sure something's going on there) but rather between their partners. Regardless, the effects that this feud is having on all involved has led to one couple receiving no invite to the other couple's wedding. Yikes!

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  • "My fiancé’s brother engaged his girlfriend just 3 days after us because she couldn’t stand that I got engaged first"

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  • We should address the immaturity of the twin brothers in this tale as well. The fact that they would let their significant others feud for so long and have it get to the point where one is not inviting the other to their wedding speaks to the brothers' inability to properly dissipate the tension. To make matters worse, the twins work at the same company together. They are deeply involved in one another's lives, and yet they are letting their fiancés destroy their relationship? Seriously? It's time for these brothers to stand up for each others as well as for their partners!

  • My boyfriend and I recently got engaged in May, and when we were announcing it our families and friends, my fiancé had informed me that his twin brother told him that he had to purchase a ring for his girlfriend "so she would shut up". This resulted in his brother proposing just 3 days after we did.
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  • My fiancé's brothers girlfriend has always been in a competitive headspace when it came to my fiancé and I, for like the last 7 years. It's like anything we did, they had to do the same and make it better. Long story short,
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  • she and I have like a 10 year age gap. The most we really have in common is the fact that we are both with twin brothers, and we both have daughters who are just 7 months apart in age. (She got pregnant after finding out I was pregnant, literally asked me "wouldn't it be fun if we were pregnant together" after finding out I was). The relationship
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  • between us has always been pretty vague, I've always been nice but she's always had more of a "cater to me" kind of personality. However, my relationship with the other twin was definitely influential to her in various ways.
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  • Fast forward now in August, they are getting married next week and practically everyone was invited via hand delivered invites, except for my fiancé and I. Funny thing is, the twins both work together and not once did his brother mention this very near event. Turns out, my fiancés brother and his future wife tried to plan this entire wedding secretly, and my fiancé's brothers
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  • girlfriend has went as far as telling those invited to not to say anything about them getting married to us, which backfired because the twins mom, along with other family members and the twins childhood friends spilled the beans immediately.
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  • When we received the news we were more like, wow that is fast! But I was more focused on why wasn't my fiancé invited when they have quite a bond as twins. Additionally, me being the person that I am- I sent them over an edible arrangement as a congrats gift, and a card that stated we're happy for them.
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  • After the gift was received, my fiancés brother immediately texted him and told him that they didn't like our gift and that they didn't like card. My fiancé strongly believes it was his brother's girlfriend who texted that and not his brother because who would be upset over chocolate strawberries and cookies.
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  • I think she was hoping we'd be p ed about not being invited, but instead we're just wishing them well and she can't stand it?
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  • • Certain-Thought531 8h ago Some people are addicted to drama and conflict and would strive to create some where there's none. Honnestly this is ridiculous, but I wonder how would it be possible that no one actually noticed the pattern so far, I mean you say it's been 7 years...
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  • I suppose it's easier to pretend everything's fine, but honnestly had I been in your fiance shoes I'd be ped by now.
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  • TheQuarantinian · 8h ago . Dear future sister in law. Thank you so much for not inviting us. Now we don't. have to buy you a gift and will be spending the money on the honeymoon of our dreams, the likes of which you cannot imagine. Will send photos after we get back.
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  • Pudwas 7h ago OP should let it be known that her honeymoon is a four week trip around Europe, taking in Rome in Italy, Paris. & Cannes, France, plus Skiing in Swiss Mountain Resort of St. Moritz.
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  • Then enjoy twin brothers fiancé forcing him to outdo that. When own honeymoon comes round just enjoy whatever they were going to do originally (with warm glow that twin brothers wife probably didn't enjoy her own honeymoon having to spend money hey probably hadn't got.
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