'Why are you married to a 10 year old?': Man watches videos on 2x speed next to his wife first thing in the morning, doesn't understand why wife asks him to wear headphones

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JR Atkinson • Writer and Editor
Jan 14, 2025 11:00 AM EST

We all have our vices. Some of us need a scoop of ice cream every night in order to feel sane. Some of us sneak out twice a year to play the slots in Atlantic City. And some of us (many of us) are a little too addicted to social media. It's the disease of our age: most of us spend more time than we'd like watching videos and looking at pictures of other people. 

We love to see people cook food, play with their pets, put on makeup, and do whatever it is that people do on social media. We can't help it. They've set up a trap for us and we can't fully blame ourselves for falling into it. Social media addiction is part of what it means to be a human in 2025, and it's our job to help each other through it when we can. 

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  • It's another thing, though, to help your significant other through it. It becomes even more of an issue when it affects your life. Like in this situation, when a husband's social media addiction started to take a toll on his married life. Read on for the story and decide what you would have done. 

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    AITA for wanting my husband to use earbuds while watching TikTok at 2x speed in our bed?

    My (24F) husband (26M) and I live together in a one-bedroom apartment. Right after we wake up in the morning, he checks Twitter and TikTok on his phone to watch short videos for about fifteen minutes. This wouldn't bother me at all, except that he doesn't use earbuds. Not only that, he plays all
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    videos on 2x speed so he can consume the information more quickly. Most of the videos are clips of people talking at a rapid- fire pace. I have ADHD and find it impossible to think clearly, start my morning routine, or concentrate on checking my own messages while I'm listening to his
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    feed. In addition, I'm sensitive to sound, and, especially given the speed of the videos, hearing his feed feels like the auditory equivalent of someone shining a bright light in my face right after I wake up. I've repeatedly asked him if he can use earbuds, but he says he doesn't understand why it
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    bothers me, that he never does it while I'm sleeping, that it's slightly controlling to tell him to stop, and that he's only on his phone for fifteen minutes. I'm not sure if I'm being unreasonable after all. AITA?
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    Commenters weighed in on whether or not this behavior is acceptable.

    Aromatic_Version... . 19h ago NTA. "I dont understand why its bothering you" is not a valid reason to ignore you. He doesn't have to understand, he needs to listen and react.
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    DynamicHunter • 19h ago NTA, have him go to the couch or use headphones. It's insanely ride to be doing that next to someone who is just waking up. I have ADHD and that sounds extremely grating.
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    PrimarchBlue · 18h ago TikTok at 2x speed in bed Why are you married to a 10 year old?
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    Bingo_Bongo_85 · 19h ago Oh god NTA. This would be my h I. Either he wears earbuds or you start playing Baby Shark at max volume
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    NotThisAgain234 • 18h ago NTA. You need to start talking loudly at him until the earbuds go on. Here's a suggested script. "Well good morning! I know you think this noise shouldn't bother me so I assume noise I make won't bother you. Since I'm awake I might as well get my thoughts
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    together about what I want to get done today. I thought I'd make a go of getting my email caught up. I've still got that annoying request from Jane. She is such a pain. Jane the pain. She keeps asking....." (I assume you get the idea). Don't let him treat you like this. He apparently doesn't care about your needs so you need to make sure that selfish behavior on his part comes with consequences.
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    Nrmnthdrmn · 19h ago NTA, how did we even get to the point where you're the bad guy? If it were me, his phone would be taking a bath after the first complaint.
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    WhiteyFisk53 • 18h ago NTA I'm appalled when people can be so selfish and inconsiderate to do that in front of strangers on public transport. I'm ABSOLUTELY SHOCKED that someone would be so own spouse. to their
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    Christy_Mathewson . 18h ago NTA. My gf is addicted to TikTok and they are all so annoying. We made the compromise that she puts in ear buds if she's on it and we're in the same room. She hates my music so I only listen to it via earbuds if we're next to each other. It's compromise. I hope TikTok gets banned in the next couple weeks.
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    Mundane_Shower... • 18h ago NTA. Everyone has a different routine in the morning and it's only considerate if he puts in earbuds.
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    Malibu_Cola • 18h ago NTA. It's a valid request. Your husband is an a hole for not listening. He would probably ask you the same thing if the roles were reversed.
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    ExtensionDebate8... NTA. Your husband is 18h ago extremely inconsiderate. No one should ever be subjected to what he wants to do, not even his wife. It's not controlling to ask him to be considerate, and a decent person.
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    Brother-Cane 18h ago • NTA. If he needs to watch his TikTok, why does he need to do it in bed rather than at breakfast? To accommodate his comfort while scrolling, he should be willing to compromise and let you have your comfort.
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    FissureOfLight • 18h ago NTA. It doesn't matter what he's watching, if he's right next to you and you aren't watching it together he should be wearing headphones or in another room.
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    eleyeindeeesayew... . 18h ago NTA - The way I would throw his phone across the room with a quickness.
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    StableSharp5481 • 19h ago Nta my girlfriend also listens to annoying TikToks but not 2x speed, she also doesn't do it first thing in the morning. that would drive me nuts! I'm actually really looking forward to this TikTok ban. I'm sure you are even more so than I.
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    . GenXpert_dude • 18h ago NTA- that would be SO annoying I'd probably resort. to violence. On top of that- any adult that uses TikTok is suspect to begin with. :)
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    • kingdom-of-sass 19h ago NTA!? You're not telling he can't do it, just asking him to be respectful of shared space. It's not that hard to put headphones on.
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