Man sees ex kiss his current partner and gets inflamed with jealousy, he tattles to ex’s family who go against their own kid: “You both need to apologize”

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    AITAH for kissing my boyfriend in front of his ex when I didn’t even realize the ex was there?

    "They immediately started whispering to each other and scowling"
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    I've been a long time lurker but I really need some advice on this.
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    Me (27M) and my boyfriend Jamie (28M), have been dating for over a year and he's legit my favourite person. Before we were together, he dated the son of family friends, Don (28M). They dated when they were teenagers, and broke up once uni hit. Jamie was the one who initiated the breakup, and he told me Don seemed to take it fine, but
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    me Don seemed to take it fine, but he'd had his suspicions over the years that he never fully got over it.
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    Jamie was very open with me that he still has to see him at family functions, and asked me if I was okay with that. I'm not a control freak. I told him I trust him, and when I was eventually invited to family things too, besides one awkward meeting, we steered clear of each other.
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    A couple days ago, we were at Jamie's mom's (64F) birthday party. The weather was slightly warmer, so we were all hanging out in the backyard. Jamie had his arm around my waist (promise this is relevant) while we were just talking to each other. Me, being very in love with my boyfriend, leaned in and gave him a kiss at some point.
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    Not some big sloppy makeout, just a 5 second thing. Nothing crazy, right? What I didn't see before I leaned in, was Don standing near us with Jamie's sister, Lana (25F).
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    When I saw them after I pulled away from Jamie, they immediately started whispering to each other and scowling at me. I gave them a funny look and took a very confused Jamie back inside. He asked me what was up and I told him about Don and Lana, and he rolled his eyes.
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    Lana, with her perfect timing, came inside too and told me in a very tight voice that we were being ¿ for kissing and " each other right in front of Don. I was so shocked as me and Lana always got along, but I couldn't even get a word in before Jamie got upset with her, saying that he
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    didn't care if Don was "still feeling like a bruised peach" after so many years. He towed me away after that and I was trying not to giggle as we just enjoyed the rest of the party.
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    When we got home, Jamie had a bunch of messages from his family about how disrespectful I was, and that they wanted both of us to apologize before the next family event. Um... we're both pretty weirded out, and I just need some outside opinions. Was I really that wrong for kissing him?
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    EDIT: I'm so sorry I haven't replied to any comments yet, I've been super busy today! I just wanted to make a quick edit to clarify that when I said Jamie's family was texting him, I meant just his immediate family (mom, dad, and Lana). It was a busy party with many more family members but it was just those three that were
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    was just those three that were messaging him, upset. I apologize if that was a bit confusing!!
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    Dreamy VelvetWhispej NTA. From what you're saying, you didn't know Don was there when you kissed Jamie, and it wasn't some over-the- top display of affection—just a quick kiss in the middle of a conversation. Honestly, it's
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    weird that his family is acting like you committed some big offense. I get that Don might still have feelings, but it's been years, and Jamie and you are in a relationship now. The situation is definitely awkward, but that doesn't mean you did anything wrong.
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    Jamie's ex is going to have to learn how to deal with the reality of the situation, especially since Jamie was clear about the breakup years ago. If his family is so invested in how Don feels after all this time, that's on them, not you. And Lana calling you out for
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    kissing in front of Don, when she's probably seen her brother with past girlfriends or partners, is a bit of an overreaction. You weren't intentionally disrespecting anyone, and it sounds like you were blindsided by the reaction. It's
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    not like you made a big scene, so you're definitely not the ah le here.
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    RebeccaCheeseburger • 1d ago NTA, it's insane a bunch of adults at a 64th birthday party, we're so concerned over a 5 second kiss between a couple that has been together for a year.
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    This must've been the most boring party in the world for everyone to be gossiping over you having a kiss, at the end of the day his ex knew he'd be there with you, does he expect you to play friends for his ego? Stay at home then.
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    Don and Lana are actually the problem, for making drama!
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    Winternin NTA. Don being there or not is completely irrelevant when it comes to you kissing your bf. If Don has a problem with it, that's his problem to deal with, not yours nor your bf's.

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