Woman flees boyfriend's apartment after he reveals he has two kids from two different women, leading to their dramatic breakup when more details are uncovered: ‘This man is crazy’

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Bar Mor Hazut • Senior Editor
Jan 5, 2025 8:00 PM EST

I am a firm believer that relationships take a lot of time to build, and so does trust between the two people involved. That means that it is okay if you don't feel comfortable exposing all your deep dark secrets to the person you just started dating, even if those secrets are crucial for the continuation of your relationship. It takes time, and as far as I'm concerned, that is totally acceptable.

However, there are some things that are not okay to keep from a potential partner, and as much as you might be relucted to share them, the person you are dating deserves to know as soon as possible. I am talking about secrets that can alter the nature of your relationship, and are much better out in the open than buried deep down.

Being a parent, for example, is not something one should keep from a person they are dating. First, because they deserve to know and decide if they are ready to date someone who has a child, and second, because keeping something like that a secret is simply weird. Having a kid is a life-changing experience, and actively trying to hide that fact is not healthy or realistic, and definitely not good for any blossoming relationship.

It seems like the boyfriend in this story would not agree with me, as he hid the fact that he is a father from his girlfriend for over two months. When she eventually found out, things didn't go so well…

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    "How did I not notice this man has two kids?"
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    AITAH for reacting like this to finding out my bf has 2 kids?
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    I (25F) have been dating a guy (31M) for the past 2 months. However, last night he told me he has 2 kids. I was honestly shockeddd that this was the first time he was
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    telling me. Especially since we've been dating over Christmas and didn't even mention it? I've never dated anyone who had kids before, so naturally I was curious and
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    started asking questions. Whenever I got to my 4th question he started getting slightly defensive, asking if I was I the cops, because I was asking so many question. Lm.ooo.
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    Eventually I was able to get through to him and explain how I was feeling, since he basically kept this a secret and sprung it on me as if it was nothing. He opened up and
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    said that his kids have two different mothers and that they don't get along because they kids were born only 4 months apart. Andd the youngest is only 9 months old.
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  • The amount of red flags that exposed themselves from one conversation is unbelievable. What do you mean this guy has two kids, that are less than 6 months apart by age, from two different women?! What do you mean he kept that a secret for over two months? What do you mean “I was asking too many questions”?? My god, this man…

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    At this point I'm literally flabbergasted. We were both kinda drank and I to him I would go back to my own apartment because I
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    needed to think about it all. He didn't want me to leave on my own and take the subway (we live in nyc) so we both went back to his place to sleep and I slept in the spare room. I left
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    ealryyy around 5am and now he's blowing up my phone asking me what's wrong and what happened, that this was the reason he didn't want to tell me he had kids because | wouldn't like him anymore.
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    Pleaseeee someone tell me I'm not loosing my mind and that this man is crazy? I'm actually laughing so much writing this because how tf did I not notice this man has two kids? Is he that good of a liar?
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    At this point I'm ready to break up with him, because who even is this man? If he lied about that, what else is he lying about? Am I being an a h le about this situation?
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    UPDATE: Thank you to everyone who has replied. I'm honestly still in shock about it all, but I have broke up with him & blocked him on everything.
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    He told me that baby momma 1 was his girlfriend and that they broke up, but were "still hong up" post breakup. Then, whilst they were broke up, he was hoˆing up with other women and that's where
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    baby momma 2 came from. I asked him how he has nothing in his apartment for the babies and he said "I'm not really in their lives atm" (aka d .dbeat as most of you suspected)
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  • Thank goodness the girlfriend did let him get in her head, and was able to recognize just how weird this situation is. I know I said that it is okay to keep secrets at the beginning of a relationship, but this is taking it one step too far. 

    Hopefully, this guy will sort his life up before he attempts dating again, and he won't hide his two kids from the next girl he's dating. Until then, at least one girl didn't allow him to keep up with this crazy behavior.

    Keep scrolling to read what other people had to say about this entire situation…

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    CrazyMinute69 NTAH Two baby momma's and the kids are only four months apart. Do you honestly think he's ever gonna be loyal to you with that history?
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    Contribution Due40... OP Exactly. I can never ever trust someone who lies so easily and so long about something so important??
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    Mathieran1315 I feel like the two different moms having kids a few months apart from each other is probably the worse part here.
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    Victory_S_ Honestly, this situation seems super shady. It's one thing to not mention kids right away, but to drop that bomb after two months? And the way he got defensive over questions? Nah, that's a huge red flag. Trust your gut, this feels like there's more he's hiding.
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    Nawien26 This doesn't seem like “not teling" but really hiding it, which is really wrong, and he knows it. NTA.
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    Pretty_curlz_04 Run. If he would lie about his children, he will lie about anything. Do you want to become baby mama number 3? Think about it, why hasn't he married the other women he
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    fathered children with? And the youngest is 9 months? He's just getting his c wet all over town. You're 25, go date someone single with no kids. This is a recipe for disaster. Now if you stay with him, just know you were warned.
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    Contribution... OP This is literally my thought process rn
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    FreezeMeTrophy NTA at all. Girl, you just unlocked the season finale twist of his life story, and honestly, it's giving "canceled after one season". Two kids, two baby mamas, four months apart, and no mention of it for two months? That's not a red flag, that's a whole carnival tbh.
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    Dazzling_Bid_3175 Where in nyc? My first question was has a spare bedroom in nyc? Aren't there any signs of his kids at his place?
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    ContributionDue40... OP Brooklyn. Haha I was literally thinking this when hr first told me. I had stayed in his so manyyyy times and never seen one toy or baby blanket or anything associated with children. When I went back last night I was literally scanning the whole place and seen nothing.
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