'We were the worst friends ever': Entitled 22-year-olds bicker on group vacation together, causing long-lasting rifts in the 10-person friend group

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Ben Weiss • Writer and Editor
Feb 18, 2025 8:00 AM EST

There are several activities that not all friends are meant to do together. After all, there is a reason why people always say that not all friends make the best roommates. The same can be said of friends who choose to vacation together.

A friend group vacation sounds like a loving and peaceful reunion in theory, but anyone who has either seen The White Lotus or who has been on a bachelor/bachelorette trip knows that what sounds good in theory does not always work in practice. Keep scrolling below for this story about a 10-person friend group that was never the same after their vacation together went south!

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  • First of all, the level of privilege that this group of 22-year-olds has must be acknowledged from the get-go before we get into the juicy drama. The fact that they can go on this many vacations together says quite a bit about their familial situations since it does not seem that many of these folks are making their own money yet.

    Moving on, the first of three vacations in this story was the inciting incident for the unfolding friend group drama, where a couple within the group (Markus and Danielle) seemed to think that they could micromanage everyone else's whereabouts, spending, and day-to-day movements during their trip.

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    Hi, so I (22F) have a big friend group of around 10 people. We usually get along fine and get together a few times per month.
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    A few years ago, we tried to set up a vacation with all of us, but it didn't work out because no one could find the same exact time to go. So we went with 7 people, leaving the other 3 behind. The other three were fine with it and wished us fun.
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    This vacation was kind of weird because of two people specifically. Let's call them Danielle (21F) and her boyfriend Markus (21M). They
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    to do and where to go at all times (which might be because it was in Markus's vacation home and he knew the location well, but still). They got mad at me when I didn't like their chicken and called me stupid (they felt I
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    should know to plan around the vacation) when I had to leave two days earlier than the rest because I got an unexpected internship (which I needed for school). Overall, the vacation was moderately fun but not something I wanted to repeat.
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    A few friends made the comparison that when I took them with me to my family's vacation home, I let them do whatever they wanted. And did
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    not dictate how to spend money and what do and eat. So I think that's when it kinda "hit us" that they were doing that.
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    Markus and Danielle are very controlling in general. At one point, they even checked our locations, saw that we were hanging out with a few people, called us, and asked why we didn't invite them.
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    Last year, I came up with the idea of going on vacation with a few people. I asked in the group chat and said I could only bring four people. The first four who responded went with me. Danielle and Markus were not part of this vacation and got extremely
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    upset, calling us names and saying we weren't real friends, etc. We offered to have them come if they booked an Airbnb nearby, but they only agreed if we split the bill with them. We
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    tried to accommodate and communicated every detail, but the booking got postponed so much that it cost us a lot extra (almost €200 each). We couldn't find a solution and decided to go without them. They got very mad
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    and said we cannot go on vacation without including everyone. The other three people from the first vacation were also not going, and they were okay with it. It's just Danielle and Markus who were upset. They
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    think that because "they" invited us the last time, they should join now. They even imposed a rule that if a vacation includes three or more people, we have to invite everyone.
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    Fast forward to last summer, I found that rule stupid and asked my four best friends in this group if they wanted to go with me on vacation. They said yes, and we started planning. My grandma surprised us for my 21st birthday
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    by purchasing rooms in a beautiful hotel for each of us, so it was quickly decided we would go. We knew we had to tell Danielle and Markus somehow
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    because just going without telling them would make them very upset. We postponed it, and two months went by without telling them, making it awkward. I finally told them kindly what the plan was and that it wasn't intended to ber de.
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    Well, this backfired. They became extremely upset. When I first told Danielle, she seemed okay with it, but then I received a text from her saying that they were actually extremely mad at me. They were upset that my
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    friends and I didn't communicate and just booked the vacation without them. We somewhat understand, but we just didn't want to go through the whole thing again like last year.
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    Now, a few months later, they have completely cut us off. They told us that we were the worst friends ever, that we shouldn't treat people this way, and that we need to behave differently. I'm curious to what others think. Because maybe I really was the a bad friend and need some perspective.
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  • As we mentioned from the start, several folks noted in the comments just how privileged this friend group clearly was, but after making some clarifications, the young woman who initially shared the story did get some good advice from members of this online community. In the grand scheme of things, it has become clear that this couple does not like her and that she does not like this couple. At the end of the day, there is no point in traveling together again. Maintaining distance seems to be for the best. 

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    EDIT: I see some comments talking about my finances and affording multiple vacations a year. TBH idk how that's relevant. But maybe the context changes things. We are not from the USA in our country it is so normal to go on vacation each year. Also the vacation with Markus and Danielle was a budget holiday :)
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    but I do understand how this all might sound. We are all incredibly privileged and there are so much bigger problems in the world. This shouldn't even be one, ur all completely right.
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    EDIT 2: context about the chicken thing: we had a bbq on vacation and they grilled chicken. I just personally didn't like it, so I quietly went and grabbed something else because everyone else liked it. And I didn't want to sound rode or make a scene that I didn't like the food.
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    Few minutes later they saw me eating and told me that I was r de of me not to eat the chicken, en told me they were almost crying because I didn't just tell them. Then they were mad the rest of the evening :( maybe I handled that wrong.
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    Creepy-flesh ⚫ 23h ago . Sounds like you don't like. them and now they don't like you. Oh well
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    MouseDriverYYC 23h ago . And the trash just took itself out. Everybody wins
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    Simple_Art_4559 • 23h ago Having "rules" within a friend group especially regarding vacations is stupid and completely pointless.
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