Single dad cuts contact with 16-year-old son after kicking him out, only to reach out 8 years later and beg to move in with him, son turns him away: ‘After all I did for you?’

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    "AITAH for refusing to let my pops move in after he kicked me out at 16"

    I (24M) grew up in a rough neighborhood, and my dad (41M) always been tough on me. The moment I turned 16 and made a mistake running wild, he told me, "Ur a man
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    now figure it out" and kicked me out. No warning, no help, no nothing. I had to grind it out just to keep a roof over my head surfing couches and working nonstop until I finally got on my feet.
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    Fast forward 8 years, I have my own everything, an apartment, a CAREER, and a future I built for myself and BY MYSELF. Now, out of nowhere, my pops gets in contact with me, after
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    no communication for 8 years, saying he lost his job, his house, and literally lost everything and needs a place to stay "for a little while” he claims. I told him straight up "I
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    don't have space for you". He got mad, saying, "After all I did for you, this how you gonna repay me?" I reminded him that he left me homeless at 16 and didn't make one single phone call to me until now so
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    why should I bail him out now? He says "Well what about the other 16 years before that I took care of u”. I hung up in his face.
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    All his siblings AKA my aunties and uncles are calling me selfish and saying he's still my dad but I dont feel like I owe him anything. AITAH?
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    PSA: I FORGOT TO ADD 3/5 OF MY AUNTS & UNCLES ACTUALLY HAD THE "COURAGE@ TO SAY THEY DO NOT WANT HIM LIVING WITH THEM BUT THE CRICKETS REALLY WOKE UP WHEN I
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    ASKED OTHER 2. THEY WERE JUST SPEECHLESS WHEN I ASKED "WHY CANT HE MOVE IN WITH YOU". Sidenote: My mom d' d when I was 4. He was a single father
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    raising me. The last time I honestly felt loved was the very few memories I have with my mom. Last time I felt that way was when I was 4, 20 years ago from my mother. I miss her so much.
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    sneeky_seer NTA tell the flying monkeys - that they are free to open their home and let him move in...
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    GuyFromL1747 YTA .. you are being selfish, and you're not telling the whole story because there has to be more than ur a man figure it out.. he did raise you and you were probably a py teen ...
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    Fantastic_Goose... OP I was a straight A student from elementary all the way up until high school where I graduated with As & Bs. I got mixed in with wrong crowd and made one young and dumb mistake then I was
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    kicked out. I had to finish high school homeless. He didn't talk to me for 8 years, my own father! Until he needed me and lost everything.
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    Cerise_says You know the answer. I like the way you handled him! Keep him at NO CONTACT. Based on his past behavior, this guy is dangerous.
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    Fantastic_Goose... OP The crazy thing is, I tried contacting him over the years. It's like my own father avoided me and didn't even wanna communicate with me
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    sugarbare66 Not relevant, I know, but how did he lose his job and house and "everything"...? WE ALREADY KNOW HOW HE LOST HIS SON. Son: "Well, dad, like you always said...YOU ARE A MAN! FIGURE IT OUT...without me!"
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    Fantastic_Goose_... OP I have no idea. I didn't go that far to even ask em that
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    Zestyclose-Sky-1921 NTA Not sure where you are, but providing for you was a requirement, not a loan. Idk tell him it builds character lol
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    spytez NTA. He's a man. He'll figure it out.
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    William Tindale8 NYA. Even if you felt like forgiving him, and I wouldn't, letting him live with you will not work out well. After eight years of silence, he isn't sorry,
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    he just wants to sponge off you. Tell those relatives that they are welcome to take him in. Then ignore them. Also, you have just found out which relatives are really in your camp.

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