Bridesmaid forced to miss best friend's wedding due to a sudden illness, gets the silent treatment, left worried about future of friendship: ‘I explained to her how sick I was but she stopped responding’

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  • "AITAH for not going to a wedding where I was supposed to be a bridesmaid because I was sick?"

    "I was panicking all morning and hoping it was going to pass, but obviously it didn't"
  • 1 (26f) was supposed to be a bridesmaid in my friend's (26f) wedding tonight. She was one of my best friends in college and we still talk almost everyday via group chat. We hang out like once a month. I adore her. I
  • participated and contributed to all wedding related events like the destination bachelorette party and bridal shower. I was truly looking forward to this wedding
  • Unfortunately at 4am, I came down with the stomach bug. It was absolutely awful. TMI, but I was throwing up and sh■ng all day long. When I wasn't actively pung or shang, I was curled up in the fetal position on the
  • bathroom floor in and out of consciousness. Around 7pm, i mustered up enough strength to crawl to my bed and fell asleep until 11. I quite literally could not stand up.
  • Anyway I was panicking all morning and hoping it was going to pass, but obviously it didn't. We were supposed to be at the hotel at 10am to start hair and make up. At 930am, I had to send the dreaded text to the bride to
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  • tell her I, a bridesmaid, couldn't make it on time but I said I'd try my best to be there if I felt better. I was so embarrassed and felt so bad because I know how bad it can throw off a wedding day when someone from the bridal
  • party bails. She told me she hopes I feel better but hopes that I can still make it. Obviously I texted again a few hours later to let her know there was just no way I could make it. I couldn't
  • even function. She didn't respond and I figured she was just busy and caught up in wedding stuff and she probably didn't want to deal with me at the moment,
  • which I totally get!! BUT the MOH texted me and said I should have at least came for pictures. I explained to her how sick I was but she stopped responding too.
  • I feel horrible about this but there is just no way I could have made it. I profusely apologized in all of my texts but this situation was out of my control. AITAH?
  • Bluemarie17 NTA and don't feel bad. My best friend in the whole world came down with Co id just days before my wedding, one she would have had to fly to as I live a few states away. There was
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  • just no way she could come. We were both very sad and she was missed but I do not blame her one bit because I know she would have been there if she could have.
  • People get sick and things happen. If she holds a grudge about this or is ride to you, I'd question the friendship.
  • Irish_angel_79 No your not an AH. You wouldn't be much help to the bride and you would be feeling miserable. Also if your contagious everyone else could catch it.
  • Resident_Style8598 Of course you are not TAH! You couldn't have gone even if you wanted to try to go. You are not at fault here. Has your friend even checked to see if you are okay? No one will care that you missed the wedding.
  • You didn't change the outcome or ruin anything. Of course it is sad you couldn't be there for your friend but would she feel this way if you had been hospitalized with your
  • illness? Does she not believe you were sick? If that is the case then she isn't much of a friend. You can't go back and change anything. There are no do overs for missing a wedding and even if you could you wouldn't do anything differently. You
  • couldn't. It is time to move forward and if your friend can't, then she is not your friend.
  • Medium-Audience5078 NTA. It's an unfortunate situation but people get sick. I know the bride is upset, and she can be, but she shouldn't be upset with you. She can be frustrated with the situation. I hope you feel better! That sounds awful
  • Idontknow 1973 NTA for being sick and not being able to attend, but I think dropping out of a wedding deserves an actual call and not a text.
  • dannybravo14 A couple weeks after the wedding, take her to lunch and ask her to tell you all about the wedding. If she can't move on, it's not on you, and you'll have made the effort.

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