Mom walks out of yoga class after creepy 40-year-old male yoga teacher kisses her 19-year-old daughter, grandma claims she was being too dramatic: 'He had good energy, you should’ve let it go.'

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    AITA for Walking Out of Yoga Class After the Instructor Hit on My Daughter and Kissed Her?

    My mom has been begging me to join her yoga class, so I agreed and brought my daughter (19F) along. From the moment we walked in, the instructor, let's call him Chad (mid-40s, thinks he's some sort of spiritual guru), zeroed in on my daughter. He
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    kept complimenting her energy and asking her deep, awkward questions about her "soul connection." My deaf grandmother (85F) saw what was happening and signed to me that she thought he was cute. Class starts, and my grandma, who has no idea what's going on, starts doing her own random stretches in the back. Meanwhile, Chad
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    keeps adjusting my daughter more than necessary, hands lingering way too long on her waist, whispering things like, "Relax, feel the flow." She looked super uncomfortable, but he didn't seem to notice.
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    Then, after the class ends, as everyone is packing up, Chad grabs my daughter by the shoulders and leans in for what I can only describe as a full-on kiss on the cheek. My daughter was frozen, absolutely stunned, and I
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    lost it. I rushed over, grabbed her, and told Chad he needed to back off. He just stood there smirking, acting like he'd done nothing wrong. I stormed out with my daughter and told my mom that we were never coming back to that studio.
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    Now my mom is furious at me, saying I'm being too dramatic, and my grandma keeps signing, "He had good energy, you should've let it go." AITA for pulling my daughter out? Because I feel like this went way beyond just a yoga class.
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    KateNotEdwina Ohh I no! You go make a complaint. If there is no one to complain to make a google review and say exactly what you say here. A forty year old getting handsy with a teenager. Don't let it go!
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    No-Caterpillar3637 OP I will!
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    _bexcalibur 23h ago Grandma is from that "any male attention is good male attention" generation. Ignore her bulls
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    Low-maintenancegal I've never understood women who encouraged you to take it as a compliment. Like, you really think a teenager should be doing cartwheels that middle aged men are hitting on them??
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    Aleriya It comes from the time period where women only had value if they appealed to men. From the perspective of that generation, it's good to get hit on by men (any men) because it means you have value and have a future. In that era, women weren't able to live independently (h I, women in the US couldn't even open a bank account until 1974), and the only real alternatives to getting hit on by creepy guys were to get married or to become a nun.
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    Mnemosyne Thalia This is pretty accurate. My nana is 95 and while she supports whatever her granddaughters and great granddaughters do with their lives, they need to do it while looking good and fit. Growing up there were more times than I can count where I heard I needed to put more effort into my looks and losing weight because "who's going to want you looking like that". I understand saying and doing those things to kids (I was 9 or 10 when those comments started) was pretty messed up but in
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    Feeling-Motor-104 Grandma's been 20 years since she probably last had attractive male attention, she's projecting how much she wishes it were her.
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    Stray1_cat Please post about this on every social media you can so young women can be aware of this. Because . He's disgusting. Is there management to tell? Also I assume the yoga community is small, other studios need to know what kind of instructor they'd be hiring if this guy applies to another place
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    squisher_1980 NTA. That description has the hair on the back of my neck standing on end. Minimally? Report him to the studio/gym or whatever he was at. Maximally? Well... I'd be lucky to walk out of that situation with just a misdemeanor. Jussayin.
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    No-Caterpillar3637 OP I totally agree, it gave me chills too. I'm definitely reporting it to the studio, and if they don't take it seriously, I'll go further. Posting this made me realise how serious this actually is
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    Acceptable-Bell142 A few days ago, the former head of the Spanish Football Association was convicted of SA for forcibly kissing a female footballer.
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    According Pie3971 Also I know she is young and probably froze and she shouldn't have to learn this but tell your daughter if she's ever uncomfortable with anything someone is doing to loudly shout. No Don't touch me. Stay away from me Tell her if she ever feels uncomfortable to draw attention to herself in any way she can.
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    It's wrong that we women have to do this but. The moment she felt uncomfortable something should have been done. Also look at self defence classes they will teach her some confidence as well as give her actual skills to deal with men like him. Go full scorched earth. The smirk is a huge red flag that is comfortable making a young woman feel uncomfortable and heaven forbid the poor woman who gets caught alone with him.
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    Wonderful_Donut7996 NTA. A 40-something yoga instructor preying on a 19- year-old in front of her mother? That's not 'good energy,' that's predatory behavior. Your mom and grandma might be charmed, but your daughter was uncomfortable, and that's all that matters. You did the right thing.
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    Girl_mama_2023 NTA. At all. Ever. This is something I will go FULL mama bear mode on. Also, Mom needs to understand that is predatory behavior. Excusing it doesn't keep anyone safe.
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    UPDATE: Thank you all for your support. This morning, I met the studio owner for the first time to discuss all of this. She apologized sincerely and admitted that Chad's behavior had been excessively insistent, not only with my daughter but even with her on previous occasions(she
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    seemed very young herself). She assured me that she finds his actions completely unacceptable and plans to fire him as soon as possible. I'm relieved that the issue is finally being taken seriously and will keep you updated.

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