Woman cuts contact with 16-year-old and her father after finding out he cheated, he guilts his ex into continuing material investments and gifts for his daughter: “She’s just a teenager”

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    AITA for cutting his daughter off and taking away the things I was doing for her after she had some type of relationship with the woman her father cheated with?

    "She shouldn't have to pay for my mistakes"
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    I (F29) usually stay with my boyfriend Karl M38 on weekends. He lives with his daughter (F16) when she's in due to joint custody. He works a job that he hates because he has no opportunities for growing his career, so 7 months ago, he started a company with an associate (Gaby F35). She's definitely successful and
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    knowledgeable so my concern was what would happen if she ever decided to cut him off. I'm mentioning this because his contribution to their association was to bring clients but not technical or anything.
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    For the past 5 months, he stayed out late while working on their plans. I never had any reason for doubt or suspicion until he went to meet her on a Sunday afternoon. I didn't say anything because I know starting a business requires lots of effort but it's odd to allow an associate to interfere with family life.
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    2 weekends ago, she showed up and berated him for cheating on her. We were hanging out at his place with his 2 brothers, MIL, his daughter and SIL. Gaby showed up knocking at the door while Karl was in the shower. I started getting weirded out when his family seemed hesitant to answer the door. His brother finally went to
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    talk to her but she walked past him and confronted me. She asked about our relationship. I'll admit that I was a bit rode because I got defensive. His other brother went to get Karl and it all turned into a sh show. At this point, I'm disgusted and I don't know who was the real girlfriend and who was the side chick. Also, it's worth
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    noting that she accused his family of betraying her. Karl remained vague when I demanded some answers and I felt like slapping him but I controlled myself. She stormed out after an ugly exchange. I broke up with him that same day and haven't been able to find my way back into a good mental state. I can't believe
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    anything he says so whatever he explains will be a lie.
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    This is where I might be the a hole: I made the decision to pull my support for his daughter. I had been paying for a makeup subscription box but canceled it. She was getting her prom dress as a loan from a friend of mine who has 4 girls. I told my friend what happened and we agreed that his daughter doesn't deserve any of
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    my help. I also kicked them both out of my streaming services and will not help with the history school project nor will I keep her in my magazine subscription plan.
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    Karl reached out trying to discuss what I'm doing about his daughter. He said she's just a teenager and she shouldn't pay for "his mistakes". I agree that she has no power to keep him from doing bad things nor to keep him from being a liar. And I know that she wouldn't be in a position to tell/warn me that her Dad was cheating. But,
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    she's almost 17 (next month) and she's very mature and she's definitely capable of telling right from wrong, and she had ZERO problems getting stuff and receiving help and favors from me and was comfortable asking for things. She's not a brat or the demanding type. She low key asked for stuff and I was happy to
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    help. I'm sure she also benefited from Gaby because it makes sense since I'm under the impression that Gaby was no stranger to her either. I told him "let Gaby do it" and he tried to complain about how Gaby "vandalized" their website. She took their page down and all it shows is a black screen. He says
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    she locked him out of all the logins and supposedly had all her contacts block him. The only thing giving a little joy right know is imagining him n ked and holding his bills out in the cold. AITA? My friends are divided over this, not because of him but because they say she's just a teenager.
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    NextAffect8373 • 18h ago Please just block him and his ENTIRE family - they all knew and nobody told you ΝΤΑ
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    ZippyTheUnicorn • 18h ago It s ks, but why would you continue to help out someone else's kid? Tell the Karl that she's not your kid, so maybe her father should start paying for some of this stuff so she doesn't feel like she's being
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    punished. Block him. It's not her fault, but it's not your responsibility either.
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    • AdAccomplished68... 18h ago Just block everyone and move on. This mess is 100% on Karl, and if he doesn't want his daughter to suffer, it is up to him to find ways to fill the gaps left after he drove you off. NTA, you didn't raise
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    Gaby, you aren't her mom, you probably knew her only a few years. You were helping her as part of your relationship with him. You no longer have a relationship with him.
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    tigerofjiangdong1... • 18h ago NTA honestly its ks his daughter was caught in the crossfire but if it were me I would make a total clean break which means both of them. Block cheating POS and move on.
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    It's his kid, let him figure it out. She has a mother. Not your circus not your monkeys.
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    findingmoore 18h ago Your biggest obligation is to yourself You need to stay healthy No toxicity

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