“Men think a woman's NO is just the start of 'negotiations'”: Woman refuses to pivot on her stance on having children, her boyfriend’s family gets involved and calls her selfish

Men, women, children, and anyone else gather round. It's truly awing how many couples get together, date for years, or even get married without having fundamental discussions about what they actually want from the relationship, or from their own individual lives. I spoke with a friend the other day who just started couples therapy with a guy she's been with for 7 years. She said that the more they talk about what they actually want in therapy, she's realizing they don't want the same things from life, from each other, or from the relationship. How are you still in your 20s, dating someone for nearly a decade, no proposal or engagement, and just realizing you have no compatibility with this person?

I don't fully blame her. I've made my fair share of relationship mistakes and poor decisions, but I'd rather be single and live my life how I want than be tethered to someone I don't even like, and has completely different visions of the future than I do.

In the story below, the issue is that of having children. Spoiler: he wants, and she doesn't, just to keep things spicy. He thinks she'll change, and he assumes he'll drop it. Well, they were both wrong, to the point where his family even gets involved.

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AITA for Refusing to Have Kids Even Though My Boyfriend Wants Them?

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It's kind of shocking how they just kept dating with this stipulation hanging over their heads. I guess they're young, so settling down isn't on the forefront of their minds. I do wonder about their relationship experience, or dating trajectory. It seems crazy to keep dating someone knowing they have a fundamental difference. it's not something people usually swing on, and if they do it probably means a future of resentment together.
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