“They only want a family vacation if my wife and I pay”: Man excludes sister-in-law from family vacation and insists on taking only the kids to save money, she blows up at him and demands to come as well

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Mar 11, 2025 5:00 PM EDT

Welcome ladies and gentlemen of the internet. "Money, get away. Get a good job with more pay and you're okay." Who else is  a big Pink Floyd fan? They certainly have some great lyrics and dreamy ambient atmosphere to one of their hit songs, "Money," off of their 1973 album Dark Side of the Moon. I once drove out of Joshua Tree, California in the desert rains blasting that album with all the windows down. But that's besides the point. Money really does make the world go round. Everyone needs it, everyone wants it, and it's one thing that you can't get enough of. There's no such thing as "too much money," unless you're a greedy billionaire who uses the money to exploit or hurt others. But most people don't have the kind of money to use it like that. 

In the story below, money is intermingled with family relations. Unfortunately, love has its issues, and it's not a straightforward emotion. Conditional love can be enormously affected by the influence of assets, so be careful who you lend or owe money too. Read the full story below for all the juicy details.  

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  • 01

    AITAH for only offering to take my wife's niece and nephew on vacation with our family and vehemently excluding my sister-in-law and her husband.

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    Last year I thought I would do a nice thing and take my sister-in- law and her family do Disney World with my family.
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    It turned into a sh show because I didn't put them up at the same resort as my family stayed at. We stayed at the Grand Floridian and I put them up at a very nice hotel at Disney Springs. I also aid for their flights, park tickets, and some meals. CO ID was hard on them and I thought I was doing something nice. They went because I didn't let them stay with us.
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  • 04
    Anyways this year we are going to Los Angeles to do all the touristy stuff there. Only two days at Disneyland but it is a much smaller park. We are doing a bunch of other stuff.
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  • 05
    Our kids love their cousins and wanted them along. I talked to my wife and we agreed to bring just the kids. I did not want a repeat of last year. We talked to her sister and her husband and we asked if we could bring the kids with us.
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    And it was a sh show. They wanted to know why they weren't invited. So I said that they were of course welcome to join us but that I would not be paying for anything for them. They had to pay for their own flights, their own hotel, their own food, their own everything.
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    That wasn't acceptable to them. They wanted to vacation together as a family. I asked them what they had planned for their vacation this summer. They had no plans to go anywhere. They only want a family vacation if my wife and I pay.
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    We were smart enough not to talk to them in front of their kids. And our kids were told explicitly not to tell their cousins they might get to come with us.
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    So we withdrew the offer and told our kids that their cousins would not be joining us. They were disappointed but they understood.
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    My in-laws are ped that we tried to give their kids a cool experience without them. I thought that we were just doing something nice and avoiding the issue of having the kids at different hotels.
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    I am very sure that I'm not wrong. But a few people said I was an ah le last time I asked so I thought I would check to see if I'm missing something.
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    No_Lavishness_3... NTA. I went and read your last post. Those people are leeches and you don't owe them anything. Go enjoy your vacation with your kids. It's their own fault their kids won't get a cool experience.
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  • 14
    Wrong_Moose_9... Stop offering ANYTHING to the greedy grabby in-laws. It will never turn out the way you think it will, because they will always be, guess what the greedy grabby in- laws. NTA
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    Beneficial-Ball83... ΝΤΑ I just wonder: Is your wife not embarassed to... like a selfcombusting degree? If my sister would EVER complain (!!!) about a trip, me and my husband funded 100% (or even 90 or 75%) | would rip her a new one.
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    Also, I would never ever not for one teeny tiny second let her believe, I would pay for anything ever again. The audacity!
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  • 17
    Simple Cheek2705 NTA. Bunch of free-loaders. Along the lines of "beggars can't be choosers". They're not begging, but getting offered something for free is up to the giver to decide what is in their capacity. Huge red flag your in-laws.
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    [deleted] NTA, your in-laws are choosing beggars. It's a nice gesture to want to take their kids, but what nonsense is it that they want to also go without paying their way. They are ruining things for their own kids.
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    Whichever flying monkeys are calling you an AH, are the same people who would never offer the same. They can go pound sand. You bil and sil are pathetic
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    CrankyNurse68 I promise not to b wherever you put me if you pay for a trip to Disney
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  • 22
    Fredredphooey NTA. If you gave them a free vacation with you at the Grand Floridian they would complain that you didn't get them a suite or VIP passes. They will always move the goal posts.
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  • 23
    HottiexXxAngel NTA. Based on the previous experience, it's reasonable to only want to bring the children to avoid potential conflict and financial burden. You offered them the opportunity to join on their own dime, and it's not your responsibility to fund their vacation.
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