Neighbor regrets allowing entitled kids to use their swimming pool after they keep breaking the rules, decides to revoke their access: ‘I told them to get out’

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Bar Mor Hazut • Senior Editor
Mar 18, 2025 10:00 AM EDT

One makes a lot of poor choices when one tries to be a good person.

Not to say you shouldn't try to be a good person, the world is definitely better when people do that, it's just that you should at least expect people to take advantage of your kindness. If you're too nice, it is only a matter of time before you come to regret it, and I'm quite sure it's not just the cynic in me who thinks that. 

Those of us who always put others' needs first know what I'm talking about. Being a nice person, who goes out of their way to make people happy, always comes with a price. And that price is usually being collected by the same people you tried to make happy. The only way to avoid that, is by monitoring your kindness, as silly as it may sound. Don't give away too much, and learn how to say no from time to time.

Which is exactly what the person who wrote the story below should have said to their Karen neighbor.

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  • If you have a pool, you are probably used to people taking advantage of it. Usually, the requests to use your pool would come from your friends and family, people you know and care about. But other times, you will find yourself standing in front of a neighbor you never talked to before, who wants you to let her kids use the pool whenever they want to.

    Which leads you, the kind of person who wants to make others happy, to actually say yes. And boy oh boy, do you regret that later.

    Keep scrolling to read what happens next.

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    "AITA for Refusing to Let My Neighbor’s Kids Use My Pool After They Kept Ignoring My Rules?"

    When I bought my house last year, one of the things I was most excited about was the pool. I take care of it, I pay for the upkeep, and now that summer's here, I've been. using it almost every day.
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    A few weeks ago, my neighbor Karen asked if her kids (8, 10, and 12) could use my pool since they don't have one. I wasn't thrilled about the idea, but I agreed as long as
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    they followed a few simple rules ask before coming over, have an adult present, and don't trash the pool or try to sneak in when I'm not home.
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    At first, it was fine. The kids would swim, have fun, and leave. But then, little things started happening. I caught them in my backyard without permission. One day, I came
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    home from work and found them swimming alone, no adults in sight. Another time, they were throwing food into the pool. I brought it up to Karen, and she just brushed it
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    off, saying, Oh, they just got excited. She promised it wouldn't happen again. It did. The final straw was last Saturday. I woke up early, stepped outside, and there
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    they were in my pool again, completely unsupervised. That was it. I told them to get out and went straight to Karen's house. I told her her kids were no longer allowed in my pool.
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    She flipped out, calling me dramatic and selfish because it's just a pool, and they're just kids having fun. But I don't care. It's my property, my responsibility, and I gave them more than enough chances. If
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    I can't trust them to respect my rules, why should I keep letting them in? Now some neighbors think I'm being harsh, but honestly,
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    how many chances was I supposed to give? Am I really the bad guy for not wanting to deal with this anymore? AITA?
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    pupsymomma NTA - time to put a lock on the gate and install cameras along with a sign saying no trespassing or private property to cover yourself in case something does happen.
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    Quick-Store2989 NOPE.....one of those kids get hurt or drowned you would be legally liable 100% make no mistake. I wouldn't let them swim even with adult supervision that wasn't you.
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    Fantastic_Mechanic73 NTA your pool, your property, your rules. Your neighbors are entitled jerks that need a clear dose of reality. She can take them to the YMCA if they need to go swimming that badly
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    princesspurrito36 Get no trespassing signs and likely a camera. They won't stop. Nta
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    Prior Pomegranate960 Tell them your insurance policy prohibits unsupervised minors.
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    AlternativeSort7253 NTA basic liability. They have pool alarms also that will set up a crazy loud siren if the surface of the pool is disturbed while on. Might be a good investment.
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    You need to have a locked gate around the entire pool, depending on where you live that may be law. If anything goes wrong with the kids in that pool she will sue without a thought so you should check. Good luck.
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    Suitable-Park 184 I would text you neighbor. Make sure you have a documented record showing her kids are not allowed to use your pool. Kids swimming unsupervised is a huge risk.
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    Here_IGuess ΝΤΑ You shouldn't have said yes in the first place. You don't need to be legally responsible (& you will be) for anything dangerous that happens to these other people while they're on your property.
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