29-year-old man cancels wedding via text over fragile ego, letting his 23-year-old fiancée escape a life of insecure drama

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  • "AITAH: Fiancé called off the wedding after I yelled back"

    "A real man wouldn't leave his fiancée crying in a bridal shop and then ask her for rent money"
  • My fiancé (29M) and I (23F) were supposed to get married in May 2026. We had a loving relationship (or so I thought), but we struggled with communication. Whenever I
  • expressed concerns or hurt, he'd take it as an attack and raise his voice. Recently, he'd started saying things like, "WHAT TONE? YOU'RE JUST TOO SENSITIVE."
  • The morning of my bridal appointment, I woke up in our apartment and couldn't immediately find him. After calling his phone, I found him in the bathroom so I waited. About
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  • 15 minutes later, I really had to pee and asked him to hurry, only for him to casually say he'd been done for a while but was just watching a 45-minute YouTube
  • video. I was frustrated and told him it felt inconsiderate for him to use our only restroom for TV or leisure when I was on the
  • verge of an accident. He got defensive, saying he had headphones in and didn't hear me calling him.
  • I tried to explain that it hurt my feelings when he didn't consider me, but he started yelling saying I always ruin his day and ¸______ him . off. I repeatedly asked him to stop, but he wouldn't. I finally
  • snapped and yelled back, "I asked you to stop yelling at me BEFORE I YELL BACK BECAUSE I DIDNT WANT TO FIGHT IN THE FIRST PLACE". After I yelled, I
  • immediately started apologizing and taking it back but he just said "I'm leaving". This was 30 minutes before my fitting.
  • While I was trying on my wedding dress, he texted me calling off the wedding (see screenshot). I collapsed in the shop, devastated. When I got home, I told him that
  • if we both took accountability and worked on our relationship, we could still be happy. He coldly responded:
  • 8:42 426 AT No I don't care ... 56 5 Are you still taking me to my appointment? Can I still go? Baby? When are you coming home Did you tell your mom not to come or can I still expect her? Nope she's not coming You left your ring behind... was that intentional? Yesterday 2:17 PM I'm about to order the dress, I'll be home in a bit Don't even bother The wedding is off + iMessage
  • "I don't want to be with you. I don't want to marry you. I love you, but I'm not willing to try."
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  • I begged him not to throw away our future, telling him he was my best friend. His response?
  • "Well... friends come and go."
  • Then I noticed he had a voice memo recording. He admitted he was recording our breakup "to cover [his] a in case [I] lie and
  • say [he] did something." I think it was advice that his parents gave him that he took to heart. That hurt more than anything.
  • I told him he could keep the apartment since I planned to move back to my home state.
  • The next day, I stopped by with my best friend to grab clothes. He pulled me aside and said: "You can still come home if you want. I don't mind sleeping on the
  • couch... also, you are still paying your part of April rent, right? | mean, you ARE still on the lease."
  • I should also mention that his sister pulled me aside a few months ago to warn me that their whole family thinks my fiancé has
  • undiagnosed bipolar disorder that he is not willing to acknowledge, accept, or treat. I didn't believe her at the time.
  • So, AITAH for yelling back after being pushed to my breaking point? Because on one hand, I'm watching the future we built crumble before my eyes. On the
  • other hand, I don't think a real man would leave his fiancée crying in a bridal shop and then ask her for rent money.
  • Superb_Remote_8437 ΝΤΑ I think you dodge a massive bullet. It's a blessing that it is over. I don't agree that you are both in the wrong.
  • Usual-Canary-7764 Dodged a bullet with that one. NTA. Go heal and find your person OP
  • Carambola80 I hope you didn't pay the rent or give back the ring. NTA unless you go back. I had that same type of AH (for 10 yrs)- "you always ruin my day/mood" never improves and you're truly going to feel so good once you've fully severed ties. He's not your best friend. He's not even your worst friend, he's birdshit on the windshield of your life. Time to wipe him off
  • Jackie Rogers34810 Yeah, unfortunately it sounds like he doesn't even like you. NTA

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