25-year-old expectant mother refuses to involve parents in her baby's life because they prioritized her sister's torturous friend over her for years: ‘[I] made it clear’

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Lana DeGaetano • "Show me to me please."
Mar 30, 2025 1:00 PM EDT

Big sisters will tease their younger sisters—that's a given. In a perfect world, all siblings would run around holding hands and join together to sing a happy hymn. That, my friends, is not reality. This is especially true when a big sister gets a bestie… Then, all heck breaks loose.

That big sister teasing turns into big sister b*llying, and then their precious friend joins in on the "fun". Though just children, these habits can sprout into ill manners and worse. The then-child, now-25-year-old woman in this next story was the little sister. Her mother never defended her against her big sister and best friend's wrath, at least not in any meaningful way.

What's worse is that when she decided to stop all contact with her mother after years of emotional b*llying, it was because she had to tell her mother to stop trying to be a grandparent to her soon-to-be-born baby. That's not going to fly here, Mom. Instead, the woman tells her mom to get lost… Mom does not take this lightly.

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  • A woman's pregnancy is one of the most beautiful yet stressful times in their life. The last thing the mom-to-be in this story needs is her spineless mother trying to be there after years of neglect and torment she let slide.

  • "My parents knew and they did nothing"
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  • "AITA for not letting my parents to be involved grandparents because they chose my sister's friend over me?"

    I'm (25f) pregnant with my first child and only a few weeks ago my estranged parents found out about my pregnancy from someone I know back in my home town. They reached out so
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  • excited to find out they were going to be grandparents and wanting to be involved but I ignored them and continued ignoring them until two days ago
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  • when I replied one time and made it clear they will never know my child or be in our lives and that I wanted them to stop contacting me. This was all via email btw.
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  • Let me get into some background. I have an older sister Sam (28) and she had a best friend Luna. Sam and Luna met in pre-k and became fast friends. Luna was over at our house all
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  • the time and eventually she started saying really awful things to me and buying me. She called me names, mocked me whenever I asked if I could spend time with
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  • her and Sam, threw stuff at me when she'd see me and even made a game out of spitting at me and seeing how many times she could hit me.
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  • My parents knew and they did nothing but once I was 7 they sat me down and told me that Luna had a bad time at home and she was mean but she needed us and I needed to understand. And how Luna was so important to Sam and she would grow up into a better person if we didn't abandon her.
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  • She used to come along to extended family parties and dinners. I remember one time mom's side was all meeting up and because my parents didn't say Luna was coming we were a
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  • chair short for a bit. Luna took the chair and then said there was no room for me at the table just like there wasn't room for me anywhere and I should cry in a corner somewhere. Mom's family
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  • were horrified and I started to cry. I was like 9 by then. My grandparents ended up leaving the table and getting one for just the three of us and they spoiled me while they refused to pay for a single thing Luna consumed.
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  • They asked me what was going on too and I told them EVERYTHING. Afterward my parents got so much sh from mom's side of the family and my mom's parents contacted my dad's parents and they were shamed by both sides.
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  • When they had enough of that my parents told Sam that Luna needed to come over less or she needed to be nicer. They sorta stuck to that for a while. My
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  • grandparents checked in on me weekly to see if my parents were "letting that spoiled little madam into the house to ab e me" and I think that was the deterrent for my parents.
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  • But then when I was 12 my parents let Luna move in with us. They said her home situation was worse and she was going to apologize and we were going to make sure she felt wanted and
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  • welcome with us. I got a "sorry, I guess" from her but I could hear her making fun of me to Sam whenever me and my parents weren't around. She'd laugh about how I looked betrayed when my parents told me she was moving in. She found it hilarious.
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  • I think you can see whose side Sam was always on. I lived like that for a little over a year before it got to be too much and I told my grandparents Luna was living with us. They went
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  • ballistic on my parents and after weeks or months of fighting about it my grandparents insisted I was going to move in with them. My parents protested against it but my grandparents said they
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  • couldn't be trusted to take care of me. My parents wouldn't kick out Luna for me so yeah. I lived with my grandparents the rest of that time and I actually live in the same neighborhood as them with my partner now.
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  • I actually had zero contact once I moved in with my grandparents. These emails were the first contact in more than a decade. My parents keep replying to that one email. I got like four within a few minutes about an hour after I sent it and they're telling me I'm taking this too far and they said Luna isn't even in the picture anymore. AITA?
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  • Ok-Preference-712 Well well well the consequence train is right on time isn't it. Guess Sam took the kicking after you left. What is the saying f around and find out. Your parents have and you get to live a happy life without them
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  • Eastern_Condition863 "they said Luna isn't even in the picture anymore." This is the part that rips my heart out. Luna isn't even around anymore and they still didn't contact you? That's ed up. NC forever.
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