Woman asserts double standards on boyfriend when demands he end friendship with female coworker, but refuses to do the same for him years down the line: “I expressed my discomfort and nothing has changed”

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Apr 1, 2025 2:00 PM EDT

Jealousy creeps up on all of us. Even when we think we're in the best, healthiest, most stable relationship of our lives, and we've finally found the one to make us feel absolutely and completely safe and secure, it's only human that we should feel jealousy's scathing sting now and again. Maybe you had something happen in the past, and even if your partner is doing everything perfectly, it's difficult to see things for what they are. Mabye your partner did something, said something that just rubbed you the wrong way, and now you can't forget it. Maybe someone else, a third party was the trigger and now you are having some issues with your partner that neither of you expected. Anything could happen at any tome, but it's how your partner handles things, it's how that decide to treat you in relation to the issues, instead of shaming you for having the feelings to begin with. 

In the story below, the protagonist becomes friends with a coworker, a female. His girlfriend demands they end their friendship out of jealousy, but she doesn't do the same for him, unfortunately. Read the full story below for all the juicy details. 

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    AITAH for breaking up with my gf because she refuses to cut off guy friend after I did the same for her?

    "Rule for thee, but not for me!"
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    Some years back, I had a new co worker join our office. She was cool and actually pretty nerdy. We started gaming together. My gf expressed clear discomfort over this. It was a bit of fight, and eventually I agreed to stop spending time with my new co worker outside of work. My gf was very happy with this
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  • This woman has some serious double standards. I hate to say it, but it should have been a red flag in the beginning that she forced him to end his friendship with a female coworker just because she's a female. Unless he did something to make her think that, then I wonder why it mattered that she was female. 

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    Now, recently, my gf met a new guy friend. He's a cousin of one of her current friends. And they have been spending a lot of time together. I expressed my discomfort with this and nothing has changed. My gf insists that nothing is happening, much like how I did.
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    After talking to her one last time, I had enough. Enough of her spending time with this dude, and enough of her refusing to do anything despite asking me to.
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    I broke up with her, and I reminded her of what she asked of me all those years back.
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    monicrain • 18h ago You didn't break up over a guy friend. You broke up because she didn't respect you the way you respected her. That's a valid reason.
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    • kayakingkitty 17h ago NTA. How can she ask you to do something that she herself refuses to do? And the fact that she's pretty much putting this guy over you and your relationship is a huge red flag.
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    NewshoundDad • 17h ago NTA. "Rules for thee but not for me!"
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    • lowkeylye 17h ago keep us updated for when she starts dating him.
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    Wolverine97and23 18h ago • NTA! She is a control freak. You do what she says, ignore what she does. Good call.
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    Cautious_Clue_78... • 18h ago NTA. She was obviously hypocritical. Also you can break up with anyone for any reason.
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    Aubrey_RoseDan... • 18h ago You played by her rules, and she switched up when it was her turn. Sounds like you dodged a hypocrite, my guy.
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    P1g-San 18h ago You can literally break up with her just because she puts the toilet paper on the wrong way. Yes you're not a ahle because she broke boundaries.
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    Jdanois 18h ago NTA. It made you uncomfortable and it looks like you two drew boundaries early in your relationship. She chose to cross those boundaries despite your objections and you held her accountable.
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    Good for you.
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    Salt-Werewolf8926 • 18h ago NTA. She can't ask something of you and refuse. to return the courtesy.
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    • Engineering Ok18... 18h ago Good for you mate! She knew what she was doing and she had to face the consequences.
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    Divine Tarot 17h ago ΝΤΑ If someone is going to be in the business of expecting their partner to limit their friendships based off gender
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    than they should expect to be held to the same standard.
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    thebaronobeefdip • 17h ago NTA. Good for you for having a backbone and not putting up with her bulls
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