Daughter cuts off mom without explanation, only to reach out 6 years later asking for financial support, mom refuses: ‘If you can cut me off, I can do the same to you’

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Bar Mor Hazut • Senior Editor
Apr 10, 2025 9:00 PM EDT

Sometimes unexpected things happen without explanation, and there is not much you can do about it, especially when it comes to relationships with other people. 

You can have a great relationship with a friend, a family member, or a romantic partner, but if they one day decide they are not interested in keeping up with that connection, well, there is nothing you can do to stop them from ending it. If the other side is not interested, it is their right, but it does mean that you might be left with a big hole in your heart and without a lot of closure.

What you can do, however, is decide how your life looks without them. You can keep pinning for them, and mourn the loss of that relationship, or you can move on and open yourself up to new people. It is all up to you, and no one can take that away from you.

Which is what the mom in the story below decided to do.

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  • After her loving daughter decided to cut her off out of the blue, this mom was left quite heartbroken. She loved her daughter and did not understand what she did to deserve being cut off the way that she did.

    However, this mom decided to move on with her life, and now, six years later, her daughter all of a sudden reaches out. But just because the daughter wants to rekindle the relationship, it doesn't mean it will actually happen, which is exactly what her mom told her.

    Keep scrolling to read the rest of the story.

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  • "Aita for not wanting my daughter in my life after SHE cut me off for 6 years"

    My late husband p ed away when my daughter Nelly was just five years old, and I had her when I was 17. I remarried Benz when Nelly was ten. For the first five years of our
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  • relationship, I focused on Nelly and continued to prioritize her well-being throughout my marriage to Benz. While my husband expressed a desire for children
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  • soon after we married, I made it clear that I preferred to wait until Nelly turned 18. I wanted to ensure that she never felt abandoned or replaced. For thirteen years, Benz respected
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  • my decision and, despite being childfree, never voiced any complaints. He has always been supportive of my relationship with Nelly, understanding that
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  • he could never replace her father. Once Nelly turned 18, our family dynamic remained strong, and we all supported her when she met her fiancé. My late husband's parents
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  • took Benz in and respected him a lot for not wanting to "replace" their son. At my daughter's wedding she even gave a speech to my husband about how amazing he was and supportive and how she
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  • loved him, they acknowledged Benz in a heartfelt speach. However, after the wedding, Nelly unexpectedly cut off contact with us, we were so shocked, no explanation as to why just silently after she told
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  • us she never wanted to see us again. Though we were hurt, I asked my late husband's parents to continue supporting her without pressuring her to reconnect with us.
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  • Nelly went on to have two children but did not reach out to us, and despite our attempts to contact her during the first two years of her no- contact decision, we eventually stopped and we
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  • dropped contact from our end too. During that time, Benz and I welcomed a four-year- old daughter and a three- year-old son into our family. Benz has never been happier, as he always wanted biological
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  • children, even though he loved raising my daughter. I got a message last Sunday from a number stating that my daughter might reach out in the coming days and said that
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  • he ( i did not know it was a man then) hopes "ill be smart enough not to let her back in". Then, I received a call from my late husband's in-laws, who informed me that Nelly's husband had cheated on her
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  • and was leaving her for his mistress and she was all alone. I was shocked by the news, as he had seemed devoted to her. I asked my ex-mother-in- law to convey my support to Nelly during this difficult time.
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  • Im sure she then told my daughter this because my daughter reached out AFTER my ex mil gave her my number and the first thing she said was "mom, I don't know how i'm going to take care of
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  • my kids alone" not a hello, or even a "sorry for cutting you off" ect. I asked her what she wanted me to do about that and she told me that she needed financial help, lol sorry but i actually laughed and she
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  • then went on to say that my "grandkids" had just lost their father and i could not be bothered by them. I got so mad when she said that and i told her very calmly that she cut ME off for
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  • no reason and asked her why she cut me off, she couldnt even give me a reason. I told her that i don't normally discourage people from cutting off their parents if they absolutely need to and told
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  • her that the same goes for parents. I told her that it can't just be ok for ONE set of adults in the family to cut the other off and the other cant. In the end, before I told her that HER kids are not my
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  • responsibility, I don't know her kids and I have no emotional ties to them because of her. Its sad but the way i feel about my grandkids is the way you would feel caring about a random celebrity kids and
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  • thats so sad. I ended up telling her to please not contact me and that she chose to go NC, i told her that i had a life and i was NOT willing to bring her into that life, near her siblings only for her to cut
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  • me off and HER kid siblings off whenever she felt like it and kindly told her to not call back. Aita for not giving her money and not helping her out financially after she cut me off for 6 years.
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  • choodleficken She cut you off for six years without explanation, and now expects financial help with no apology. You don't owe her anything. She needs to take responsibility for her actions first.
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  • CajunPlunderer I will be in the minority here, but you were cut off for a reason (I'm not automatically blaming YOU). I'd want to know why before making any decisions. This is, after all, your baby. Otherwise, you are both adults, and you are entirely in the right.
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  • Narrow-Big-8612 Did she cut you right after she got married? Because maybe her ex wanted to isolate her from her support?
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  • WomanInQuestion NTA if she didn't need money, she - would never have contacted you. It's your bank account she wants to reconnect with.
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